I’m 38, she’s 27. I live in Chicago, she lives in Florida. We met on the Internet and fell in love. But after 18 months, she still refuses to let me visit her.
During her recent bout with breast cancer, she stayed with her parents in Georgia.
Since she had trouble showing me on a map where they live, I did some web surfing and discovered that land was registered to someone else.
She’d told me she was a registered nurse, but she was not listed on the Florida Department of Health's website. I then probed where she worked, and she led me to believe that I’d figured it out.
I tried to send her flowers there; no one had ever heard of her.
When I confronted her with this, she says that she never told me she worked there I’m sure she’s lying to me.
I’ve tried to break it off with her many times, but always find my heart overruling my head.
She claims she loves me dearly, and I fear that if I’m wrong I may lose her.
How can I confront her with my doubts and findings and get her to be honest with me? I honestly believe that if she opens up to me, we can truly be happy together.

- Head over Heels in Love

On the Internet, love is too-often not only blind but deceptive (self-deceiving, too).
You’ve only seen the picture she posted on the site; meanwhile “she” could be an 18-year-old guy, or a woman whose real appearance/age/background is far different from what you believe.
You love her through her words, yet you now know that many of them are false.
My point: Your relationship is a crap shoot; she’s given you reasons to doubt everything. This fantasy love is a set-up for you to experience enormous hurt should she be revealed as a total fake.
I urge you to insist on a personal meeting; tell her you’re prepared to find some surprises; but accept no excuses.

I was happily married with two children until two years ago when my niece came from abroad, to stay with us. My husband started flirting with her. My niece's version and my husband's are quite different. I just know that my niece panicked and left for another city.
I was shocked; I wanted to leave, but how could I leave my two high-school-aged children?
Instead, I kept my feelings inside. Since that time, I'm always sad and miserable. Whenever I’m alone, I have a headache. I often cry by myself. I hate everything my husband says or does but I just keep quiet. I'm so stressed.
Do you think I still have a little bit of love for my husband, or is there no hope?

- Hate My State

You’ve turned the situation against yourself, rather than confront and handle it. You fear feeling compelled to leave, yet you’ve already withdrawn from your husband.
By silently perpetuating your pain, you have less energy for your children; they’re bound to have felt the difference.
Tell your husband that you must know what happened, if you’re to stay and get past feeling betrayed. Even if he had no wrong intent, and/or your niece overreacted, he needs to understand that his actions and words must’ve been inappropriate.
Your children may also have sensed what was going on then, and need the air cleared, rather than live with this shadow of sorrow in the home.
If your husband won’t open up on his own, insist he go to counselling with you so a professional can guide this difficult conversation, or he risks losing you.
Meanwhile, call your doctor for treatment to ease your headaches.

Should parents love their children more than their significant other?
My Mom loves me more then life itself, and my father doesn’t. Is this normal? I feel I should be number one in both their lives.

- Less Loved

The heart is a muscle that expands with added people to love. That way, it can hold two, three and more Number One’s, as when a parent loves all his/her children to the same degree.
Just because your father has a significant other in his life, doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you as before. Don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise.
There may be circumstances between your parents that make your Dad seem remote.
If you doubt his love, ask him directly.