Several years ago when I separated, my neighbour was a support (just conversation); I thought she was happily married. She offered an affair at one point, which I turned down.
A year later, she said she was splitting up. We’ve become best friends; she recently called me her soul mate and said I’d always be too good of a friend to sleep with.
Whenever I try to push too far she gets defensive, so I know nothing will happen.
The mysteries of the female mind remain unknown to me. Besides “no,” what is she really saying and how do I either complete the relationship or walk away?
This is not something that can last as a threesome when either of us finds someone.

- Awkward Situation

Don’t hide behind presumed “mysteries;” speak up. Tell her you feel more than friendship and want to know if she’s interested to try dating.
Perhaps your first rebuff of her “affair” offer made her defensive. Apologize, and explain that it was too soon after your split.
But if she says no to your direct question, there’s no longer a mystery here. She only wants to be friends.
If you feel that can’t work anymore, say so; then lessen the contact.

My boyfriend of two years and I plan to be together for the long-term.
Recently, I’ve become seriously concerned with his lack of financial management. He was laid off in March and decided to take an extended vacation on unemployment insurance. He hasn’t even been looking for a job yet, because he “needs time to wind down.”
While I’m worried that entering the job market may be more difficult than he thinks, what worries me more is that he’s sinking deeper and deeper into debt. He’s spending large sums on business ideas (yet to show any return on investment) and week-long seminars more related to his hobbies than finding work.
I get so frustrated when he says he’s spending money on some new venture yet what he does with his money is none of my business.
He hasn’t asked me for money.

- Disturbed

In a long-term relationship, finances are a topic for discussion. If one partner is mired in debt, it eventually affects the other.
He may not ask for handouts, but eventually won’t be able to do things you used to do together, and that becomes a couple’s issue. Especially if you don’t respect how he’d handled his money.
You have the right to ask direct questions: On what solid information is he investing in these ventures, and why doesn’t he look for work in the meantime?
He may have some good business ideas that need time to develop; his “hobby” may be an area in which he hopes to work eventually. Hear him out; and be open.
Express your concerns, why his behaviour upsets you, and what kind of compromise could work – e.g. he pursues a part-time job, gets re-trained for another field, attends an upgrading workshop instead of seminars, etc.
Be prepared that there may be a major difference in your attitudes towards financial security and how to achieve it.

We’re having our second child. When the baby’s no longer in our room, we’ll want a bigger home.
My husband’s parents offered that we move in with them to save money. But my mother-in-law is very opinionated on how I raise my children.

- What to Do?

Buy bunk beds, till the kids are older and you can afford your own place and privacy.

I accidentally discovered x-rated pictures of another woman on my boyfriend’s phone - dated the day I confirmed my pregnancy.
He admitted to receiving her photos but denied sending her pictures of him. They both said it was nothing but I believe it was going on for months.
We previously had a miscarriage; I don’t want to go through this pregnancy alone but can’t forgive or trust him. He has a history of cheating.
I have lots of family support but I mainly want his support.

- Betrayed

The issue is the guy. You’ve knowingly taken the risk of staying with and planning to have a child with a habitual cheater. If you can’t trust him, you’re signing on for years of suspicions and anguish.
Take a break, and stay with your family awhile. If he promises to change, insist on getting counselling together as a condition of giving him one last chance.