Tip of the Day Archive

August 23, 2019

When a marriage is breaking down, focus on your choices, not just blame.

August 22, 2019

Avoid too-much-information about a family member’s cheating. Encourage counselling so the couple confronts their problems.

August 21, 2019

A secret affair with a married partner insisting on no future together, usually ends in resentments.

August 20, 2019

Contact and visit frail elderly relatives to assure that their condition/care doesn’t require intervention.

August 19, 2019

Don’t let a rare, bad choice of cheating define you. Focus on the reasons, and change what you can.

August 17, 2019

It’s hard to accept that someone deceived you and cheated. But you can move on in time.

August 16, 2019

Introduce your post-divorce “friend” slowly and thoughtfully to your children, and your ex too, if sharing custody.

August 15, 2019

Never resort to threats or harassment.

August 14, 2019

If someone tries to cross the friendship line with your partner, present a united front against it.

August 13, 2019

If a couple can’t discuss their sex problem, they’re unlikely to stay together.

August 12, 2019

Do not accept a spouse’s repeated cheating and irresponsibility regarding your children.

August 10, 2019

Learn your own value, become self-protective, and avoid hangers-on. Therapy helps.

August 9, 2019

Finances can be a major battleground for couples. Negotiate from understanding and love, not control.

August 8, 2019

What is it that holds “opposites” together? Love, but only if boosted by mutual respect and shared core values.

August 7, 2019

When a relationship has you feeling insecure, counselling can reveal whether it comes from within you or him/her.

August 6, 2019

Late-age love is a gift to enjoy. But if it feels stolen, decide how you can best handle it.

August 5, 2019

When your feelings over a spouse’s opposite-sex friendships are ignored, try counselling on your own before a complicated divorce.

August 3, 2019

An ex-spouse’s dating post-divorce is his/her business. But if travelling, someone needs to know where.

August 2, 2019

There are many sides to why someone cheats – his, hers, the lover’s and the kids.’

August 1, 2019

When something’s new/odd/disturbing about your physical or mental health, seek experienced professional help.

July 31, 2019

Separating a family is a tough decision. But accepting physical/emotional abuse, fear, and cheating is worse.

July 30, 2019

It’s the clinging to family rifts that divide even the next generation. Reach across that gap wherever possible.

July 29, 2019

To have closeness with relatives, respect for each other’s needs and situations must be equal.

July 27, 2019

If there’s no physical attraction to your partner, you’re unlikely to stay committed or faithful.


July 26, 2019

Choosing a partner with commitments to his/her past loves builds relationship insecurities that’ll likely persist.

July 25, 2019

Meanness over money (especially when it’s available) can destroy a relationship.

July 24, 2019

Don’t rush your new “friend” into your children’s lives until you’ve thought out the best possible approaches.

July 23, 2019

Don’t seek a relationship when your life’s in flux. Focus on major challenges first.

July 22, 2019

Marriage has periods of hard work. Don’t be seduced by someone else playing fast and loose with your feelings.

July 20, 2019

When a friend’s devastated by a lost relationship, give support through distraction and/or suggest professional help.


July 19, 2019

When a partner’s suddenly “fallen out of love,” there’s more going on than you’re being told. Without joint counselling, there’s little hope.

July 18, 2019

A rocky, stressful marriage? Look first at reasons on both sides, through counseling, before considering leaving.

July 17, 2019

When a partner sneakily changes a legal agreement, trust is lost and the relationship damaged.

July 16, 2019

A co-worker “friend only” who’s sexually teasing you, is playing mind-games you need to end.

July 15, 2019

A young grandchild with family and behaviour problems especially needs loving encouragement, not distance.

July 13, 2019

Withholding affection while promising more in a relationship is a control tactic. And a red flag.

July 12, 2019

Don’t push for a new relationship with someone who’s still suffering trauma from the last one.

July 11, 2019

Waiting alone for a future with your married lover? Focus on yourself, instead.

July 10, 2019

Don’t accept repeated angry outbursts and meanness from a partner. Insist on him/her getting anger management therapy or leaving.

July 9, 2019

An adult “crush” obvious among work colleagues can be self-defeating. Focus on your strengths for greater self-confidence.

July 8, 2019

Don’t wait too long when dating to confide a personal illness. It can be seen as deceit.

July 6, 2019

Single and hooked on a lying cheater? Rescue yourself because he/she won’t change.

July 5, 2019

When a dating/relationship partner uses controlling and mean behaviour, take a long enough break to assess the whole relationship.

July 4, 2019

Let time and counselling help you absorb devastating events before making dramatic, difficult moves.

July 3, 2019

Harassment of an ex’es next partner calls for strong boundaries, period.

July 2, 2019

No sex, little agreement, no equality, just arguments, adds up to a negative relationship with pressing reasons to move on.

July 1, 2019

When a cheater keeps expecting he/she will be forgiven, the behaviour will not change.

June 29, 2019

Sex, if it’s your only connection to a married person, is a self-indulgent excuse for cheating on someone else’s unknowing partner.

June 28, 2019

Past relationships needn’t define you. They can make you wiser, more selective, and more ready for a happy future.

June 27, 2019

Barring physical or emotional abuse, marriage is worth the time/effort of counselling, until you’re certain it isn’t.