I'm 39, married, with two sons. I'm having an affair (eight months) with a married man, 55, with two daughters.

We were happy with our relationship, but recently, he changed - I feel he is dishonest and insincere.

He confided he'd had two previous illicit affairs in his past. I started to realize that, since he's changed, I'm also a victim. Then, he showed me a picture and video of me while we're having sex. I got very upset asking why he did it, and revenged him through calling his friend and repeating what he told me about his affairs.

She was so upset that she told his wife. Now my boyfriend and his wife are very angry with me. He confessed to our affair. However, I'm six weeks pregnant and my boyfriend's yelling at me and he refuses to stand his responsibility to our baby! What should I do?

Big Trouble

You've participated fully in creating this mess, and may have to start digging out of it, yourself. Tell your husband of your pregnancy and hope he'll help you with the necessary decisions and steps. If you're very lucky, he's a better man than you've realized and will support you through the emotions of this period.

Get legal advice, somehow...even if you can't afford to see a lawyer, you can get information about paternity laws in your jurisdiction through the Internet, or visit a community legal clinic, to ask how to prove who's the baby's father and seek financial support.

Also, see your doctor immediately. No matter what steps you take, you need to be certain of the pregnancy and monitor your own and the baby's health.

I'm 34, dating a man for 15 months. We get along great, and he talks about moving in together. But, he won't discuss marriage. He's good to me, affectionate in public, we have a good sex life. But when I've occasionally said I love and want to marry him eventually, he changes the topic. What should I do?

Confused

Do NOT move in together until he can open up about what he needs - emotionally and/or practically - to at least consider marriage in the future. DO say that you can't share a home until you both agree on what it means.

My daughter, age two, has developed the habit of touching her neck then her face repeatedly, in the same order, throughout the day. My aunt suggested that she may have Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), but was just joking.

I'm concerned now because it's been going on for ten days. When I try to get her to stop, she gets frustrated and tries to rub her face against her shoulders. Is this something I should be concerned about or just a little quirk of hers?

Anxious Mom

Take note, Mom: Do NOT dwell on the passing remarks, jokes, or jabs from an uninformed person, about your child. Or you'll be chasing anxieties for the next 20 years!

Since your daughter is so young and therefore not likely to express herself, and since the activity is around her face, you should have your doctor check to see if she has an allergy that causes her to feel itchy, or some other source of irritation.

Otherwise, children DO have harmless and usually temporary "quirks" that last short or longer periods.... some that I've seen personally include nail-biting, blinking, lip-stretching, hair twirling. They can be annoying, yet can also prove harmless and unconnected to any disorder.

Two years ago, I had my ex-husband falsely arrested for assaulting my child, in the hopes of getting full custody. My claims were proved false and I was punished.

We now get along and I'm hoping to reconcile, but he's understandably hesitant. His family and friends, plus some of my family and friends, hate me for what I did.

If we don't reconcile, I want to live somewhere else, but my husband would never let me take my son.

Stuck in a Box

Whether or not he reconciles with you, stop feeling "stuck" and re-build relationships to the best of your ability, for your child's sake as much as your own.

Punishment was the legal process. Showing remorse, asking forgiveness, and displaying better judgment and kindness is the community route that's needed now. Do the work of trying to change their opinions, rather than depend on your ex to re-instate you.