I’m marrying a wonderful man next year. However, I’ve experienced several episodes of passive aggression from my sister-in-law and her children.

They take offence to my Facebook posts about my summer holidays, experiences at school and work, etc.
I’m nearing the end of a professional program in university, while my SIL couldn’t finish one course. She’s controlling and jealous of her husband, while I’m the opposite. I’m financially sound with many varied interests.
My fiancé and his brother were once very close.
He’s tried to clear the air with his brother, who’s supposed to be his Best Man, but they haven't spoken since July.

How do I manage this passive aggression, overt jealousy, and immature behavior? I don’t brag about my successes, as I know it’s the source of resentment.

Fed Up

You and your sister-in-law are experiencing very different lives… different achievements and stages (she has children old enough to annoy you). So yes, she may be envious of where you are in life.

And Facebook can appear pretty self-promotional, which apparently pushes her buttons.

I strongly suggest you avoid any mention at all of her and the kids, in case they resent (rightly or wrongly) the exposure.

It’s sad for brothers to be disconnected because of this fairly natural difference (and adjustment) between their partners, when no heavy incidents have occurred.

You’ll have a happier husband if you rise above her jealousy (you’re the one with the seemingly better life).

Tell him to make up with his brother and keep him as Best Man. Then make some nice gesture toward his wife and kids - invite them to a BBQ, show some desire to be a family member… which is the reality for years ahead.

Three months ago, at 62, I joined my first online dating site. I look younger than my age, I’m very fit, healthy, active, attractive, and interested in sex. I photograph well.

However, men close to my age (younger and older) are looking for women 10- 30 years younger than them, putting me out of the ballpark (I don’t want a much older man).

Age appears the most important thing for men. I’m not unrealistic like them. I’d like to meet someone around my age - no younger than 57, no older than 66.

I need to be with someone who’s active, healthy and likes to do things. Since I’m tall (5’ 8”) I want a man who’s taller than me – that’s always been important.

Why do men think they deserve and can get much younger women? Do they not realize it works both ways?

Frustrated!

Ah, why are men different from women? Because they are. There’s no surprise in anything you’ve discovered through online dating, even though there ARE men out there who are comfortable, happy, and stimulated by same-age women. Online dating sites are a huge sea to fish in, and so it’ll take time to catch or be caught by someone who’s right for you.

Search Google for dating sites that cater to seniors. There’s more expectation there of meeting someone closer to your age.

NOTE: You’re also pretty specific about what you’re seeking, including height requirements. It makes shorter men feel as unfairly passed over as you do about men seeking younger partners.

Online dating works best when you’re open-minded, and willing to meet a “friend” as much as a candidate for life. A decent person with whom you make friends may then be the one who connects you to the mate you want.

There are college students who work at my local bowling alley who need to be fired. One boy called my friend the "r" word because of her disability. I told him it was cruel.

Two girls working there love to tease people and laugh on the intercom. Another guy kept sharing his personal opinions on the intercom rather than announce the news.

My group is sick of this bullying and wants it to stop. We’re always these people’s targets because of our disabilities.

Bullied in California

Report these instances, and any others, to the bowling alley’s manager or owner. If he/she does nothing about it, return to say that bullying is bad for business, and that since your group feels targeted, you will go elsewhere and also lodge complaints.

Contact your local disabilities association as well as the university’s ombudsperson. Be specific about what’s been said, and how you’ve all been made to feel unwelcome and ridiculed.