It IS possible to quit smoking and stop gambling with your life, but it's a decision only YOU can make.

Confidence brings realization that you're already successful at whatever you're doing.

When there are positive changes, and children are involved, try first to rebuild the relationship.

When the messages are clear, don't imagine there are hidden meanings.

Being ready to settle down means looking for true love, not just "settling."

With known personality differences, stop the pressure and find compromises.

A couple's decision about whether to have a child MUST be openly discussed, not hijacked by one party.

When a new relationship could affect many people in your life, think it through carefully.

Don't waste energy expecting boorish people to make amends.

When an ex-spouse's presence annoys you, think of the kids and some solutions, before you create a nasty rift.

When size matters too much, try new sexual techniques and/or a more loving partner.

Different phases of family life call for adapting creatively.

Being drunk is a crummy excuse if it ruins a friendship.

A work friendship can be innocent, but using it as an escape causes problems.

When income levels differ, it's the compromises that matter more than the amounts.

Rifts between extended family are often deep-rooted from earlier causes, not just recent events. 

Rejection may have the actual hold on you, not your ex.

When a close person's approaching a crisis, support can help the situation far more than judgment.

Don't look for a problem, if the important things are going well.

"Petty" issues often come from bigger power struggles that need to be understood and addressed. 

Rushing into romance after loss or separation can upset that relationship and the whole family.

"Secret" relationships often stagnate and fail to move forward in healthy ways.

The transition from treating people carelessly to wanting commitment can require taking some deserved hits.

If you rely on parents financially, it's hard to insist you can do what you like.

When your health is at risk, social niceties are far less important.

A relative's safety with an abused spouse should be monitored closely.

For a Happy Valentine's Day, make sure romance and reality are in sync.

If you can't forgive someone, free yourself and him/her from the relationship.

When you work around another's bad behaviour, you can't expect any change.

When a loved partner seeks more excitement, consider how to add it to your life together.

A sudden separation should trigger efforts to know and learn from what went wrong.

Counselling can help you handle a troubled partner, even if he/she won't go with – or without – you.

A divorce "celebration" can be as simple as a moment of reflection, or whatever moves you forward.

Mementoes from a past relationship are only worrisome if the ex is too often part of the present.

Extended family visits need thoughtful planning ahead. 

In-laws need respect on both sides, more than instant love.

Shattered trust often destroys intimacy.

Responding to a spouse's affair with revenge does nothing to help the marriage.

When there's joint custody, there should be joint civility and cooperation from both of the couples' families.

When you look at conflict as a couple "team," the solutions are easier to find.

If a would-be partner lets her family treat you badly, stop all plans till this is resolved. 

The way to stop unwanted flirting is to be direct, and say NO.

When the past dominates your present, get counselling to find true peace of mind for the future.

The lessons learned in relationships that don't work, can lead to better judgment.

The things you accept early in a relationship are often what you dislike but can't change later.

In early relationships, you mess up badly, you lose. Think before overreacting.

When families are estranged, someone has to have the courage to create a better connection.

Do not mistake feelings of rejection for lost love.

Have the courage to follow your own instincts on whether to have a child.

If you stay together after an affair, value the spouse who still wants you, or it won't last.