Tip of the Day Archive
You can’t be an innocent bystander to a serious rift between the two most important people in your life.
Get professional help to stop the memory of past stress/abuse from overshadowing your present.
For long-term couples, money and its uses are rarely just “personal.”
Relatives who purposefully lie and exclude you from a dying parent’s bedside aren’t “family” to you.
Dating with feelings and respect is a basis for re-connecting when time/changes allow.
When money’s the main threat to a relationship, probe the emotional issues behind it.
When an insecure partner turns to repeated rejection, couple’s counselling is needed or the relationship’s doomed.
Older man/younger woman unions arouse a lot of judgment and assumptions, despite having few confirming details.
A master liar/manipulator can destroy a relationship but not “steal” your life. Get therapy and decide your future.
Speak up about an unwanted sexual advance immediately and out the aggressor.
If “cheating” stems from loneliness, counselling might end the pattern.
Suddenly seeking sex-only, doesn’t come across as flattering as you may think.
Showing off can turn off a potential romance.
If guilt feelings persist, get help to find out why.
After years of creating resentment, a “changed” spouse needs to prove he/she’s trustworthy.
A relationship that gives way to all other responsibilities just won’t grow.
Don’t accept family pressure to jointly buy a cottage unless you’re fully committed to the plan.
Anyone who’s aggressive with a baby, presents a danger to be prevented and resolved.
If a couple has opposing values regarding sexual behaviour, they need to agree on boundaries or there’s trouble ahead.
Every child who wants to know about his/her biological parent deserves an age-appropriate answer.
When a partner chooses absence and “friends” over being with you, re-think the relationship.
Cosmetic treatments for looking youthful are a personal choice but should be done by accredited professionals.
Some sexual practices can seem fascinating but require self-knowledge about what you can handle.
Siblings raised with abuse, chaos, and anger, can understand overreactions and try to forgive.
A partner’s criticisms deserve to be heard, but set boundaries on what you’ll accept.
A “best friend” who propositions your partner has crossed the line. Loyalty no longer applies.
Polyamory is a relationship lifestyle that involves having more than one partner by mutual consent between everyone involved.
Once an unrepentant compulsive liar/cheater is exposed, you’re knowingly facing drama and deception.
Confront intense family interference with a united front, or it’ll tear you apart.
When a new partner’s behaviour suddenly changes, learn what’s happening before you try to “fix” things.
A shocking incident of an unwanted sexual come-on, can leave long-term doubts about how you reacted at the time.
Those people who envy and critique the personal choices that make you happy, are NOT good friends or caring family.
Understand why your partner wants your presence when the ex is around, before you try to make changes.
Someone who strings you along and lets others know, cares only about himself.
Shakespeare knew it long ago: “Neither a borrower nor a lender be; / For loan oft loses both itself and friend.” (Polonius, in Hamlet).
Past sexual partners should NOT be counted, only their health checks, re: STD’s, should be open.
Unless married people are prepared for the realities of separation, an affair can become a nightmare.
After a break-up, healing trumps friends’ neediness.
Having a “relationship” is only an idea, unless there’s someone specific with mutual attraction to be together.
If fears of a family breakup keep recurring, tell your parents and be open to getting counselling.
Discuss Power of Attorney and caregiving options well before they’re needed.
When information that could destroy your close family is evident and true, you must speak up.
His post-first-sex suggestion that new girlfriend gets her breasts enlarged is insulting, shallow, and self-serving.
A sudden “I-don’t-love-you-anymore” is mostly shock value to avoid heavy discussion.
Frequent arguments between adult sisters often have a mutual history of hurt feelings and disappointments.
Adult children of divorce usually have strong reasons for breaking ties with a parent.
Cheating on a low-libido boyfriend for better sex with a now married ex is a solution bound to implode.
Steady love can feel like magic if you put new energy into it.
Make a safe and secret plan to leave an abuser.
Respecting another’s strong religious commitment is essential for a lasting relationship.