Dear Readers – One hot topic: When an Ex Makes Moves on Your Partner.

Here are samples of the many readers’ reactions, to the husband accepting his ex as a “friend” on Facebook (June 6):

Reader #1 – “If you have any contact with an ex, your current partner should be made aware of it. However, a "friending" on Facebook is far removed from an actual relationship with that person.

“News-feeds are simply snap-shots of that person's comings and goings that you may or may not pay attention to. Sending private messages is a different matter.

“My son's father doesn’t talk to me, but has access to my Facebook page where I talk about our son and share bits of his life with friends and family.

“My son's father and also his step-father both later connected with women who’d never had children. Both women see me as the enemy though I've had positive and productive relationships with my ex's, mostly for the sake of my son’s relationships with them.

“However, if a partner kicks up a fuss, then you're in BIG trouble, i.e. their not seeing their child anymore or cutting off payments. Keeping an ex close with a “friending” helps to keep track of the temperature.

“Too many women dealing with step-children forget that it's not about them, it's about the kids and their father. If that's not acceptable in their world then they need to rethink their decision to be with a partner with children, because kids don't just go away.”

Reader #2 – “It's great that this man’s establishing relations with his daughter. Her mother is another story.

“I’ve had some experience with other women trying to move in on my husband.

“Once, a woman he was on a committee with started to find seeming-legitimate excuses for him to help her with other things.

“She wouldn't look me straight in the eye whenever I talked to her. I told him I was suspicious of her intentions, that this made me feel uncomfortable, and he immediately ceased all contact with her.

“In a different situation, another woman always maneuvered to sit beside him at meetings. I invented an excuse to accompany him and sat myself firmly down beside her, in the spot she’d saved for him. She got the message.

“This wife should also send a friend request to the mother of his daughter, and the wife should also be her husband's friend, and answer any messages that this single mother sends to her husband in the comments section, rather than him.

“Allowing this will firmly communicate her husband's intentions to keep his marriage intact. And it won’t interfere with the new father-daughter relationship or the marriage.”

Reader #3 – “I can never understand why a spouse would be threatened by contact with a long-ago romantic partner although my own spouse isn’t always comfortable with it.

“I find it natural that there’d be some lingering affection for someone whom you once liked enough to have a serious relationship.

“The husband in this column didn't try to hide the minimal contact with his ex from his wife and he’ll always share the daughter with the ex-wife, so I don't see how the wife can be upset about finding her on Facebook. What's the harm in “remember-when” conversations?

“Unless there’s a history of infidelity in their marriage after 28 years, what does it say about the wife that she still doesn't trust her husband?”

Reader #4 – “I’ve been a step-parent twice and am also divorced from my sons’ father.

“Having children ties two people together for life…. but not romantically. Nobody feels about those children quite like the two natural parents and it’s good for them to be in contact, to share information, and to have input if the children are still growing up.

“Since my ex remarried, almost all contact with me was avoided by him, despite there was no acrimony from our divorce.

“I cannot even speak with him without his wife being there, or on the extension, or copied on the email. She’s 20 years my junior and drop dead gorgeous, so I’m no threat!

“Your letter writer should allow contact and encourage it so long as it pertains to the child. Being “friends” on Facebook is pretty tame. If it’s a threat to a 28-year marriage, they have bigger problems not caused by this.”