Tip of the Day Archive

February 9, 2008

Power struggles aren’t about the actual topic, but about whether two people can solve disagreements.

February 8, 2008

All relationships have peaks and valleys; find ways to appreciate the ordinary times, and to occasionally renew the spark.

February 7, 2008

“Are you going to have children?” is NOT a casual question; it’s intrusive and None of Your Business.

February 6, 2008

Children of addicted parents can benefit from support groups, and may also need professional help.

February 5, 2008

When your values are totally different, it’s time to cool the friendship.

February 4, 2008

When doing “everything” for another isn’t working, change your whole approach.

February 2, 2008

When a relationship is hugely different from what you expected, make sure you can deal with the consequences.

February 1, 2008

When watching porn interferes with a relationship, the tension can easily build towards a break-up.

January 31, 2008

Speaking up is the way to insist on a partnership; staying silent will eventually lead you to flee.

January 30, 2008

A long distance relationship cannot thrive on suspicion and drama.

January 29, 2008

Look for the way into a difficult discussion through recognizing what factors could’ve created the problem.

January 28, 2008

The first involvement after a major break-up is often the Transition Romance, but not the last one.

January 26, 2008

Happiness that’s self-centered can become a lonely one-way street.

January 25, 2008

When a separation is inevitable, so is the need for learning your legal rights and responsibilities.

January 24, 2008

When you find yourself going down the same path with each relationship, examine how you make your choices.

January 23, 2008

Grandparents need to respect their children’s rights to raise their kids as they choose, so long as there are no abuse issues.

January 22, 2008

Daydreaming about “the one that got away” can be destructive to holding onto the one you chose instead.

January 21, 2008

When suspicions take over your ability to enjoy a relationship, it’s time to be pro-active about your next move, rather than wait for calamity.

January 19, 2008

Co-parenting with an ex – along with his/her new spouse – takes putting criticisms last, and your child’s comfort level first.

January 18, 2008

Long distance relationships require efforts and plans by both sides for contact and visits.

January 17, 2008

“Breaks with rules” are usually a signal that the relationship just isn’t working.

January 16, 2008

When any problem makes you feel hopeless, call your local distress centre immediately to re-connect with all that’s worthwhile in yourself.

January 15, 2008

Secrets and lies are destructive to a marriage, they never “save” the situation.

January 14, 2008

Confronting a former abuser, personally, should only be done after counselling has made you stronger within yourself.

January 12, 2008

In-law problems can destroy all the relationships in a family. For my personal help with tough in-law situations, see my reality TV show, “Outlaw In-laws” on Slice TV.

January 11, 2008

When a sporadic, platonic friendship with someone of the opposite sex creates jealousy, the problem is usually with the relationship, not the friend.

January 10, 2008

Intimacy is the glue between a loving couple; when it’s withdrawn, usually other aspects of the union have become unstuck.

January 9, 2008

Talking someone into a relationship, over their doubts, is a set-up for an unequal union.

January 8, 2008

A foolish flirtation can become a positive turning point in a marriage, if both parties recognize what’s missing.

January 7, 2008

January 5, 2008

The “40s” are often wake-up years that point to what needs changing in your life.

January 4, 2008

When dating seriously, previous close relationships take on new meaning if you fail to mention them.

January 3, 2008

In a new relationship, listen and absorb what your potential partner is really saying.

January 2, 2008

Family pressures need to be addressed before a controversial relationship can be introduced.

January 1, 2008

Big mistakes in a relationship aren’t easily forgiven, if ever, but learning from them offers a chance at future happiness.

December 31, 2007

Double standards in a relationship leave one partner feeling unfairly treated. 

December 29, 2007

Sometimes the issue you’re arguing about is a smokescreen for one much deeper.

December 28, 2007

Sometimes the right signals are there but people are afraid to recognize them, since it means they must act.

December 27, 2007

Assess who might prefer time to absorb a break-up, before making “goodbye” gestures.

December 26, 2007

December 24, 2007

It’s never too late to learn to get along, where children are involved. Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays!

December 22, 2007

When one or both partners let intimacy diminish, it’s a sure signal of deeper issues that need to be discussed.

December 21, 2007

Keep your Christmas spirit alive and real by not building impossible expectations.

December 20, 2007

When relationships are entangled with money and property, get legal advice.

December 19, 2007

After a miscarriage, partners need to support each other, not grieve alone.

December 18, 2007

Rushing into a next relationship after a messy divorce, makes adjustments even harder, especially for children.

December 17, 2007

Children are a worthy reason to try to make a union work, but not a reason to stay together if it can’t work.

December 15, 2007

Repeated cheating is a risky way of filling needs, especially when you don’t know what you’re seeking.

December 14, 2007

Keeping a reasonably neat home is a job for both working parents to figure out by mutual agreement.

December 13, 2007

Medical research by lay people is best cross-checked with trusted, knowledgeable medical experts.

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