The first two months of my seven-month relationship were long distance; my boyfriend and I only saw each other every other weekend.

We currently have a very healthy sex life, in my opinion.

But he finds the need to watch porn everyday, even sometimes after we’ve had sex that day.

I don't know if it’s his personal issue or about something I’m doing wrong.

It bothers me that he watches porn that much. Should I worry about it?

Negative Sex Message

The worst thing you can do in a still-new relationship is make excuses for things the other person does, which make you uncomfortable, and then blame yourself.

You each may have a different view of what’s a healthy sex life, but that doesn’t mean you’re doing something “wrong,” or that your actions force him to watch porn.

If you’re a willing sexual partner, openly discussing what each of you likes and/or is uncomfortable about, you’re doing what normally makes for satisfied lovers.

When a porn habit negatively affects a relationship, it needs to be discussed.

Talk to him about this. It may’ve developed because of the initial long-distance aspect of your relationship. That’s in the past. Now he doesn’t recognize that it’s become a “need” rather than a pastime.

Be upfront and clear about how bothered and belittled post-sex porn makes you feel.

If he won’t discuss this, he’s already got an addiction that’s NOT just a “personal issue.” It’s affecting you too, by making you feel increasingly diminished and insecure.

Deal with it now. If he won’t make changes, you should move on.

My husband’s having an emotional affair with his golf clubs! He’s obsessed - golf is all he talks about, the only activity he’s interested in, other than watching golf on TV, and the only vacation he’ll plan, with or without me. I feel less and less connection to him, as it’s gotten worse since our daughter left home.

Teed-off Golf Widow

According to some commentators on this topic, if your husband is constantly giving more time and energy to something other than you, he's committing emotional infidelity. That would apply to workaholic behaviour as well as an addiction…. golf and/or substance abuse qualify.

But in a relationship, if this golf obsession is new, I wonder: What else is going on? Do you do anything together? How’s your sexual connection? Do you share any intimate conversations?

If all answers are No, consider your options - you can golf, or do other activities you enjoy with friends, go to counselling to see why golf has replaced marriage, or divorce.

My former friend talks behind my back. Everyone hates her but I decided to give her a chance.

She's jealous of me and says things to make me feel bad. I stopped hanging out with her, but she’s following me everywhere, saying we’re best friends.

I run away because she tells everyone I'll be a tattletale if I talk with a teacher or her mother and then, she’ll ruin me.

I'm scared of her and afraid to go to school.

Not Friends Anymore

Tell your own parents, and your teacher, immediately. Write down what she’s saying about you, and how and when she stalks you.

She’s jealous because of your good nature. She likely was bullied herself (“everyone hates her”) and this is the way she shows her hurt.

The cycle of bullying must be stopped, for your sake, hers, and others, too. Teachers, parents, and her mother as well, need to know the facts and come together to show students a better way to deal with conflicts and cliques.

Early on in dating my boyfriend of one year, I noticed stuffed animals and love notes from his last two major girlfriends in his bedroom.

Though he claims they mean nothing to him, one ex recently (during our relationship) tried to rekindle their romance. This bothered me. I nicely asked him to get rid of the items.

Though he stopped speaking with her, he didn't get rid of anything.

Should I be clearer that I'm bothered by it? I don't want to be invasive or controlling.

Uncomfortable Clutter

You have solid reasons to be uncomfortable – she’s still after your guy, and he lets her remain “a presence” by keeping stuff from her in his bedroom.

Do not label yourself “controlling” when you have a legitimate request.

His not speaking to her is a good sign. Tell him you need the next step: He can keep his memories but put away memorabilia from other women.