Tip of the Day Archive

September 3, 2020

When strongly opposing views on the pandemic’s life-or-death risks become distressing, take a break from contact and discussion.

September 2, 2020

Helping a friend summon courage to reveal facts that could end her engagement, is kindness. Revealing her story yourself is gossiping.

September 1, 2020

When a once-close friend’s only greeting is competitive bragging, it’s time to move on.

August 31, 2020

Dating after years spent in a marriage or long relationship, requires learning technology skills at making new contacts and online assessments.


August 29, 2020

Sexual fantasies are normal and healthy, if both parties benefit from them.

August 28, 2020

Besides two sides to every story, readers’ feedbacks provide further possibilities.

August 27, 2020

In a relationship crisis, silence achieves nothing.

August 26, 2020

When everything signals a complicated relationship with many stresses, protect your own child, and wait till your boyfriend solves his problems.

August 25, 2020

Adult children who respect their parents, nevertheless have a right to their own values and beliefs.

August 24, 2020

Your Questions and Commentaries are why this column will reach its 18th anniversary in September. Keep ‘em coming! Many thanks!

August 22, 2020

Consider the qualities/values you seek in a partner, then date selectively

August 21, 2020

Married spouses must be clear about loyalty to their partner, when opposite-sex friends try get “too close.”

August 20, 2020

Mixed marriages can thrive if both partners show that they equally respect their different backgrounds, customs and values.

August 19, 2020

Reuniting a marriage after having separated, requires learning new ways of relating to each other, and love.

August 18, 2020

Anxiety about a health-compromised relative’s exposure to Covid-19 is necessary, not something to argue about.

August 17, 2020

“Friends-with-benefits” is an arrangement of  mutual convenience which often only serves its purpose for a limited time.

August 15, 2020

Keep reaching out to “detached” adult children through sending regular signs of your caring about them.

August 14, 2020

Living with intrusive, takeover parents/in-laws puts serious pressure on a new marriage, and may cause its breakup.

August 13, 2020

Friendship is about caring, and supporting. If you can’t provide these, don’t pretend or protest. Gently distance.

August 12, 2020

Adult children should appreciate parents’ finding new, healthy partnerships after a loss.

August 11, 2020

Prejudice, and distrust from family members can destroy a cross-cultural relationship, if you let it.

August 10, 2020

Siblings may have had different experiences while growing up with their parents, which they don’t always share with each other.

August 8, 2020

Dating, like marriage, has to be a two-way street.

August 7, 2020

Ghosting is a cowardly act by someone not worth your time. Never feel that it’s your fault.

August 6, 2020

Surviving Covid relies on our adaptability and staying focused on getting through it safely, together.

August 5, 2020

Don’t hide unusual flirty texts from an ex. Discuss them openly with your spouse.

August 4, 2020

Suicidal thoughts/attempts are urgent cries for help. Call a suicide hotline immediately.

August 3, 2020

Mental health disorders can tear an entire family apart. Finding the right medication and ongoing professional help for all parties, is crucial.

August 1, 2020

Relationships need to spring from mutual interest and desire, not with one party withholding a “wait-and-see” response.

July 31, 2020

Pandemic-period dating can be creative and sustaining, if safety measures are followed by everyone involved.

July 30, 2020

See a changed family situation from everyone’s view, not just your own, to still be effective as a parent.

July 29, 2020

Relationships started with “lockdown orders” either revealed the best in a new partner or the worst.

July 28, 2020

A loss of trust can happen from a seeming-small, foolish decision. Think first before you risk your relationship.

July 27, 2020

When night terrors/bizarre behaviour occur, focus on the immediate situation and seek professional guidance.

July 25, 2020

When someone faces danger, trying to help matters.

July 24, 2020

Dreaming of a past, unfulfilled relationship won’t answer your current questions and hopes. Take the first step toward knowledge.

July 23, 2020

Labelling relationship troubles as “confusing” is an excuse for doing nothing.

July 22, 2020

Children of divorce sometimes carry resentment/anger/greed into adulthood. Reach out unless it becomes unbearable.

July 21, 2020

Divorce in the time of COVID-19 adds stress to stress. Get informed/prepared, unless you/your children need to seek safety first.

July 20, 2020

Curious about friends’ divorces at 40? Look inward, then talk to your spouse about how you’re doing together.

July 18, 2020

Been dropped and blocked? Don’t confuse having sex with trusting someone before you know anything much about him/her.

July 17, 2020

Don’t stand for bullying through a verbal attack. IF you did something wrong, apologize. Then walk away.

July 16, 2020

When parents “move on” after a loss to another mutually-desired relationship, be supportive.

July 15, 2020

When a friend’s at serious risk, get involved in helping.

July 14, 2020

When young adults behave like spoiled teenagers, they’re looking for boundaries that have meaning for them.

July 13, 2020

When dating post-divorce, reassure children about their priority in your life.

July 11, 2020

In a relationship, it’s the questions you don’t ask that indicate fear of the answer, also known as distrust.

July 10, 2020

When healthy young adults overtake their parents’ home and choices, it’s time to insist they move out.

July 9, 2020

Never accept a partner’s physical abuse as something you deserved. Carefully create a safe, private plan to leave.

July 8, 2020

A new baby is a responsibility which can be joyous but requires realistic preparation.