Tip of the Day Archive
Beware of Reno Reality: it can expose more need for repairing the marriage than the house.
NEVER have unprotected sex with a partner you don’t know well.
There are few universal conclusions about the effects of divorce versus unhappy marriages; instead, there are individuals, their specific problems and how they handle them.
Sometimes the best “help,” comes from backing off enough for people to figure out how to help themselves.
Parents must speak up on behalf of a child’s emotional well-being, even if it means affecting the marital relationship.
“Distancing” can be a natural adjustment in dating, or a step out the door.
Don’t overreact to a partner’s feelings of natural jealousy, when there’s a logical reason triggering it.
When a man only wants to make babies but not hang around to raise them, he’s giving you more responsibility, not a gift of love.
The nostalgia of an old romance can be seductive; be mindful of the present and all the other people involved.
When fear of rejection persistently blocks normal functioning, professional therapy may be necessary.
When a baby’s arrival triggers a clash of generations, those with maturity and wisdom should back off until the sensitivities settle.
When a “partner” keeps treating you like a visitor in his/her life, it’s time to reassess the relationship.
Amateur researchers should not consider their instant knowledge about serious illnesses to be definitive, nor specific.
When a relationship is going well, don’t push your needs as more important than the other person’s…find the balance.
It’s an old adage that still holds true in romance: Little things mean a lot.
Different generations sometimes see children’s issues differently, but parents must always protect their kids.
When distance is only an excuse, take stock of where the relationship is really going.
If you stay in the background, don’t be surprised when someone else steals the limelight.
Couples with small children need to work out a time for having sex and intimacy or risk losing that important bond.
When there’s a standoff disagreement in a relationship, look at the needs of both sides before making dramatic decisions.
When the clues to potential cheating keep adding up, it’s time to sum up the relationship.
Long distance relationships can only last if there’s also a balance of time spent together.
A successful union usually melds two separate people and their behaviour patterns into a workable, comfortable team.
Wedding planning raises many emotions; it’s not a wise time for family standoffs.
The tale-bearer who informs a friend of betrayal by another friend, is likely to end up outside of this group.
A constant flirt’s attention-seeking often becomes more tiresome than attractive.
When a partner’s past, finished relationship is the cause of your depression, the problem likely lies within you more than him.
In-law troubles are rarely resolved by running away; recognizing your own part in the conflict starts the process.
Saving a young person from serious harm outweighs most other considerations.
When you march to your own drummer, don’t be surprised at finding a different beat.
Stay neutral in a marital split or expect to lose at least one friend.
Divorce requires much thinking through and preparation, not just the dream of another’s arms.
Happy April Fool’s Day! Remember: The day’s pranks can be fun, but not when they’re at the expense of another.
A partner’s sudden flight from the relationship usually comes after a long period of warning signs.
In a marital split, there’s inevitably hurt and anger on all sides.
Escaping a marriage through a fantasy affair only brings “distance” until the realities of divorce hit home.
When in-laws clash, the solution lies in learning how to handle each other’s personalities and changing your reaction to de-fuse the situation.
Sounding alarms on a friend’s new relationship, can end up backfiring on the friendship.
Living together without connection is a lonely set-up for everyone.
When a child of divorce is marrying, putting up with ex-relatives is how parents show support and love.
A spouse is your equal, someone to encourage, rather than browbeat with your information.
Memories of past relationships can carry important lessons for future ones.
Consider physical pokes and other horseplay, as a warning signal, if a partner doesn’t stop because it hurts you.
Ongoing financial ties with an ex, are often issues for new partners.
It’s unfair to distance yourself from parental criticism, without trying to show support for your partner who IS affected by it.
A romantic pitch can’t just be about what you feel; you need to find out what the other person wants from love.
While snooping is wrong, sometimes the evidence found is more significant than the method of discovery.
If you respond to suspicions with betrayal, you have to recognize that you’re both flawed and need to re-connect from scratch….if possible.
When one partner’s sexual energy far outdistances the other’s, it’s time to talk about it and make some compromises.
Coming out can’t be pushed to someone else’s deadline; it’s a turning point that must come from within.