I met this great guy and we connected right away. But after a few weeks, some incidents rocked the boat:
1) He said we’d been to a certain restaurant. I said we hadn't. After my pressing the issue, he asked, “Do you think I'm cheating on you?” That response made me think he has been cheating.
2) I found he was on a dating site looking for “a long term relationship” after we’d already been together awhile. He offered to delete his profile, but hid it instead. He later said it’s because he “wasn’t sure where this relationship was going.”
3) He called to say he saw a car just like mine drive up and pull away seconds later. Sounds like he's very nervous or cheating or didn't want to get caught.
4) A condom in his garbage wasn’t our brand. He said he found it under the bed, but was upset about my mistrusting him.
5) He got a new box of condoms and we went through a few. A week later, at his place, half of what was leftover were missing. He threw a couple of the “missing condoms” at me and said they were in the bathroom. I don't know why some would be elsewhere unless he was using them with someone else.
Is it MY mistrust of men that's ruining the relationship or his angry responses?
- Trust Issues

It’s amazing that he’s still around. Your interrogations are relentless and your assumptions are always negative. No wonder he thinks you’re following him!
Yet he’s stayed around, so he obviously cares for you. If you want a future with this guy, back off the constant mistrust. Be upfront with yourself — and him — about whatever in the past has made you so suspicious, and ask him to forgive you for transferring it all his way.
If you can’t stop questioning his every move, see a therapist. The problem starts with you and you may just push him toward someone else because of it.

I discovered that my wife sent two messages to some guy in England, using phrases like "my love." When confronted, she said her feelings for me had disappeared.
She promised she’d end the contact and insisted it was only through the Internet and text and they hadn’t met. But I still wonder: Who is he, did they meet, is he married?
I understand that her feelings for me decreased because I’ve treated her badly. I love her and promised to change. We have kids. So, can I trust her, or should I ask if she’s really ended it?
- Unresolved

Since you admit to a case of cause and effect — your bad treatment, her withdrawal — this isn’t the time to pursue further investigation.
Instead, focus your efforts on how to treat her better, improve your communication, have regular “date nights” together. Also, work at making your family time with the kids more enjoyable, so that your partnership as parents strengthens, too.

My buddy’s been diagnosed with cancer. I want to be supportive, but don’t know what to say/do. We go to games together, talk about politics and sports. We don’t normally share personal details.

Say “Hello” as often as you did before. Go to games when he’s up to it; watch at home with him; drop off DVD’s, sports magazines and allowable food treats, for when he needs to be alone. Let him talk, when he wants.

I'm a mid-20s, bisexual man (not out), still "confused" about my sexuality. I've been "seeing" a man, mid-40s. We’d "hook up" once every few months. But he may not reciprocate my feelings for him as he’s also "seeing" someone else, who sleeps over, and they have dates.
This pains me to the point of even considering vandalism. I've held off dating others, male or female, to see where this goes for six months. The sex is great but the frequency too limited. I feel like a "booty call" whenever I go over, and feel bitter and used afterward. Yet I don't want to ruin our friendship.
- Confused and Alone

Sorry, but you are a booty call, the friendship is incidental. This can only add to your confusion about sexuality, because it’s not a real relationship.
Find people to date who’ll care about you consistently as a person, not a service provider.