My husband and I have an open relationship: We have fun online. Its like swinging without the physical contact or risk of STDs, in the safety of our home.      
      But he became too involved with one of our regular playmates, so eventually I put my foot down and he broke it off with our friend. They were talking about meeting up IRL (in real life), which isn’t cool.        
      He’s depressed over this and feels worthless for stepping over the line; yet he still likes her as more than a friend.      
      He’s begged to have her back. I’ve been tempted because we do talk to her about other stuff besides our "fun." But I know this’ll open doors to more trouble and broken hearts down the road.      
      He's lost his drive in more than one way and I want my husband back. He’s a big softie who doesn’t realize when to put the brakes on. We’re also both firm that we’re not going to separate.  
      How can I talk him out of his stupor?  
      - Stumped

Your marriage, including the ways you have fun, are IN Real Life, whether online or otherwise. This incident shows that you cannot fully separate online behaviour from the rest of your personal world, and that cyber connections can carry an emotional impact that crosses any dividing line.    
      Tell your husband this is an emotional affair that risks your union. You WILL eventually separate if he and this “friend” get more involved, because you’ll lose your trust and any sense of “fun” with him.        
      She’s no longer a pal from “out there” - she’s The Other Woman. Ask how he’d feel about you meeting someone who’s The Other Man.      
      Despite the sophisticated technology involved, your husband’s desire to hang on - and his depression – are no different from a silent temper tantrum over wanting to have his cake and eat it.      
      Start working on ways to have fun together, without a computer between you. If necessary, get counselling to help re-boot your private relationship.  

I’m a married man with a child, aged one. I’ve created an online alias to talk to other women about a particular sexual fetish that’s not being satisfied at home.      
      I only do this chatting while I’m at work. I keep hidden all personal details of myself but have created a whole life story for my alias.      
      If I get caught doing this at work I’ll most likely be fired, my wife will find out and probably leave me and take my child.      
      I’ve deleted this account many times and tried to avoid it at the cost of my happy life with my wife and my great job. I just keep going back; it seems to get worse every time and I get more daring.      
      I know that I’m walking on very thin ice. How do I stop this? It’s making me miserable.
      - Gone Too Far

Get to a behaviour modification therapist immediately. Your fetish is only filling one need, while you’re risking all your other avenues for happiness. It’s an equation that’ll leave you as bereft as you predict, unless you start finding strategies to overcome this pattern.      
      Consider telling your wife about the fetish, and that you’re seeking ways to deal with it. By not having this secret so bottled up inside you, it may be easier to seek professional help and be less driven by an obsession than by a desire to get your life back under control.

I’m the product of a broken home and from witnessing my parents’ dysfunctional marriage. Though they’ve since divorced, not much has changed regarding the happiness of our household.    
      I’m always angry with my parents and withdraw from establishing a real personal connection with either, as I continue to remember what I endured during my childhood due to them (mostly my mom).      
      I have trouble finding happiness, experience mood changes constantly and have a very pessimistic view of how my life will turn out. I feel like the only way I can save myself is if I move out.      
      What advice would you give me?
      - Still Miserable

Move out! You’re only remaining a victim of your parents’ discord if you choose to stay in the line of fire. Having your own space, and independence of movement, will allow you to pick the times when you can handle them or not listen and be involved.