My wife believes in routine sex. She doesn’t wear lingerie, only p.j.’s to bed, and says she’s not a hot date trying to attract me, we’re married and should get turned on just by being in bed together.

I love her, we have sex about twice a week, but I feel we could have far more excitement if she’d wear stuff like the sexy thongs I bought her.

Missing Out

According to sexual frequency studies, twice a week is generally the married norm. That doesn’t mean it has to be same-old every time, but “excitement” doesn’t depend only on her.

How you behave together when you’re not in bed can be more arousing than lingerie.

Women get turned on by their emotions. So text something sexy in the day, and surprise her with a well-planned date-night out, just for starters.

I met my roommate a year ago when I moved out of town, and she became my best friend.

We’re both 20, and still getting it together, so when summer came around last year we ended up both settling at my parent’s house.

They kindly took her in on the conditions that she works and pays them boarding fees.

She got a job right away and was doing great. Over the year, she slowly stopped paying my parents this fee, started partying a lot, and it seemed impossible for her to keep a job.

Her car is now repossessed, her cell phone shut off. Tension grew in our friendship. I’m unable to even look or talk to her, out of disappointment.

Now we’re ending the year and I’m ready to move out. She’s in an even deeper hole than when she initially moved here.

I don't know how to approach her or save what could be left of this friendship. Because we haven't talked much, I don't exactly know what's going on with her, except that she's been partying a lot.

I have no intention of moving in with her but also don’t want to burn this bridge.

Deeply Disappointed

The bridge burned long ago, and she lit it. She took your parents’ for a ride (boarders cost money), disrespected them and you, neither apologized nor explained.

She’s a “user.” They can be charming, appear as great friends, but lack the character strength to be responsible for their actions. They’re also not upfront when things negatively affect others – in this case, her “best friend.”

Talk to your parents about how they intend to handle asking her to leave. Do NOT move in with her, you’d likely end up carrying her share of the rent.

Unless she stops partying and stays with a job, resuming the friendship will have her leaning on you again.

I’m 19 and bulimic. I’ve been trying to not get fat since I’m 15. Sometimes I only eat an apple and my stomach gets huge! I feel so ugly compared to all the skinny models and movie stars who are so gorgeous. I feel that being fat will ruin my life. I’m going to be 20 soon and haven’t got a boyfriend.

Hate My Body

The longer you loathe and harm your own body, the lesslikely you’ll let a boyfriend into your life. Get to an eating disorders clinic, they’ll not judge you, they’re used to helping people with this unfortunate self-abuse.

A boyfriend, and your friends and family too, want you to be healthy, feeling good about yourself, laughing easily, and enjoying activities.

I’m a guy, early-30s, 5’6” tall. I’m unafraid to ask out women taller than me, I take them to great restaurants, good theatre, popular films, etc., and they seem happy to go out with me.

But they don’t take me seriously when it comes to sex. Usually, I show my interest by the fourth date. But as soon as I move into kissing, I get the “I like you, but, you’re too short for me” speech. It’s a helluva putdown since I can’t do anything about it!

Short Guy

Stop trying to impress women with everything but your own personality. Instead, show a woman your own best qualities… if you’re funny, be so, if a whiz at something, show it, if Mr. Nice Guy, be it. Have conversations, beyond just fancy dates.

Spend time getting to know and show interest in whom she is - not a four-date sex object, to test her height sensitivity.