Tip of the Day Archive

August 8, 2007

Divorce doesn’t just end a marriage; it also opens up unexpected possibilities, whether good or bad.

August 7, 2007

Paranoia can destroy relationships and self-esteem unless treated at its root cause.

August 6, 2007

A relationship at any age has many of the same needs as previous ones, especially for compromise.

August 4, 2007

Resolving in-law issues often involves getting objective help to see the part played by all the parties involved.

August 3, 2007

Closure of a relationship doesn’t necessarily come to you from another person’s explanation; it comes more surely from within yourself, when you accept that it’s over.

August 2, 2007

Accepting that a relationship is over often requires distancing yourself and your judgment from the other person’s choices.

August 1, 2007

When an extra-marital affair goes sour, it’s likely the whole situation that’s not working.

July 31, 2007

Being friends with benefits only works if both parties are sure they’ll not later want more commitment.

July 30, 2007

When an ex comes up with rules for staying “friends,” you can expect there’ll be further demands.

July 28, 2007

When an ex-spouse gets married again, it’s time to drop unnecessary contact (except regarding children) unless it’s mutually comfortable.

July 27, 2007

A close friendship can develop into a relationship, but only if at least one party takes the chance to raise the possibility.

July 26, 2007

The family harm caused by substance abuse requires thoughtful, long-term repair.

July 25, 2007

An imbalance in a couple’s sexual needs should be addressed and negotiated, before it puts the whole relationship at risk.

July 24, 2007

When jealousy strikes, work at rising above it rather than let it defeat you.

July 23, 2007

When a spouse shows little commitment, the partner has to decide what he/she can’t accept.

July 21, 2007

Raising children is a choice that’s best made from a basis of love, not need.

July 20, 2007

Long distance relationships can’t survive without communication that’s sensitive to each others’ feelings.

July 19, 2007

You can’t repair a marriage if you’re distracting yourself with work and playing around.

July 18, 2007

When someone has reciprocal feelings for you, they somehow let you know.

July 17, 2007

When a friend sets out on a trouble-strewn path, a warning is better than turning away.

July 16, 2007

Bitterness over separation agreements eventually affects children; learn your rights and deal with them.

July 14, 2007

A repeat pattern of ending relationships through suspicions should trigger self-reflection and/or counselling on ways to change.

July 13, 2007

When there’s a major boost in finances, couples need to share the responsibilities as well as the joy.

July 12, 2007

An adult child can effectively give an unfaithful parent a needed wake-up call.

July 11, 2007

When discussing the next big step in a relationship, make sure you both hear and agree with each other’s expectations from it.

July 10, 2007

Sometimes you have to let an ex go, to help them move on independently.

July 9, 2007

If the idea of an open relationship seems enticing, be sure you think through all the consequences.

July 7, 2007

When a contentious issue is beyond solution, it often becomes the deal-breaker in a relationship.

July 6, 2007

A mutual friend has no ownership over the new buddies’ friendship.

July 5, 2007

When a couple’s time is constantly intruded upon, they need to discuss setting boundaries, and why the interference was permitted.

July 4, 2007

If an ex fires up sparks, there’s risk of burning through your primary relationship.

July 3, 2007

A small mistake can become a huge headache, unless you handle it quickly and openly.

July 2, 2007

Forgiveness of a past betrayal is admirable, but accepting ongoing put-downs is self-defeating.

June 30, 2007

June 29, 2007

A marriage entered into without love or companionship is an arrangement that’s bound to become dissatisfying.

June 28, 2007

When it’s impossible to communicate, couples need professional counselling.

June 27, 2007

Divorce is not the logical solution to outside stresses and should be decided after other crises are handled.

June 26, 2007

When a difference of opinion is a potential deal-breaker, weigh your choices.

June 25, 2007

A double life usually leads to double the hurt all around; it’s better to choose.

June 23, 2007

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June 22, 2007

When practical solutions don’t resolve a household standoff, counselling is needed.

June 21, 2007

No matter how self-protective a lie may be, it’s ultimately bound to have a negative effect on a relationship that you were dishonest.

June 20, 2007

When a potential partner acts like a carefree, irresponsible single, you can expect to be leaned on for the serious matters.

June 19, 2007

Changes in sexual desire usually have a reason that needs exploring, rather than a threat of escape.

June 18, 2007

Loving step-parents should be celebrated.

June 16, 2007

Serial relationships don’t leave time for learning from the past.

June 15, 2007

Intrusive in-laws take a great risk of eventually being left out.

June 14, 2007

A romantic escape is often the clue that your reality needs to be changed.

June 13, 2007

It’s up to the adult child to set boundaries with critical parents.

June 12, 2007

Sometimes, the messes you created have gone too far to fix, and the people you betrayed should be left alone.

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