My husband is constantly groping me and it's driving me crazy; it makes me feel cheap, but he constantly does it.
I've talked to him calmly about it, I've gotten mad and resentful, but nothing’s changed.
We have small children now and it’s become an issue of respecting my personal space and of him constantly ignoring my requests.
Our intimate life suffers because I'm so irritated by his groping. I'm afraid that my resentment will become so great that our relationship will be significantly damaged.
How can we talk about this so things will change?

- Insulted

What’s wrong with this picture? Unwanted “groping” by a spouse would normally lead to resolution, in order to get along and stay together. It either stops, or is re-channelled into welcomed caresses at the right time.
UNLESS…. it’s really a power struggle, which I suspect is the case.
Your husband isn’t listening, caring or responding to your feelings. Yet you’re still there, complaining about the same thing and threatening dire consequences.
Either you’re sending a mixed message, or this is only the cover issue for many more problems between you two, which neither is willing to face.
You need marriage counselling together to help you stop using touch and withdrawal as weapons, and start using words and openness to reach each other.

I’m living with and love a good man who works hard but doesn't earn a lot of money. I’m the main bread-winner. We don't have financial problems.
However, his chronically unemployed brother decided to move to town and has asked what I’m willing to do to support his move.
How should I respond?
He has little money since he quit his last job. He overstayed his last visit in my house and I'm afraid he'll try this again.
When I suggested he prepare a resume and job search plan he seemed offended.
My partner and his mother think I'm being unfair. I feel ganged up on.

- Pressured

Be firm but fair with Brazen Brother-in-Law. You’re not his keeper, but it appears you can afford to give him a helpful start, as “family.”
Since you don’t want to end up with him as a long-term freeloader, you could offer him first and last months’ rent money (or several months’ advance) for his own place, provided he does as you wisely suggested and come up with a job search plan.
Explain to your partner and his mother that, though you’re willing to be helpful, the man is an adult and needs to show some effort to support this move and his independence.
Otherwise, Mom can also expect to be hit upon for some of her savings, and should also share in accommodating him at her place.
Tell your partner that what’s truly “unfair” is for everyone to ignore his brother’s past pattern, and act as if you’re being wary for no reason.

My neighbour has become overly friendly, constantly dropping in just to see “how everything’s going.”
I’m a private person. Though I like her enough to chat when we meet on the street, I don’t want daily visits.

- Apartment Dweller

Speak up, at the door, but don’t invite her in.
Smile and say that everything’s fine but you’re busy right now.
Suggest a time for tomorrow or the next day, when you two can meet in the lobby, go for a walk, or chat together over coffees.
Follow through. She’ll catch on.

I notice that many people give advice to "move on," and use of the phrase has increased dramatically, but I worry that it says people can just move from one problem to another without sincere efforts to solve or resolve them.
I feel it almost encourages people to not take responsibilities for their actions if they’ve made mistakes, or not offer forgiveness if they’ve suffered from the mistakes of others.

- A Reader’s Reflection

An important point: “Moving on” is not meant to be a fast escape from a poor relationship or a trade-up for something better. When I use the phrase, it’s as a step into the future AFTER making efforts to resolve problems, and improve the relationship.
When nothing works, then, instead of wallowing in the past or being inhibited by it, the healthy thing to do is “move on” emotionally, but take the positive lessons learned along with you.