Tip of the Day Archive
Every relationship involves obligations, yet some need to be weighed against personal unhappiness.
The Rescuer is often NOT the person turned to for a next equal partnership.
Don’t return to an old relationship expecting it to be exactly the same.
When a partner seizes power, refuse to be dominated.
Advice should be geared to solutions and improvement, not to judgment and punishment.
Questioning one’s own sexual orientation is a personal quest that requires time for acceptance and adjustment.
A good therapy relationship requires a good “fit” and a willing client.
Discussions about a pre-nuptial agreement should always be guided by a professional advisor.
An emotional relationship may be the real thing, or an escape from reality.
The most important factor about an age difference is your comfort level with it.
When parents dump their marital problems on grown children, make them responsible for their own lives.
Being a “friend” doesn’t come with a right to judge or burst the other person’s bubble in deeply personal matters.
When a flirt is met with the annoyance of both partners in a couple, the challenge fizzles.
Since you’re judged by the company you choose, judge yourself accordingly.
Secrets and lies will eventually create more trouble than the image you tried to invent.
It’s an unfortunate reality that addictions often play havoc with relationships.
Creative planning can turn a relationship crossroads into a bonding opportunity.
When one partner won’t compromise, be prepared that tough issues will always lead to pitched battles.
Some long-term promises, if broken, will destroy the relationship they seek to secure.
You cannot be your brother’s keeper, only a ready support when wanted.
Intimacy takes closeness and openness that sometimes requires time to flourish sexually.
Grandparents are an important source of support for their grandchildren, but can lose their opportunity if they act as meddlers.
A “tipster” on someone else’s relationship is otherwise called a troublemaker.
When a family relationship is toxic, weigh the benefits you wanted against the troubles you’re experiencing
Relationship chat about who’s paying for what needs to happen between the couple, without gossipy input from outsiders.
Parents’ sexual secrets shouldn’t be disclosed to children who aren’t mature enough to handle the information.
A loveless marriage can be lonelier than living on your own.
Snooping is a sure way to express your own distrust and turn curiosity into trouble.
Despite a family break-up, do not destroy the worthwhile links that still exist with your most important relatives.
For adult children, financial support from parents sometimes comes with too high a cost.
Workplace dating that seems problematic from the start, is better off avoided.
Inviting an ex-spouse to the wedding is a decision that belongs only to the bride and groom, and should be made early enough not to build false expectations in anyone involved.
A first kiss is only an introduction, not a do-or-die performance.
On issues of child support and asset-splitting, learn the legal rights and responsibilities of both sides.
The work of maturing from a teenage romance to a responsible child-rearing couple often needs guidance.
When one partner holds back, the other often pushes harder for a commitment.
A dating gripe site needs to be read with an eye for others’ personal motives.
Smokers need their own motivation to quit; loved ones can only be supportive to those efforts.
An innocent rose shouldn’t be soured by jealousy.
Sexual turn-ons between two consenting adults require mutual comfort, as well as agreed limits.
A gentle outreach to get to know someone better, can open the door for later contact.
Rather than leave children with a troubled parent, the other parent should first try everything possible to improve the home atmosphere.
When there’s an obvious lie, privacy is a secondary issue.
Secret relationships often have a way of suddenly exploding into full view.
The therapist/client relationship has to feel like a good fit on both sides.
When every sound from a partner is off-putting, listen closer to your own heart.
Moving in together is not a “fix” for existing doubts about a relationship.
Gossip about a family’s private details can reap destructive results.
In-law problems can’t get resolved if the person who’s upset has a spouse who stays detached.