We started dating guy one month ago, I thought things were great... until we finally went to bed. It was only okay. He said "I love you so much ‘Debby’ - his ex girlfriend’s name. I got over it, and then he said it again!
I discovered his picture and profile posted on several dating sites; he’d been emailing and phoning several women; he’d been constantly driving past his former girlfriends’ houses.
He’s not healthy, in my opinion. He treats me like a queen and promises to stop contacting women, so I won’t leave him.
Should I give him a try or walk or run to the nearest exit?

- Not Debby

Run, and close the door behind you. Shut it, not only on this guy, but on your own lack of self-confidence that allows you to even question whether to stay with a man you already believe is “unhealthy.”
You’ve got his number, he’s a player and not at all ready for a commitment to one person, certainly not to you. He’s not “treating you like a queen” when he’s scouring the Internet for other women. He’s only trying to hang onto you for his own comfort level, in case these other women don’t work out. And he’ll try hard to convince you of his devotion if you show indecision about breaking it off.
Straighten your spine and do not accept his excuses for staying on dating sites, or checking up on his ex’es.
Incidentally, you say you “finally” went to bed after one month; yet it’s obvious you hardly knew him or how he behaves by then. Consider changing your timeline for getting to know someone and becoming intimate when you meet your next “great” guy.

My wife and I have been together for six years, married for three of them. She, 35, has no kids; I’m 30 with full custody of two kids ages six and eight, from a previous relationship. My wife has been the only mother figure that they've known and a very good woman.
A year ago I had an affair with another woman, and had a baby with her. I see and do for the baby, who’s five-months old, but my conscience is getting to me.
I don't want to hurt my wife who’s been there for us, but I'm not used to being a part-time parent who has to sneak around to see his kid.
What to do, and how to do it?

- MR. SO VERY CONFUSED

Funny thing, how you know your responsibilities to the baby, yet facing up to adult consequences has you confused. I call it selective reasoning, since you’ve already risked destroying your family’s stability, having your children face yet another break-up if your wife leaves, losing the trust of this good woman, as well as making yet another woman a single Mom.
Like I said in my other response, above, straighten your spine, and deal with what you’ve created. Tell your wife you have another child. Apologize, let her vent her anger and hurt, tell her what she needs to know about why and how it happened, but spare the graphic details of sex play, please. Then, commit to counselling with her to try to work out staying together and bringing your baby into your family’s life.
Do NOT expect this to go smoothly, and be prepared to take the heat for some time. But hang in, as the responsible parent you’re trying to be, to all your children.

My son's mother said my son overheard my fiancé badmouthing me to her friend. He won’t tell his mother what was said, but states that I shouldn’t marry her, she’s marrying me for my money.
My son doesn't know his mother told me.
I've had private doubts like these but ignored them. How do I proceed?
I don't want my son to start having different feelings about her (may be too late).

- Worried

Worry more about your own doubts, first, and about your son afterward.
Postpone the wedding and get to know this woman better. Make sure you’ve safeguarded the money needed for your son’s upkeep, any support payments, and funds for his future education and help getting established.
See if she balks at your financial arrangements and the idea of a pre-nuptial contract.
If reassured, help your son see her positive features. (His Mom may have her own agenda, here).