Do I tell my friend that her husband is cheating on her?
The cheater works with my husband and confided about the illicit affair, and having unprotected sex.
The wife thinks it was an "emotional affair" that has since ended.
We've learned that the sexual affair continues.
The couple is in counselling and have bought a new house and are planning on starting a family - all while he's sleeping with someone else.
I want to tell her the truth but it'll get my husband in trouble.

- Concerned Friend

Stay silent but supportive. The truth will come out eventually, especially if they're seeing a competent professional counsellor.
But your husband can tell this guy to open up about the affair so it can be discussed with the therapist's help. He can tell the husband that his behaviour is risking his own health and that of his wife, and that his double life will blow up in his face.
However, if you were to tell all to his wife, you'd risk losing the friendship; people usually resent the bearer of bad news, and more so if there's been a humiliating secret held for some time.
I sense your anxiety that your husband is hearing about this guy's cheating. He needs to stop listening and tell the man to smarten up.

After 25 years, I'm considering leaving my husband. Overall, he's been a good, loving father and husband but his stubbornness drives me crazy.
Since our youngest left home, we have totally different visions of our present and future. I want us to do things together like go to the movies or out dancing. I even suggested renting a room at an exclusive hotel, as a little romantic escape. I was shot down.
As far as our retirement, we're light-years apart. He wants to drive all over North America, which terrifies me because I hate his driving. Whenever I try to discuss these problems, we wind up in a humongous disagreement.
Do I leave or stay?

- Frustrated

You're in a "new" relationship, after years of raising children, and you need to negotiate as if beginning again.
First, try to tackle the differences in logical, not emotional ways and take the problems to an objective third party. Your "retirement counselling" can come from a marital therapist, a community program director, a travel agent, or all three and more.
Look at your separate interests and try to work around them. Example: Travelling to different cities can be satisfying to both of you but consider starting off by train, and occasionally staying in "romantic" hotels. Discover what programs are being offered at local community centres and "Y's" and choose some activities for your own stimulation - from fitness to film clubs. Bring home a brochure of what's available for hubby and encourage him to do things he likes.
Once you both are more certain how you want to spend these next years, you'll know better whether to consider doing it apart.

How do I convince my best friend that his current relationship is yet again a rebound relationship?
We're friends since high school, when we all thought our then-girlfriends were our true love.
After college, he broke up with his girlfriend and soon got into another relationship. They married, had a family; years later he went through a messy divorce, during which he got into another relationship with someone else who was divorcing with kids.
I don't think its normal for their relationship to be like puppy love - calling each other all the time at work, etc.
It's deja vu again, all the same things of the past.

- Seen It Before

New love IS intoxicating; but some people enjoy the high so much they keep "falling" for it.
Your assessment of your friend as a serial rebound guy may be accurate; but maybe not.
Your role as a friend is not to make that judgment.
Instead, ask him if he's convinced that his intensity about romance is real enough to sustain him through all the challenges of what their two divorces are about to bring - conflicts with ex-spouses, upset children from either family, financial difficulties, etc. If he says he's up for it all, your only task is to be a pal.
If you eventually see it's not working out for him, suggest he get counselling to explore his relationship pattern.