Recently I started falling for a guy who doesn't want to be in a relationship right now as a result of being burned from his last one. He knows how I feel and has admitted to having feelings as well, and that he’ll “hunt me down when he’s ready.”
      His best friend thinks he might not be committing because subconsciously he may feel he’s not good enough for me as I'm getting an education, have a better car and actually like my job.      
      Is there anything I can do to make him not only trust me, but be confident enough in himself to commit to a relationship?
      - Curious

Let’s look more closely at your thinking process: 1) You want to talk this resistant guy into a relationship; 2) You accept his best friend’s instant “psychoanalysis” that the guy has feelings of inferiority to you; and 3) You’re already aware of several areas in which you’re ahead of him (superior?) in achievements and lifestyle.    
      So you think this would be a good match for both of you because, why exactly? It’s not very likely. Sorry, but I see a set-up for power struggles, fights and disappointments ahead.      
      Meanwhile, HIS thinking is far more realistic – he’s not ready for a relationship, period. Perhaps you’re going after him because you can’t accept rejection. Back off or risk ending up sorry for what you wished for.  

I believe, from personal experience, that there’s a simple explanation why some husbands find that their wives have lost their libido: The women just don’t think about sex anymore.      
      For some women, especially stay-at-home moms, we get so wrapped up in being mothers — in fact, it becomes our “career”— that we forget we’re also sexual beings.      
      I think there’s also indirect pressure from society that says “good” mothers dress in a conservative way, don’t want sex all the time and put their kids first, while “bad” mothers dress provocatively, are up for sex and leave their babies in the crib while they mix the margaritas. Okay an exaggeration, but you get the drift.      
      I certainly fell into this rut/habit for a while; although my husband and I had sex regularly enough, I never really cared about it, never initiated and was basically not much fun in bed. I ended up reading a pretty explicit romance novel that someone had left at our house (after previously ignoring such “garbage”) and, WOW!      
      All I needed was to start THINKING about sex again to want to HAVE sex again!      
      I bought a bunch of books written by women who’ve experienced something similar (there are lots of us!) and I wanted to pass this new insight along.      
      The following books were eye-openers for me: Love in the Time of Colic: The New Parents' Guide to Getting It On Again, by Ian Kerner and Heidi Raykeil; and Confessions of a Naughty Mommy: How I Found my Lost Libido by Heidi Raykeil.
      - Turned On Mom

Thanks for sharing. Your experience will no doubt resonate with many readers - women and men alike - who find that responsibilities (parenthood, career, etc.) can block their ability to enjoy the intimate part of their lives which could be bringing them the balance and love they need.    
      However, no book can probe whatever individual health factors – physical and/or emotional - may be at play when there’s a significant change in someone’s sexual drive. So if you feel there's more to it than an insightful read can provide, then I strongly recommend seeing your doctor.

I’m 65, from India, newly arrived to North America to see my son. I’m having the following problems:    
      I have a harsh, quarrelsome nature, very rigid in my ways; I rarely adjust in the new company of friends and relatives. But I’m very straightforward and honest. How can I change my nature and habits?  
      - Seeking Enlightenment

Your dislocation from your home country, the impact of meeting new people with different attitudes and behaviour, and no doubt, your son’s perceptions, have caused this awareness of “problems.”      
      But you’re less rigid than either of you believe since you’re admirably willing to acknowledge flaws, and want to make changes.      
      Start this way: Listen more to others, rather than respond or argue. Look at the larger culture and its values to understand why some people think differently from you.
      You don’t have to become the same, but you can accept their choices befitting their own lives.