I'm a male whose sister and her partner have invited me to their upcoming wedding.
The partner's best friend took unfair advantage of the group hug at a seminar that we all attended; while she had me firmly pinned with her arms around me, she ran her hands down the back of me, including my buttocks.
I was deeply embarrassed but felt it wasn't appropriate to make a scene. It was the end of a weekend rally, and everyone was "up."
Her husband and children were present.
However, I've since been unable to bring myself to attend any social functions at my sister's.
I'm unsure how to broach the subject with my sister, and extremely uncomfortable in that woman's presence.
I would prefer not to attend the wedding, but feel that I have to go.
I'm at a loss as to what to do.

- Awkward Touch

Do NOT link your feelings for your sister's wedding with the friend's tasteless behaviour.
You missed an opportunity when the incident occurred... you could've whispered, Hands Off. But there's no reason to be afraid to see this woman again.
If she approaches you alone, back off and say something direct but civil, such as "No hugs this time," and walk on.
If she approaches you with her husband, be polite. I suspect that when she's feeling "up" again at the wedding - whether fuelled by alcohol or her own indiscretion - she'll do something foolish; her husband's likely seen it before.
Just stay out of her way, so that someone else gets the rub.

I'm a married woman with two kids and a husband who's a good father but a lousy lover. It's always regimentally done the same way, very infrequent, no spontaneity, he's never brought me to an orgasm.
My problem is that I'm very interested in a guy at our church who's also married with two children.
From very hot conversations we have had, he has the same problem with his wife.
We've been friends for18 years but now I'd like it to be much more!
Every time I look at him, he's always eying and checking me out.
He hugged me last week and I could feel him pushing against me when he touched me. I started melting. I want to ask him for sex.
Should I go for it?

- Need a Real Man

If you're having these lusty encounters at church, you'd do well to pray for the sense to settle one set of problems before chasing after bigger trouble.
You put all the blame for poor sex on your husband, but it takes two to keep up a boring regime.
You need to tell him what you'd like to happen in bed; spend more time together cuddling and stroking; share some reading material on how to improve your sex life; see a sex therapist together. Any or all of these can help you develop a new sexual interest in the man who's also a good father to your kids.
If, however, nothing works to improve that part of your life, be honest and discuss a separation.
Remember, you don't know why this other man has troubles with his wife - maybe it's because he's ogling other women in church.

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My daughter and I are upset that her Grandma (my mother-in-law) expressed regrets that she wouldn't be attending her college graduation a year from now, due to her niece's wedding scheduled the same day. Both events are several hours away from each other.
My husband doesn't think it's a big deal.
My daughter was age seven when my husband and I married; he adopted her and his parents seemed to treat her like the other grandchildren.
My daughter feels that her Grandma won't attend her graduation because she's not her blood relative. I told her she was wrong but I was thinking the same thing.
Are we over-reacting?

- The Daughter-In-Law

A wedding trumps a graduation, without implicating blood lines.
Yes, you're both over-reacting and negating your mother-in-law's years of equal treatment.
Say nothing to Grandma and recognize that your daughter gets her sensitivity on this from you.