Tip of the Day Archive

September 21, 2021

A controller and a freedom-lover, like a fish and a bird, can’t live together.

September 20, 2021

Recognize the wrong motives in a still-new friend’s request to borrow your most precious item.

September 18, 2021

Readers’ suggestions of books that deal with complex mother-daughter relationships are welcome.

September 17, 2021

When an ex-spouse botches plans of the happily-remarried co-parent, it’s the children that matter and the couple’s relationship.

September 16, 2021

Get help for a gambling addict, not money.

September 15, 2021

Don’t distrust a past partner’s positive appreciation of your personal growth during the pandemic. But insist on equal and shared commitment this time.

September 14, 2021

Delete the email bombardment of another’s political views. If asked directly, say you agree to disagree.

September 13, 2021

Teenage relationships are often more emotional during life’s changes. Focus on your goals, stay friends or take a break.

September 11, 2021

Don’t stigmatize women who’ve left husbands. Their reasons may benefit both spouses.

September 10, 2021

Long-lived relationships thrive on trust, respect, commitment, and seeking compromises over being right.

September 9, 2021

Creating “family” ties for children of divorce is a precious gift.

September 8, 2021

Don’t let an unapologetic determined cheater wear you down. Take charge of moving on for your and your children’s sakes.

September 7, 2021

A partner’s persistent negativity can drag everyone down – spouse, children, even adult siblings included.

September 6, 2021

Cheaters are either too cowardly to leave the marriage that’s not working or too arrogant to not realize they’ll be caught.


September 4, 2021

A mother who loves the limelight can be fun… until she’s not. Tell Mom it’s time for her grandkids to shine, and to encourage them.

September 3, 2021

Handle rifts/rudeness from young friends by listening, discussing or imposing a short break.

September 2, 2021

A devoted spouse’s caregiving is admirable. But some relief help is essential to maintaining energy for the task.

September 1, 2021

Where there’s hope for a scarred marriage to heal, focus on loving each other and your children’s security will follow.

August 31, 2021

Whatever your personal attitude on Covid precautions, engaging negatively with those who feel differently only adds to your own anxiety.

August 30, 2021

Rather than suffer a busybody’s intrusive monologues of gossip, state your disinterest and walk away.

August 28, 2021

When a marriage becomes a constant battleground, move on however possible. Protecting children and yourself is most important.

August 27, 2021

When pornography is the preferred partner in a relationship, love may not make it last.

August 26, 2021

Children of divorce benefit in security/comfort if parents become “divorce friends” who can attend family gatherings.

August 25, 2021

Every source of grief is hurtful. Focus on the strength and joys you have in the present.

August 24, 2021

When a close relative/friend is divorcing, be supportive. Wait till they settle before resuming friendship with their ex.

August 23, 2021

Divorced people with parenting responsibilities need increased awareness of children’s adjustment plus their own.

August 21, 2021

Enjoy your First Love. Give love unconditionally when the person and time is right.


August 20, 2021

When seeking counselling, research the types offered and the counsellor’s approach, to find the “right fit.”

August 19, 2021

Couples’ therapy can help a marriage thrive anew, together. Joining group sex instead, risks trust and respect.

August 18, 2021

Shy? Approach a potential date with a smile, a “Hello,” your name, and a simple comment. Build from there, slowly.

August 17, 2021

Separated/divorced parents owe children their right to a continued secure relationship with their other parent, if at all possible.

August 16, 2021

Even loving partners make foolish mistakes. Explain the hurt, then make peace.

August 14, 2021

Life experience in dating teaches strong lessons about who/what to trust in new relationships. Stay alert to signals from new people, especially those who move fast and up close.

August 13, 2021

Family members should be alert to divisive attitudes/actions that can destroy relationships between three generations.

August 12, 2021

When meeting new potential dates/friends. ask about their past highlights, current interests/hopes, and listen.

August 11, 2021

Family members’ off-putting habits are sometimes cries for help. Reach out. But with sheer rudeness, distance.

August 10, 2021

Worried about teens’ behaviour? Ask questions, listen, find help together.

August 9, 2021

Grown children who want to protect a dating parent need information about the parent’s own safety measures and goals, then back off.

August 7, 2021

Greet positive family revelations with gratitude and sensitivity.

August 6, 2021

Estrangement usually causes innocent children to lose out. Apologizing can open the door. Worth trying.

August 5, 2021

A miserable marriage warrants counselling, health checks, a trial separation. If nothing helps, move on.


August 4, 2021

Marriage won’t thrive without spouses’ efforts to hear/respect each other, discuss problems, share intimacy, feel loved.

August 3, 2021

Don’t give up on yourself due to a loveless marriage without partnership. Get legal advice and personal therapy.

August 2, 2021

Sometimes we must heal the relationship with ourselves before moving forward. Professional expertise is needed, e.g., psychology, psychiatry etc.

July 31, 2021

Distrust being swept up by excessive flattery and purposeful grooming for another’s wishes.

July 30, 2021

A vulnerable adult child still needs parental love/help.

July 29, 2021

Learn someone’s character one insight at a time.


July 28, 2021

The ages of 40s-through-50s can be a negative turning point for those who take their spouses for granted. Listen/discuss/speak love.

July 27, 2021

Couples usually want a partner’s support and empathy for issues that arise at the workplace or regarding their families. They don’t want instant solutions ordered by the other person.

July 26, 2021

When meeting new potential dates/friends, ask about their past highlights, current interests/hopes, and listen.

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