Tip of the Day Archive

August 24, 2007

It’s an old adage but it rings true in relationships – keep doing what you always did, and you’ll always get the same result.

August 23, 2007

Emotions run high enough at wedding time, without letting old, contentious issues become related to the event.

August 22, 2007

When a partner’s trust has been betrayed, it’s inevitable that other resentments will surface.

August 21, 2007

In-law problems are never helped by childish tit-for tat reactions.

August 20, 2007

Decisions about having children shouldn’t be made in fear.

August 18, 2007

When a lazy habit threatens a relationship, it’s time to shape up and change the pattern.

August 17, 2007

Bad marriages needn’t be life sentences, if you actively seek help in fixing or changing the situation.

August 16, 2007

Looking sexy sometimes is a treat for your partner, so long as you’re not trying to be a copy of someone else.

August 15, 2007

If you suspect you’re leading someone on, you are.

August 14, 2007

When one partner’s drinking has the other partner suspicious and judgmental, that’s a drinking problem that needs to be addressed openly, and together.

August 13, 2007

A cheater can reform through understanding what motivated him/her, and how to replace that behaviour.

August 11, 2007

Single parents need to seek potential partners who are supportive to their responsibilities to their children.

August 10, 2007

Pushing your relationship on others is often a sign of neediness and/or insecurity.

August 9, 2007

While some romance breakups are expensive financially, they’re object lessons in learning to exercise character judgment even when dealing from the heart.

August 8, 2007

Divorce doesn’t just end a marriage; it also opens up unexpected possibilities, whether good or bad.

August 7, 2007

Paranoia can destroy relationships and self-esteem unless treated at its root cause.

August 6, 2007

A relationship at any age has many of the same needs as previous ones, especially for compromise.

August 4, 2007

Resolving in-law issues often involves getting objective help to see the part played by all the parties involved.

August 3, 2007

Closure of a relationship doesn’t necessarily come to you from another person’s explanation; it comes more surely from within yourself, when you accept that it’s over.

August 2, 2007

Accepting that a relationship is over often requires distancing yourself and your judgment from the other person’s choices.

August 1, 2007

When an extra-marital affair goes sour, it’s likely the whole situation that’s not working.

July 31, 2007

Being friends with benefits only works if both parties are sure they’ll not later want more commitment.

July 30, 2007

When an ex comes up with rules for staying “friends,” you can expect there’ll be further demands.

July 28, 2007

When an ex-spouse gets married again, it’s time to drop unnecessary contact (except regarding children) unless it’s mutually comfortable.

July 27, 2007

A close friendship can develop into a relationship, but only if at least one party takes the chance to raise the possibility.

July 26, 2007

The family harm caused by substance abuse requires thoughtful, long-term repair.

July 25, 2007

An imbalance in a couple’s sexual needs should be addressed and negotiated, before it puts the whole relationship at risk.

July 24, 2007

When jealousy strikes, work at rising above it rather than let it defeat you.

July 23, 2007

When a spouse shows little commitment, the partner has to decide what he/she can’t accept.

July 21, 2007

Raising children is a choice that’s best made from a basis of love, not need.

July 20, 2007

Long distance relationships can’t survive without communication that’s sensitive to each others’ feelings.

July 19, 2007

You can’t repair a marriage if you’re distracting yourself with work and playing around.

July 18, 2007

When someone has reciprocal feelings for you, they somehow let you know.

July 17, 2007

When a friend sets out on a trouble-strewn path, a warning is better than turning away.

July 16, 2007

Bitterness over separation agreements eventually affects children; learn your rights and deal with them.

July 14, 2007

A repeat pattern of ending relationships through suspicions should trigger self-reflection and/or counselling on ways to change.

July 13, 2007

When there’s a major boost in finances, couples need to share the responsibilities as well as the joy.

July 12, 2007

An adult child can effectively give an unfaithful parent a needed wake-up call.

July 11, 2007

When discussing the next big step in a relationship, make sure you both hear and agree with each other’s expectations from it.

July 10, 2007

Sometimes you have to let an ex go, to help them move on independently.

July 9, 2007

If the idea of an open relationship seems enticing, be sure you think through all the consequences.

July 7, 2007

When a contentious issue is beyond solution, it often becomes the deal-breaker in a relationship.

July 6, 2007

A mutual friend has no ownership over the new buddies’ friendship.

July 5, 2007

When a couple’s time is constantly intruded upon, they need to discuss setting boundaries, and why the interference was permitted.

July 4, 2007

If an ex fires up sparks, there’s risk of burning through your primary relationship.

July 3, 2007

A small mistake can become a huge headache, unless you handle it quickly and openly.

July 2, 2007

Forgiveness of a past betrayal is admirable, but accepting ongoing put-downs is self-defeating.

June 30, 2007

June 29, 2007

A marriage entered into without love or companionship is an arrangement that’s bound to become dissatisfying.

June 28, 2007

When it’s impossible to communicate, couples need professional counselling.

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