I was dating a man for three months. I'm 21, still in school; he’s 23, with his career established and works full-time. We’d met each other's parents; saw each other almost every weekend. We only had short phone conversations because of his long work hours and him being tired.    
      He was also moving into a new house. After three months, he said he didn't have time for a girl friend; he didn't want another thing on his mind. He wanted to stay friends and see how that went.    
      We broke up two weeks ago; he’s moved into his house and so has less stress. He called me once and we talked as if nothing happened. Does this mean he still cares and has feelings? Is there any hope of us getting back together or should I just move on? I really liked this guy and thought there was a lot of potential.
      - Heartbroken

There much potential for more seesaw rides with this guy. He’s not ready for a relationship, at least not with you. He’ll have more stresses – from work issues to needing a new roof, whatever – and it appears that you’ll be the first agenda item he drops.     
      The fact he can pick up a conversation without so much as, “I’m sorry, I missed you,” – as if nothing happened – means he has no idea what it means to be told “I don’t have time for you.”    
      Move on.

An event in my life twenty years ago plummeted me into a deep depression; to aid in my recovery, my therapist urged me to travel overseas to visit my siblings. I’m 70 now. I spent a few days at the home of my oldest sister.
      One night, I was jolted awake: My brother-in-law was sexually molesting me and when I threatened to scream, he hurried away. I kept quiet about this violation because I hadn't seen my six siblings in several years and didn't want to stir up trouble in my family.    
      During a recent long-distance conversation with this particular sister, she said she had suspicions about her husband and was going to uncover the truth before he died. He’s 79, and in poor health.    
      He may admit to molesting me all those years ago and I fear my sister could say it was my fault. She had some resentment towards me when we were growing up.      
      I have no intention of raking up the past but I'm losing sleep wondering if and when this nasty secret will come to light.
      - Worried

This is delicate terrain you’re about to travel – especially regarding your emotional health. Of course your brother-in-law should be “out-ed” so that no other woman is at risk from him.       
      This isn’t just about the past, but about his recent molesting of you and possibly of others in future (in a store, on a bus, he’s experienced at finding his chance).    
      This latest incident, at the very least, should be revealed. It’d be ridiculous denial on your sister’s part – and she’s already suspicious of him - for her to think you encouraged his nighttime intrusion.      
      But how you inform your sister of the past assaults is something that you and your therapist should discuss. You should NOT protect the man, or even your family’s sensibilities, but you do need to feel strong about your own position as someone who suffered in silence and will no more.

My mother-in-law is controlling, aggressive and orders me to care for my baby son as she sees fit. I can't stand her presence. When I once stood up to her she wouldn't speak to me.      
      My husband’s devastated and stays out of it. I can't have a heart-to-heart with her (language barrier) and have increasingly less desire to reconcile. Can we get over this?
      - Beyond Aggravated

There’s no way to resolve this, unless you AND your Hubby-in-Hiding work at finding it. He doesn’t get to just be “devastated” and leave the bad-guy roles and blame to you and Mom.     
      Meanwhile, “I can’t stand her presence” is an equally childish response from you. You’re the one with your child most of the time; raise him as you see fit. If you’re living with MIL, do everything possible to move, or get Hubby to translate the boundaries you and he agree on.