My partner of three years and I have a one-year-old child; there have never been any issues of infidelity on either part.
However, I recently discovered that he has a secret email address. Although I don't have the password to get in to the account, I was able to find out the pass code to change his password in order to gain access.
I know that breaking into his account poses huge moral issues, as well as trust issues, but I can't get this out of my mind.
What should I do?

- Curious and Confused

Having the means, doesn't give a license to cross boundaries. Nor do you have any evidence of his wrongdoing.
You could've picked up a phone extension to monitor his calls, steamed open letters addressed only to him, even followed him to work every day to see if that's where he really goes. But you didn't… because "there have never been any issues of infidelity."
Meanwhile, his secret email address could be a holdover from the past - a private address he's never bothered to change; or maybe it's the one he uses to vent frustration with his buddies. Ask him, if you feel you must. But don't go there on your own.

I went to a therapist who specializes in self-esteem issues and helped me a lot over 13 months.
Then, I started to feel she was giving too much unsolicited advice and was too intense about nailing down our visits. Example: When I mentioned a restaurant where I had a conversation which I wanted to discuss, she diverted me with her restaurant critique.
I expressed slight annoyance whenever she did this type of thing. She seemed chastened so I felt I'd been rude.
It built up and become more awkward than positive, so I terminated therapy with her. Example of her intensity: Even if I was only skipping two weeks, she'd send me a certified letter which required my getting to the post office to sign for it.
She used official-sounding language as if it were a contract we were making about the next scheduled appointment. I found that really weird.
Why did I get to feeling so uneasy? Does it sound OK to you that I terminated with this therapist (I'll find another when I feel ready or need the help), or was it weird of me to become so uncomfortable?
How would you recommend someone handle this?

- Unsure

A therapist should feel like the "right fit" for you. You have the right to ask questions about the process, and to say what makes you uncomfortable. The therapist should be willing to explain why she/he has established certain procedures and what they bring to the effectiveness of the therapy relationship.
For 13 months you accepted this therapist and benefited from your sessions. The fact that things changed is not that unusual.
At that point, she may have been acting too familiar or taking your comfort level with her opinions for granted. Or, you did no longer need her as much and the relationship was simply waning between you.
You correctly moved on, and should feel no guilt or awkwardness about it.
In future, ask enough questions of a therapist you're considering, to avoid surprises when your sessions begin. Beneficial counselling requires a two-way partnership of applicable advice and willing acceptance.
When that's not working, go elsewhere.

I want to move my three-year relationship with my boyfriend forward and have a family. But whenever I raise the topic, he becomes silent. He's said that he doesn't want children. Yet he'll talk about "our kids" as if he does want them.
I've been patient, because I attributed his fear of family to the breakup of his previous marriage. I thought with time, he'd get over whatever's scaring him off having a family. But my patience is running out.
Part of me wants to end this frustration; the other part of me thinks what a waste of a perfect relationship.
What should I do?

- Patience Lost

As the one who definitely wants a family you can no longer count on the chance that he'll change his mind. It's time to tell him you can't accept his silence or his ambiguous messages about "our kids." He's either "In" or "Out" on having a future with you that includes children; his answer will tell you what to do next.