Tip of the Day Archive

December 11, 2018

Feeling guilt from cheating/divorce won’t change an ex’s reaction, but alertness to mental health signals may help others respond to her needs.

December 10, 2018

Does tough love help or harm an adult child? Depends on who’s getting the tough end and who’s ordering it.

December 8, 2018

When both partners are suspected cheaters, the relationship’s ill-fated unless both seek professional help instead of damning evidence.

December 7, 2018

Avoid a friend’s lustful husband. No free stay is worth risk to you physically/sexually, nor to the friendship.

December 6, 2018

Get the help needed to prevent an untrustworthy ex from causing you emotional and mental harm.

December 5, 2018

Backbiting, feuds and nastiness within families can affect several generations. Get counselling if this is your legacy.

December 4, 2018

A controlled friendship offered instead of a romantic relationship, will always feel like “crumbs.”

December 3, 2018

When someone you care about exhibits changed, worrisome behaviour, support seeking professional help.

December 1, 2018

Fixating on sad details of a years-ago divorce is a negative choice. Move on through healthy activities, interest groups, and new friendships.

November 30, 2018

When a marriage fails everyone involved, a separation may be the healthiest response.

November 29, 2018

Hot correspondence with an old flame when both are married, is playing with fire.

November 28, 2018

Bonds can break if you refuse to accept an adult child’s partner.

November 27, 2018

Threatened divorce? Ask questions, then get legal advice, individual counselling and personal support.

November 26, 2018

Don’t ruin a great business partnership by pushing emotions that aren’t reciprocated.

November 24, 2018

A romantic crush can be fun so long as it doesn’t become obsessive, with unrealistic expectations.

November 23, 2018

A repeatedly abusive partner who takes advantage financially? Make a private, safe plan to end the relationship. Involve police if necessary.

November 22, 2018

Repeated angry outbursts and blaming signal that a relationship needs honest discussion and/or counselling.

November 21, 2018

Neighbourhood sex-noise issues can be extra-awkward to address, so start with what you can fix yourself.

November 20, 2018

#MeToo reveals the pain of someone trying to use and abuse you.

November 19, 2018

When another’s grudges affect your relationship with your own children, choose your kids over unreasonable anger and demands.

November 17, 2018

Expressing “love” after only a few dates may be more about someone’s wants/needs than a truly deep emotional commitment.

November 16, 2018

When your circle of friends is small (including ex’es), gossip can blow it apart.

November 15, 2018

When someone goes to jail, the spouse and children also live a form of hard time, emotionally.

November 14, 2018

Answer a cry for help swiftly, and ready to listen without questioning.

November 13, 2018

When a dating relationship appears problematic, state your concerns and boundaries.

November 12, 2018

When marital fights include depression/suicidal threats, get therapy fast and alert the person’s doctor.

November 10, 2018

When a spouse decides unilaterally to separate, get legally and financially informed, fast.

November 9, 2018

A wedding should include generosity of thought regarding each other’s children from previous relationships.

November 8, 2018

“Manly” men are decent and honest in relationships.

November 7, 2018

Being controlled financially calls for getting legal/financial advice.

November 6, 2018

If you don’t identify and curb your impulses to text or make moves in a cheating manner, you’ll mess up your relationships that matter most.

November 5, 2018

Divorce is never easy, almost always hard on children, but staying in a miserable or abusive marriage is equally difficult.


November 3, 2018

Accepting frequent conflict isn’t worth the help you receive if you can provide for yourself.

November 2, 2018

Not speaking is never a helpful way to resolve hurt feelings in a relationship (except to briefly calm down).

November 1, 2018

Tolerating a bully’s behaviour gives permission for the bullying tactics to continue.

October 31, 2018

Crushes can be private feelings to enjoy personally, but not to share unless there’s a clear, mutual connection.

October 30, 2018

Be alert to what’s motivating a partner whose behaviour changes, and when someone’s coming on too strong too soon.


October 29, 2018

The most important decisions between a couple cannot be arbitrary. It breaks trust and creates emotional distance.

October 27, 2018

When a potential partner’s “torn” between you and another, taking a break forces a decision.

October 26, 2018

A jealous and/or insecure spouse (male OR female) may distrust a partner, even over platonic friendships with the opposite sex.

October 25, 2018

Hounding someone about false mistrust is sure to sour whatever’s good in the relationship.

October 24, 2018

The most believable way to prove you’ve changed bad behaviour is to do it more than talk about it.

October 23, 2018

Get support and comfort from people who believe you. Ignore those who can’t accept the truth.

October 22, 2018

When a loved one’s life is failing, deal with only essential chores, at the least cost and worry, and let the authorities handle negative comments/threats.

October 20, 2018

Don’t bring (almost) strangers to your place when alcohol or substance use fogs your awareness.

October 19, 2018

Regret your bad behaviour? Apologize, but accept that the relationship’s over.

October 18, 2018

To love deeply requires being able to forgive. That’s when trust can return.

October 17, 2018

When you can’t discuss a partner’s decision, that’s a serious red flag.

October 16, 2018

Rejection’s tough to take, but sudden breakups can happen for reasons having little to do with you.


October 15, 2018

Having friends with different sexual identities doesn’t change the social norms for respecting each other’s families.

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