For three years, there’s been zero physical intimacy with my husband of 15 years. He blames work stress and his medication. But sex was never his priority.      
      For me, it’s the opposite. He won't go to counselling. I've been to counselling, plus taken up sports and crafts that I love.       
      It's struggling with intense feelings of hurt, rejection, anger, loneliness and low self-esteem. I'm either angry with him, or apathetic, defending against further rejection.
      I don't want to put my kids through a marriage breakup and I'm afraid to see lawyers, etc. I’m unemployed and don't know how I’d manage a busy family routine, alone. Also, he’d resist a separation.
      - No Choice

Sorry, but instead of seeing you as stuck, I see you as stalling. By not deciding whether to fully accept the situation, or abdicate it, you remain in emotional limbo. You attribute all unhappiness to his sexual rejection, but after so long, you are maintaining the status quo.     
      You’ve done all the right things in seeking professional guidance and satisfying activities. What you haven’t done is accept your husband’s ways NOT as rejection, but as his non-existent libido.    
      The longer you’re angry and/or apathetic, the longer you risk staying miserable, and raising your children in an unloving atmosphere with a silent power struggle, like an elephant in the room being ignored.    
      I’m NOT suggesting that divorce is the only answer but knowing your legal rights and letting Hubby know it’s a possibility is a realistic move (incidentally, he doesn’t have to agree, you can still legally separate and he must help support the kids).    
      Acceptance is another valid response. You just have to finally face up to what you’ve got, and make a decision.

I wasn’t a perfect girlfriend: I have a lot of anger from my past, and I was on a rebound from an emotionally abusive relationship. My boyfriend cared for me but I couldn’t accept his love. He left, then returned six months later; I let my guard down and fell in love with him.    
      However, he put me on probation with him. I tried to show that I wasn’t as angry as before. But there were still outbursts. I went back to therapy, all my pain resurfaced. He said he doesn’t want to join me in my pity pot, and left again.    
      Now, he’s getting married and I’m devastated. I called, crying for him not to get married because I still love him. He had the police charge me with harassment. I sometimes feel so hopeless that I wanted to end it all. But part of me doesn’t want to die. I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and I’m in Dialectical Behavior Therapy.       
      I was sexually abused when I was young and I believe this has affected my relationships with men. My father was abusive emotionally and physically as well. How do I pick up the pieces when I’m consumed with so much sadness?
      - Distraught

Stay with the therapy, even as you heal. Understanding the nature of your condition is the way to work with it and use the strategies you’re learning when you feel symptoms developing. Keep the phone number of your local distress centre handy and reach out when your mood is plunging. Trained staff is available 24-7 to help you get through it.    
      Nurture whatever supports you have – friend, neighbour, relative, co-worker, etc. Remember to return the caring about their lives, too, so you’ll have a ready network.

My sister-in-law gave birth last February. In April, her cousin asked me, via email, to pass along her congratulations. Now, my sister-in-law’s annoyed and won't invite this cousin to the baby's baptism, because she “should’ve congratulated her directly.”    
      My sister-in-law doesn’t keep in touch with anyone via email. Also, no birth announcements were sent out. Yet, she expects people to call or inquire about the baby. Who’s right?
      - In the Middle

You’ve set up the answer you want, making it obvious you’re just bursting to tell your sister-in-law that an advice columnist says she’s “Wrong!”    
      Forget it: She’s still busy enough caring for the baby that your interference will be most unappreciated. And it’s really none of your business. Either she and this cousin weren’t close to begin with, OR, she’s also annoyed that the cousin hasn’t called, sent a card or any other acknowledgement in all these months.