For seven years, I’ve been on and off with a man who clearly has commitment issues; we’ve never celebrated a one-year anniversary because we’ve not gone steady for one whole year without a break-up.   
      I’m starting to wonder if he’ll ever decide that it’s time we get married. He keeps saying he doesn't want to get tied down and not be able to see other people. We were high school sweethearts; I’m the only girlfriend he’s ever had. I know he’d never cheat on me and he hasn't.    
      How do I get him to settle down or should I end it for good? I’m only 23 with my entire life ahead. Yet I still dwell on seeing the same man who’s put me through so much.
      - Extremely Confused

I’m with him. Despite your obvious attraction to each other, he’s wisely delaying a full commitment at such a young age. He knows he’s had too little life experience to make that binding decision yet.    
      Pushing him might land you on your own, or in an engagement/marriage that he may resent. Back off.    
      If you feel so anxious at 23 about not being wedding-bound, you need to break off one last time. Then both of you should date others and expand your horizons for at least a year, before thinking about whether you want to be together long-term.

I’ve been divorced for one year, separated from my ex- husband for 10 years. I didn’t date while my kids were young; I’m now 43, with two teenagers. I’ve tried meeting men via friends, family, etc., and on a dating site.     
      With some men, I find you get to know them, get comfortable, you both say “no games” and the other person should be honest and say if he’s interested or not. But they don’t.    
      One guy, who was so “excited” to meet me, just disappeared. With another, we met and hit it off and he always asked when we’d see each other again, but on our last date he said he’d call on Sunday, didn’t and hasn’t returned my calls.      
      How can something that’s going so well suddenly just stop? And why do men think they don't need to either call or email (though more cowardly) to say, Sorry, I’m not interested, or It’s not working for me?
      - Common Sense

The dating world’s a lot murkier since your first time around. There are few clear “rules” and trust me, I know from the letters I receive that some women are equally guilty as those men who indulge in hit-and-run encounters.    
      Once you add dating sites to the equation, there are less known factors; you’re essentially dealing with strangers and need a lot of time to really get to know someone.    
      Meanwhile, the online sea is full of fish eager to bite. Some people are impatient, or only looking to sample the bait and dart off into the dark. Be grateful they weren’t keepers.     
      Stay optimistic but don’t build expectations until you’ve learned what to realistically expect.

My best friend sleeps around. She's been having a sexual relationship with a mutual acquaintance, but was recently diagnosed with syphilis. She’s so embarrassed she doesn't want to tell this guy.    
      I believe she might sleep with him again before she's fully treated. Should I tell him directly (so he can get treated)?
      - Annoyed

Your “best friend” is a danger to herself and others. Tell her sex partner; otherwise, you’d be complicit if he contracts this very serious disease or spreads it.

Whenever my sister-in-law invites family over, she’ll only refer to my husband (her older brother).    
      Even if it’s a potluck meal, she’ll only ask my husband about what he’ll bring. Shouldn’t the invitation, whether an email or phone call, refer to me?     
      My husband thinks that it’s just the way she is and I should get over it. I think that her behaviour is rude. We’ve been married for 14 years.
      - Fed Up

This says more about your husband than his sister: HIS refusal to speak up is hurtful, but also questionable. He appears intimidated by his sister and her excluding ways.
      But, since there’s no difficulty in saying, “I’ll bring the phone to my wife and you can ask her yourself,” his insensitivity to you allows her behaviour to continue.      
      He needs to support your position as his wife and tell Nasty Sis she’s to respect and deal with you.