Dear Readers - How do you feel or find love again after difficult relationships, taking breaks, and breakups? Here are some leftover questions from my live online chat on August 3^rd:

My girlfriend of two years has become very moody.... her sex drive is down and she's started complaining about a lot of little things. We recently bought a new house together, but things only got worse. I do a lot of the housework - I cook, clean, and take care of the dog. I also earn more, so cover most of the bills.

I'm happy with her some of the time, but 90% she drives me crazy. Trying to talk about it only leads to a fight.

Don't let this simmer, bring it to a boil. Insist she comes out with the big issue that's bothering her.... because there's something going on. Or else, she's a whiner who's going to annoy you 100%, with you getting no sex and so many complaints! (Make sure you have a legal agreement about ownership of the house, in case of a split).

If I tell my ex (who's now seeing someone new) that I won't partake in the "friendship" he's insisting on, how do I then cut him out of my life? It's very hard for me because he's still my best friend and we didn't end on bad terms. I don't really want to shut him out, but it hurts me when I talk to him daily and spend time with him every now and then.

He knows and understands that it hurts me, but he still wants us to go together to movies, dinner, etc. He knows I may need to stop all this if I can't handle it. But I don't know if I can handle shutting it down.

Face reality, he's moved on, but is trying to let you down gently. And you're using the "still best friend" hook to hang on. YOU'RE the one hurting you, by getting together with him when you're not ready for a friendship-only.

Better to feel some short-term pain as you pull away, and learn to manage your life without him. Maybe in time, you'll be able to re-connect in a platonic friendship... that's IF his new girlfriend, and/or your future partner, can accept it.

I recently discovered that my wife of 20 years has been sending very sexually explicit e-mails to two of her male friends. She swears they were all just joking around and she never had any inappropriate physical contact with anyone. She appears to have stopped her e-mail contact, but I'm not convinced that she doesn't see them anymore (maybe I'm paranoid).

She refuses couples' counseling, and wants me to just let it go. I've gone for counselling alone, and also spoke to a divorce lawyer, but learned it's a bleak route to choose. I don't want to lose my family, my home, and everything we've worked for.

Now that you know the negative possibilities of divorce in a worst-case scenario, you can proceed from the other side, and believe your wife. You can also - gently - ask what the sexy emails did for her, and try to find a way you two can start "joking around" too. You'll know within a year's time whether letting go of this episode has been the right answer, or whether there are bigger problems to confront and work on, or part ways.

I finally realized I'm in love with my best friend. She's in a new relationship with a great guy. I want to confess my feelings, but also want her to be happy.

Stay mum. It's possible you suddenly felt emotional out of fear of losing her friendship. But it's not "best friend" behaviour to intervene if she seems happy.

My girlfriend of two years moved away for three years of school. Within four weeks, she'd cheated. She said she couldn't give me what I deserved. She's repeatedly tried contacting me. Why do I still want her back? I haven't yet responded.

Don't respond. She left, she cheated, she gave an excuse, and she's guilty. No point making up while she's still away for more years, and couldn't be trusted at the get-go. After six months, if you still care, then contact her... and proceed very slowly from there.