I'm female, early-20s; my boyfriend of several years and I had a rocky start until we matured … we’re now in a steady, loving relationship.    
      Recently, I met another guy and have a big "crush" on him. He asked me out and eventually I accepted. I decided I'd ignore my feelings and say I only wanted to be friends. I'm allowed to have guy friends, right?     
      However, I realized I was beginning to like him more and more. He’s made his interest in me obvious, too. Now I’m worrying.    
      My boyfriend’s an amazing guy, but he's the only guy I've ever dated. I'm afraid to get to know the new guy better, afraid of getting hurt and hurting others.     
      I'm afraid that in 20 years, married to my current boyfriend, I’ll be kicking myself for not having experimented with other men. But if this new guy doesn’t work out, I’d lose two great people. Am I setting myself up for failure?
      - Conflicted

You’re heading for crises: If you go out with the new guy, your boyfriend WILL be hurt - there’s no other answer.     
      Moreover, a “crush” is no indicator of what someone’s like – however, one bad sign is that he’s eager to date someone who’s already attached.    
      You’re entitled to guy friends, but not when you’re really after more. You’re entitled to break off your relationship, if you want to be single, date lots of other people and be sure that you’re not settling too soon.    
      Be honest here: You’re really trying to play two guys against each other and have your choice. That’s not “mature,” it’s selfish and nasty.    
      Either make a clean break without rushing to date this guy, or recognize that a crush is nothing more than a passing attraction, and stop leading him on.

My father passed away over three years ago; at the end, he had mental issues and there was little contact between my family and him.     
      Due to a lack of action on my part and other family members, he was living on the streets (we didn’t know where). I still feel guilty about it, especially when I see an older, homeless man.      
      I don’t take part in volunteer activities for the homeless, but I give spare change when I can to those I see living on the street.    
      Family and friends argue that the homeless choose to be on the street and it only encourages them to beg. I realize there’s truth to what they say, but my perspective is different.    
      Some people try to convince me to change my mind. I don’t want to discuss the situation about my father; and I don’t care if the money is used for alcohol, food or drugs.
      How do I get people to back off? I’m doing this for my own selfish intentions, so that I feel better.
      - Harassed

Spare change cannot buy peace of mind and your annoyance at others’ comments suggests that your discomfort over what happened to your father is deep-rooted.      
      Frankly, getting informed and involved would go further than your pennies and, plus counselling, be of greater longer-lasting benefit.    
      Learn about the connection between mental illness and homelessness. Contribute to, or participate in, a group that feeds and provides clothing for street people.
      If you just talk to one of those older men in a caring way, you’ll have done a kindness that will also help you feel better. I doubt you’d then care about others’ comments any more.

We’re in a five-year arranged marriage, but aren’t able to love each other. We’re both carving new careers, finances are unstable and we have little intimacy or sex  (once in six months).     
      We frequently mention divorce, but we can’t manage on our own and have no parental support here. Sometimes, I think my spouse is gay. He doesn’t want to discuss things because the only solution lies in earning more money.
      - Trapped

Since you both agree the marriage isn’t working, plan your separate futures as friends. Calculate when you can each find roommates and afford to move out (you’re living and paying as roommates now).    
      Look for possible loans in your fields; part-time jobs may help. Being open and honest with each other will make this effort much easier.     
      And forget about sex, or slapping labels to explain this reality. This is one arranged marriage that didn’t create an emotional connection.