My girlfriend of almost three years and I were practically living together since we met. A year ago, I cheated on her, once, and she took it hard.     
      We broke up for a while, but she gave me another chance. I gave her a promise ring - promising to be devoted, loving and to marry her soon. She accepted.     
      Soon after, she confessed a one-night stand with an ex while we were apart. I knew she did this to spite me or get even … but I forgave her.     
      But soon after New Year’s she said she realized she’d never get over me cheating on her, and she ended it. I’ve called, text-messaged, emailed, no response. She says she needs space to “find herself.” It’s been two months.
      I don’t want to date other people and don’t want her to either, but I feel that it’s been too long without any assurance that she’ll come back, and that I have no choice but to date.    
      How can I convince her that I’ve changed? She doesn’t accept that her cheating hurt me just as deeply. She refuses counselling, too.
      - Devastated

Hang on for at least six months; periodically make contact (without pressure) and let her know how much you still love her.    
      In her eyes, you broke your commitment first and she feels ashamed of her own actions as well as betrayed by yours.     
      There’s no guarantee she’ll come back, but two months of saying you’ll never do it again, doesn’t cut it. The sooner you date, the likelier she’ll feel you couldn’t wait to meet someone else.    
      This is time for reflection: Why did you cheat? When you have the true answer, share it with her. Counselling is a good idea for both of you, if and when you’re back together.

A friend and I had a falling out after I’d passed on a comment about a mutual friend to that person, not knowing she was "joking.” The mutual friend was upset and confronted her      
      I’d thought that I was in the right by being honest, but I realize now that I was to blame. Once the mutual friend understood that the comment was made lightly, everything seemed fine. The original friend and I discussed our relationship.         
      Soon after I was unable to view my friend’s Facebook wall – she’d blocked me from seeing her full profile. Upset, I blocked her – then, realizing my immaturity, I unblocked her, but only noticed then that she was no longer my "friend" on Facebook.     
      Now she and our mutual friends are hanging out more: is this to make me feel worse for what I've done? I don't feel I’ve done anything wrong.    
      I'd like to talk to her, but I know I’ll have to say it’s all my fault and apologize for her mistakes too; and she’ll likely cause more drama between us.    
      I can't help but feel betrayed that she's telling our mutual friends that everything was my fault.
      - Feeling Helpless

You say you recognize you were originally to blame, yet you’ve never really apologized, just waited for things to pass.    
      And you still hold a righteous attitude … that is exactly why this friend can’t forgive/trust you.    
      You broke a cardinal rule among mutual friends: passing on a negative-seeming comment. The honest, responsible, mature response would’ve been, “You should tell that to her, yourself.”     
      You would then have learned it was meant in humour, and even if it weren’t you’d have kept your nose clean.

I’m in love with my girlfriend of one year; but her parents broke us up, though everything was fine. She later met this engaged couple – the guy smokes and has a temper; they yell at each other, but my former girlfriend’s involved with them.    
      I’ve begged her, as have my friends, to recognize that he’s a player. Yet she seems okay with the couple videotaping themselves showing off and telling her off. Can I do anything or should I leave it alone?
      - Disturbed

You’ve left out so much information that I’m wondering if you are ignoring certain realities about your girlfriend, or whether you’ve missed the messages in these events.     
      Consider: Why did her parents break up your relationship? Why did she let them? Are you trying to be The Rescuer, and is that what she no longer wants from you?     
      Your own answers should indicate whether to move on.