Tip of the Day Archive
Working together to achieve your mutual dreams is what love is about, far more than an engagement ring.
Don’t stand by or withdraw help when children may be living in unsafe conditions or at serious risk of abuse/neglect/isolation.
Heard from a past fling? Respond that you’re busy.
A relationship’s end is an opportunity for self-reflection, confidence-boosting, and personal growth.
Shut out toxic gossipers and get help to heal yourself from an emotional loss.
A high-school relationship is a good time to learn not to let gossipers rule. Insist on knowing the truth.
A relationship winding down to the end of its run reveals a clear message: Time to move on.
Despite purposeful alienation of you, a parent, don’t give up reaching out to your children.
When a loved one’s in an emotional crisis, giving support is crucial for you to get through it together.
When an ugly incident divides a once-close family, healing the cause is as important as sharing the information.
When a porn-addicted partner suddenly stops a pattern of great sex in the marriage, the couple must finally confront the addiction.
Teenagers rejecting a parent post-divorce need gentle encouragement toward professional therapy.
Despite cracks in sibling relationships, try to reach out when a sibling’s suffering.
Dating site users do need to assess profiles in a self-interested way, for potential connection.
Men suffer pain and humiliation from a cheater, just as women do. We need more of their stories.
When a family-based problem is sure to cause unhappiness, seek small solutions first, then build to what works best.
Revealing an illicit affair (even anonymously) “helps” the betrayed spouse and the children to deal with it sooner.
If ready to cheat and risk all, first consider changing your own part in restless unhappiness.
When a sudden breakup has no obvious motive, it takes re-built self-confidence to be able to move on.
Infidelity’s painful to discover, creating a tough choice which only you can make.
Cheating while married or with a married person, always ends up hurting the betrayed spouse deeply.
When a marriage is breaking down, focus on your choices, not just blame.
Avoid too-much-information about a family member’s cheating. Encourage counselling so the couple confronts their problems.
A secret affair with a married partner insisting on no future together, usually ends in resentments.
Contact and visit frail elderly relatives to assure that their condition/care doesn’t require intervention.
Don’t let a rare, bad choice of cheating define you. Focus on the reasons, and change what you can.
It’s hard to accept that someone deceived you and cheated. But you can move on in time.
Introduce your post-divorce “friend” slowly and thoughtfully to your children, and your ex too, if sharing custody.
Never resort to threats or harassment.
If someone tries to cross the friendship line with your partner, present a united front against it.
If a couple can’t discuss their sex problem, they’re unlikely to stay together.
Do not accept a spouse’s repeated cheating and irresponsibility regarding your children.
Learn your own value, become self-protective, and avoid hangers-on. Therapy helps.
Finances can be a major battleground for couples. Negotiate from understanding and love, not control.
What is it that holds “opposites” together? Love, but only if boosted by mutual respect and shared core values.
When a relationship has you feeling insecure, counselling can reveal whether it comes from within you or him/her.
Late-age love is a gift to enjoy. But if it feels stolen, decide how you can best handle it.
When your feelings over a spouse’s opposite-sex friendships are ignored, try counselling on your own before a complicated divorce.
An ex-spouse’s dating post-divorce is his/her business. But if travelling, someone needs to know where.
There are many sides to why someone cheats – his, hers, the lover’s and the kids.’
When something’s new/odd/disturbing about your physical or mental health, seek experienced professional help.
Separating a family is a tough decision. But accepting physical/emotional abuse, fear, and cheating is worse.
It’s the clinging to family rifts that divide even the next generation. Reach across that gap wherever possible.
To have closeness with relatives, respect for each other’s needs and situations must be equal.
If there’s no physical attraction to your partner, you’re unlikely to stay committed or faithful.
Choosing a partner with commitments to his/her past loves builds relationship insecurities that’ll likely persist.
Meanness over money (especially when it’s available) can destroy a relationship.
Don’t rush your new “friend” into your children’s lives until you’ve thought out the best possible approaches.
Don’t seek a relationship when your life’s in flux. Focus on major challenges first.
Marriage has periods of hard work. Don’t be seduced by someone else playing fast and loose with your feelings.