Tip of the Day Archive
If you’re the only one adapting to a loved one’s habits/tastes/activities, it’s a one-way give, not compromise.
If you keep going around in circles in the way you respond to life’s experiences, you get no farther ahead in understanding, wisdom and personal growth.
When a relationship’s unchanging, unacceptable negatives outweigh all the positives, end it.
Beware of love-bombing flattery and manipulation that leads towards control.
Advise teenagers that internet posts live on. But let them learn some lessons (barring risk of legal and physical danger).
The silent treatment often speaks volumes about a relationship ending, without ever being discussed.
Getting engaged is meant to be a public promise, not a stalling tactic. Don’t play fast and loose with your loved one’s patience.
Living with a perpetual cheater? Show him/her the door.
When to have sex with a new man? When you’re comfortable with your decision.
Caregiving is a full-time mission of responsibility for someone else’s needs. Take advantage of every possible community service and assistance.
A close relationship between brothers or sisters can provide needed support, by understanding/avoiding difficulties with the sibling’s spouse.
A relationship that one partner won’t acknowledge openly, will disappoint and hurt the other.
Divorce is tough on everyone involved. Parents and children can adjust but it takes time, effort, maturity, compassion for all.
Clear your possessions from an ex-partner’s home, ASAP. Delays complicate both approaches and reactions.
Don’t use a crisis affecting a divorced partner’s children, as the opportunity to push for marriage.
In some marriages, living without warmth or loving touch can be too lonely to warrant staying together.
Family sometimes makes too many demands. But showing your interest/support in small ways can help.
It isn’t a romantic “relationship” until both of you agree it is.
Don’t let a lover’s frozen emotions destroy your own openness, hopes, and future. Move on.
When a couple’s disagreement over one partner’s behaviour persists, and discussion and sex/intimacy end, their union (and family) are at risk of separation.
Sexual fantasies can enhance a couple’s relationship if shared. Acting on them secretly with others is just cheating.
Declaring mutual love with a married person is a step towards a family’s breakup, no matter how much you insist otherwise.
Harassment is unacceptable, worrisome, potentially dangerous. If it persists, seek legal and/or police help.
If a partner’s control creates isolation/depression, plan a safe exit, reach out to any family, and/or call police.
Boost online dating efforts by also meeting people and talking in person.
Romantic relationships kept secret for financial reasons, signals that person’s value of money more than of love.
If a friend’s partner expresses unwanted romantic feelings for you, give the couple time and space to re-connect without you.
A big lie may have a solid excuse, but it can only be forgiven once.
When someone you love has mental health issues, your understanding of their origins and fears is crucially needed.
Learn from your life experience. Two controlling, cheating partners? A third is unacceptable.
When a partner lies, trust dies, unless you see ongoing behaviour changes and openness.
Never proceed to divorce if you both believe you and your spouse can work things out.
Credit-card debt can add up beyond a financial problem to a behavioural disorder.
Neglecting a former love’s needs calls for sincere apologies, unpressured contact and a focus on the future.
Dwelling on past hurt, despite current evidence of love and devotion, makes even a “good life” feel hollow.
Family’s don’t have to love everyone’s marital choice. But decency calls for attending the wedding.
If you don’t set limits on a lover’s relationship controls, you’ll end up as the “transition” person instead of the partner.
Some parental “mistakes” cannot be reconciled with adult children, without gaining understanding through professional therapy.
When children are involved, a new relationship should build slowly and thoughtfully toward mutual commitment.
Mixed-faith marriages can work, between equal partners. But parents fearing coercion and controls are involved, must tread lightly to not push their child away.
With donor conceptions more common, everyone involved should consider whether openness is healthier than secrecy.
Parents who dismiss a youngster’s story of abuse and don’t investigate/report it, are complicit in the child’s trauma.
Unfounded accusations of cheating are often indicators of the accuser’s own guilt.
Dating is a process. It doesn’t start with “love” but can build to it.
Sexual fantasy pushed beyond the tolerance limit of your partner, can end your relationship
The more you accept belittling treatment, the more you’ll lose your self-confidence.
Unhappy couples have a better chance for hope through counselling than through diversion-seeking dating.
On big issues, compromise is more than tit-for-tat, but rather about emotional giving and receiving.
Never let a near stranger’s demeaning rude remarks define you.
Don’t fall for someone’s practiced cons.