Tip of the Day Archive
It’s an old adage but it rings true in relationships – keep doing what you always did, and you’ll always get the same result.
Emotions run high enough at wedding time, without letting old, contentious issues become related to the event.
When a partner’s trust has been betrayed, it’s inevitable that other resentments will surface.
In-law problems are never helped by childish tit-for tat reactions.
Decisions about having children shouldn’t be made in fear.
When a lazy habit threatens a relationship, it’s time to shape up and change the pattern.
Bad marriages needn’t be life sentences, if you actively seek help in fixing or changing the situation.
Looking sexy sometimes is a treat for your partner, so long as you’re not trying to be a copy of someone else.
If you suspect you’re leading someone on, you are.
When one partner’s drinking has the other partner suspicious and judgmental, that’s a drinking problem that needs to be addressed openly, and together.
A cheater can reform through understanding what motivated him/her, and how to replace that behaviour.
Single parents need to seek potential partners who are supportive to their responsibilities to their children.
Pushing your relationship on others is often a sign of neediness and/or insecurity.
While some romance breakups are expensive financially, they’re object lessons in learning to exercise character judgment even when dealing from the heart.
Divorce doesn’t just end a marriage; it also opens up unexpected possibilities, whether good or bad.
Paranoia can destroy relationships and self-esteem unless treated at its root cause.
A relationship at any age has many of the same needs as previous ones, especially for compromise.
Resolving in-law issues often involves getting objective help to see the part played by all the parties involved.
Closure of a relationship doesn’t necessarily come to you from another person’s explanation; it comes more surely from within yourself, when you accept that it’s over.
Accepting that a relationship is over often requires distancing yourself and your judgment from the other person’s choices.
When an extra-marital affair goes sour, it’s likely the whole situation that’s not working.
Being friends with benefits only works if both parties are sure they’ll not later want more commitment.
When an ex comes up with rules for staying “friends,” you can expect there’ll be further demands.
When an ex-spouse gets married again, it’s time to drop unnecessary contact (except regarding children) unless it’s mutually comfortable.
A close friendship can develop into a relationship, but only if at least one party takes the chance to raise the possibility.
The family harm caused by substance abuse requires thoughtful, long-term repair.
An imbalance in a couple’s sexual needs should be addressed and negotiated, before it puts the whole relationship at risk.
When jealousy strikes, work at rising above it rather than let it defeat you.
When a spouse shows little commitment, the partner has to decide what he/she can’t accept.
Raising children is a choice that’s best made from a basis of love, not need.
Long distance relationships can’t survive without communication that’s sensitive to each others’ feelings.
You can’t repair a marriage if you’re distracting yourself with work and playing around.
When someone has reciprocal feelings for you, they somehow let you know.
When a friend sets out on a trouble-strewn path, a warning is better than turning away.
Bitterness over separation agreements eventually affects children; learn your rights and deal with them.
A repeat pattern of ending relationships through suspicions should trigger self-reflection and/or counselling on ways to change.
When there’s a major boost in finances, couples need to share the responsibilities as well as the joy.
An adult child can effectively give an unfaithful parent a needed wake-up call.
When discussing the next big step in a relationship, make sure you both hear and agree with each other’s expectations from it.
Sometimes you have to let an ex go, to help them move on independently.
If the idea of an open relationship seems enticing, be sure you think through all the consequences.
When a contentious issue is beyond solution, it often becomes the deal-breaker in a relationship.
A mutual friend has no ownership over the new buddies’ friendship.
When a couple’s time is constantly intruded upon, they need to discuss setting boundaries, and why the interference was permitted.
If an ex fires up sparks, there’s risk of burning through your primary relationship.
A small mistake can become a huge headache, unless you handle it quickly and openly.
Forgiveness of a past betrayal is admirable, but accepting ongoing put-downs is self-defeating.
A marriage entered into without love or companionship is an arrangement that’s bound to become dissatisfying.
When it’s impossible to communicate, couples need professional counselling.