I’m 25, he’s 32, we’ve dated for 3½ years; we moved in together to "save" money, but haven't saved a dime. He’s vacationed with friends twice without me (I couldn't afford it) and he’s always spending.
I have a good job now and am trying to save money but there’s always something with his friends – a party, wedding or baby shower. I decided to wait a year to go back to school but it doesn’t look possible because he’s still living like a teenager.
He manages a friend’s restaurant, earns well but is too generous. He talks about owning a restaurant or getting married but I don't see him affording either. He traded his old leased car for a new one that’s twice as expensive, though we live five minutes from his work and talked about not having a car.  
There’s a lot I’ve put on hold - returning to school, a wedding, buying a condo. I feel I need to move back home to save and do what I want to do before I’m 30. I'm starting to resent him.
Do I stay with him because he’s got some good traits and looked after me when I was initially broke?
- Tough Choice

Talk to your guy and present options – he deserves to know your goals and that you have a personal time-line driving you. Set a period of time in which you’re willing to see if you two can save – say, three months.
Discuss the car, the over-generous gifts, and the things you can cut back. Work as a team on this, instead of pulling in opposite directions with money as the “baby” between you.
Meanwhile, start your school applications, since further education can provide more long-term benefits than rushing to spend on a wedding or condo.
If there are no improvements in his managing of money, move back home, then assess your feelings about the relationship from some distance.

My sister-in-law is beautiful, young looking, cosmopolitan and successful. But she’s always been overly affectionate with my daughter, now eight. She’s constantly touching, stroking, caressing, massaging and tickling my daughter's face, neck, arms, front, back, bottom and thighs.
My daughter gets very red-faced and has been known to masturbate by rubbing herself against the sofa after her aunts’ visits.
My husband and I have told the aunt to stop, trained my daughter to pull away and tell her to stop, and explained that it’s inappropriate. The woman says "Sorry, I'm your aunt and I can do whatever I want."  
She continues to demand my daughter’s attention throughout restaurant meals, movies, etc. She visits our city for long stretches, wanting to see us day after day. I like her very much, and she likes me, but I can't tolerate this.
Our own solution is to avoid her as much as possible (which is not going over well with the family) and to never leave the two alone, even for a moment. Yet the stress over Christmas was almost unbearable.
- Beyond Frustrated

WHY haven’t you said, “Hands off my daughter!” Sure, the youngster needs to learn to protect her body from anyone’s inappropriate touching, and know this isn’t her fault.
BUT, unless your “cosmopolitan” aunt has no idea she’s out of line and over-stimulating the child, you need to warn her that she can only have a relationship with your immediate family, if she stops her fondling.
Forget what others think and continue to never leave the two alone. If Auntie’s abuse persists, drop her completely.

There’s a societal problem of excessive nosiness. I’ve been asked by mere acquaintances if my jewellery’s "real,” where I buy my clothes, what investments I choose, why my marriage ended, my age, etc.
I was raised not to ask personal questions. Recently at a bar/restaurant, I bought some drinks for a few people because I was in a festive, generous mood. Someone at another table raced over to check out my bar tab!
How does one handle people like this? I’ve said, "Why do you ask?" in a nice manner, but then the person feels you’re not being friendly and won't answer their question, so they don't talk to you again.
- Annoyed

Social behaviour is a two-way street. If a casual acquaintance asks an intrusive question, respond, “That’s personal.” If it causes the person to stop talking to you, you’ve eliminated the problem, and hopefully imparted a lesson about nosiness.