Tip of the Day Archive
Don’t let a controlling partner isolate you. Make a safe escape plan for yourself and children.
Advising adult children requires helping them think for themselves. Living with them requires clear understandings between you.
When excess drinking causes damaging behaviour, everyone involved must take responsibility.
Mild jealousy of a former relationship is better understood when discussed honestly.
Hiding an intended nudist lifestyle from the person you marry is naked deception.
Love can conquer differences that two people confront with mutual respect, and an ultimate shared goal.
Walk away from second-place contender in a relationship.
Someone who’d rather cheat with you than love you freely and openly is best left behind.
An adult child should try reasonable means to live independently of a demanding, difficult parent.
Financial divides are not uncommon in post-divorce unions. If trust is missing, reassurance and/or counselling’s needed.
When repeated relationships fail, take a break from “serial partnering”, and take time for other needs.
Report abuse, don’t let it rule your life with silence.
Divorce is the pits, but your children’s and your own adjustment must be priorities.
Body odour is a no-joke matter to those who can’t find a solution.
Maintaining sobriety requires knowing what you can and cannot handle.
Crushes can be harmless, but obsession with someone can become a serious problem for you both.
A second chance for a cheater won’t work without trust.
A cheater who’s obsessed with sex and excels at deceit, is a bad risk for ever trusting again.
Don’t let an insensitive, thoughtless person define you by exclusion. Include yourself!
Doubts about a fiancé(e)’s character are an alarm bell about lifetime issues. Delay wedding plans until you feel certainty and trust.
Parental approval that’s being withheld from accomplished adults is just another form of parental control.
Being “the truth messenger” about a past trauma can sometimes backfire.
Venting to a counsellor can help you learn to accept reality.
Choosing casual sex over intimacy often reveals a person’s insecurity and lack of self-respect.
Gut pain is more real and telling than a romance built mostly on hope.
To stay together after an affair, the commitment has to be boosted repeatedly.
Once bitten, twice shy or a practiced liar/cheat will bite again.
When being “the other woman” feels too guilty and complicated, take a break to reconsider it.
You can’t be an innocent bystander to a serious rift between the two most important people in your life.
Get professional help to stop the memory of past stress/abuse from overshadowing your present.
For long-term couples, money and its uses are rarely just “personal.”
Relatives who purposefully lie and exclude you from a dying parent’s bedside aren’t “family” to you.
Dating with feelings and respect is a basis for re-connecting when time/changes allow.
When money’s the main threat to a relationship, probe the emotional issues behind it.
When an insecure partner turns to repeated rejection, couple’s counselling is needed or the relationship’s doomed.
Older man/younger woman unions arouse a lot of judgment and assumptions, despite having few confirming details.
A master liar/manipulator can destroy a relationship but not “steal” your life. Get therapy and decide your future.
Speak up about an unwanted sexual advance immediately and out the aggressor.
If “cheating” stems from loneliness, counselling might end the pattern.
Suddenly seeking sex-only, doesn’t come across as flattering as you may think.
Showing off can turn off a potential romance.
If guilt feelings persist, get help to find out why.
After years of creating resentment, a “changed” spouse needs to prove he/she’s trustworthy.
A relationship that gives way to all other responsibilities just won’t grow.
Don’t accept family pressure to jointly buy a cottage unless you’re fully committed to the plan.
Anyone who’s aggressive with a baby, presents a danger to be prevented and resolved.
If a couple has opposing values regarding sexual behaviour, they need to agree on boundaries or there’s trouble ahead.
Every child who wants to know about his/her biological parent deserves an age-appropriate answer.
When a partner chooses absence and “friends” over being with you, re-think the relationship.
Cosmetic treatments for looking youthful are a personal choice but should be done by accredited professionals.