I’m in my early-20s and have been with my boyfriend for 10 years. We’re best friends with my older sister and her fiancé (they have three children). 

I recently discovered that my sister’s fiancé slept with my boyfriend’s sister!

She was proud of it, and flaunted it to my face. She said my boyfriend knew about it and didn’t tell me!

He admitted this but felt it wasn’t his business and he didn’t want to put me in an uncomfortable position.

Do I tell and risk breaking up this family?

What if my sister finds out that I knew? The family will still break up and she’ll hate me. I love her and those kids so much!

We all live within a one-block radius and my boyfriend’s sister has told quite a few people.

I don’t want to tell but I’m having a hard time even looking at my sister, her fiancé, and my boyfriend’s sister.

- Family Woes

This is a family mess your boyfriend’s sister is trying to spread around. 

Though, if it’s true, the fiancé is equally to blame for cheating, even though your boyfriend’s sister appears hell-bent on destroying everyone’s relationships.

Your boyfriend should tell her that her malicious gossip will ultimately negatively affect you and him, and therefore his connection to her, plus yours to your sister, and the engaged couple. It’ll also disrupt three innocent children’s lives.

Inevitably, your sister will hear that her fiancé cheated with this blabbermouth - unless she’s made this up for attention, or because she’s after him. You do not then have to confess that you knew.

If it comes out, then your desire to try to keep the family intact has been a higher road to take than repeating this slimy story.

However, if you’re sure it’s true, your boyfriend could consider going to the guy and suggesting he speak up to his fiancée before she hears it on the street.

If the couple wants to survive this drama, they’d do well to move to a different neighbourhood.

I’m a male, 37, who went back to school eight years ago for further education, but find myself stuck in a part-time job I desperately want to leave. It isn’t conducive to what I wanted to do with my education and skills. Yet I have little inclination to do anything about it. 

My finances are piling up; I hold onto the job to support myself. I’m not afraid to get something better, but whatever free time I get that I should devote to looking for new work, I find myself so tired and devoid of energy to do anything.

- Stuck

Look in the mirror, and end your image of “finding yourself” in situations; you are where you place yourself. 

Your fatigue and inertia suggest that, despite denial, you’re afraid to fail. Yet this job makes you feel like a failure, so it’s a cycle of your own making.

You had the drive and courage to go back to school, now muster it to stop making excuses: Send out your resume for jobs that you do want. If nothing comes up full-time, seek a different part-time job.

If none are available, take on some freelance work in your off-hours or volunteer in the field in which you’re interested, until a position is offered. Then, you’ll leave the job you dislike.

Meanwhile, you can hang in awhile more, to keep your finances afloat, knowing you’re working toward your goal.

My husband of one year works long hours during his busy season and wakes up early. He’ll kiss me in bed, I’ll call out, “I love you,” he’ll respond in kind.  

Yesterday he didn’t reply. It bugged me all day.

Later, when asked, he said he heard me but was in too big a rush to respond.

Am I being too sensitive about this? I know I’m slightly emotionally insecure but is it ever okay for your spouse to be too busy to say “I love you?”

- Upset

“I love you” is an important phrase, but the incident is “small stuff.” You can worry if your guy never says he loves you. 

That isn’t the case. But HE can worry if you never recognize when he’s stressed or running late or overtired, or has a lot of things on his mind… any and all of which could’ve been the case that day.