Tip of the Day Archive

July 17, 2007

When a friend sets out on a trouble-strewn path, a warning is better than turning away.

July 16, 2007

Bitterness over separation agreements eventually affects children; learn your rights and deal with them.

July 14, 2007

A repeat pattern of ending relationships through suspicions should trigger self-reflection and/or counselling on ways to change.

July 13, 2007

When there’s a major boost in finances, couples need to share the responsibilities as well as the joy.

July 12, 2007

An adult child can effectively give an unfaithful parent a needed wake-up call.

July 11, 2007

When discussing the next big step in a relationship, make sure you both hear and agree with each other’s expectations from it.

July 10, 2007

Sometimes you have to let an ex go, to help them move on independently.

July 9, 2007

If the idea of an open relationship seems enticing, be sure you think through all the consequences.

July 7, 2007

When a contentious issue is beyond solution, it often becomes the deal-breaker in a relationship.

July 6, 2007

A mutual friend has no ownership over the new buddies’ friendship.

July 5, 2007

When a couple’s time is constantly intruded upon, they need to discuss setting boundaries, and why the interference was permitted.

July 4, 2007

If an ex fires up sparks, there’s risk of burning through your primary relationship.

July 3, 2007

A small mistake can become a huge headache, unless you handle it quickly and openly.

July 2, 2007

Forgiveness of a past betrayal is admirable, but accepting ongoing put-downs is self-defeating.

June 30, 2007

June 29, 2007

A marriage entered into without love or companionship is an arrangement that’s bound to become dissatisfying.

June 28, 2007

When it’s impossible to communicate, couples need professional counselling.

June 27, 2007

Divorce is not the logical solution to outside stresses and should be decided after other crises are handled.

June 26, 2007

When a difference of opinion is a potential deal-breaker, weigh your choices.

June 25, 2007

A double life usually leads to double the hurt all around; it’s better to choose.

June 23, 2007

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June 22, 2007

When practical solutions don’t resolve a household standoff, counselling is needed.

June 21, 2007

No matter how self-protective a lie may be, it’s ultimately bound to have a negative effect on a relationship that you were dishonest.

June 20, 2007

When a potential partner acts like a carefree, irresponsible single, you can expect to be leaned on for the serious matters.

June 19, 2007

Changes in sexual desire usually have a reason that needs exploring, rather than a threat of escape.

June 18, 2007

Loving step-parents should be celebrated.

June 16, 2007

Serial relationships don’t leave time for learning from the past.

June 15, 2007

Intrusive in-laws take a great risk of eventually being left out.

June 14, 2007

A romantic escape is often the clue that your reality needs to be changed.

June 13, 2007

It’s up to the adult child to set boundaries with critical parents.

June 12, 2007

Sometimes, the messes you created have gone too far to fix, and the people you betrayed should be left alone.

June 11, 2007

When parents’ rules seem strict, try various compromises, but always prove yourself worth their trust.

June 9, 2007

When a family member risks serious trouble, be direct, not passive.

June 8, 2007

Family support needs to be positive and encouraging, not critical.

June 7, 2007

When a partner seeks flights of fantasy it’s time for the whole relationship to undergo a reality check.

June 6, 2007

Abusive relationships are destructive to everyone involved.

June 5, 2007

Sometimes it’s the little things that signal warnings of far bigger relationship problems.

June 4, 2007

Every relationship involves obligations, yet some need to be weighed against personal unhappiness.

June 2, 2007

The Rescuer is often NOT the person turned to for a next equal partnership.

June 1, 2007

Don’t return to an old relationship expecting it to be exactly the same.

May 31, 2007

When a partner seizes power, refuse to be dominated.

May 30, 2007

Advice should be geared to solutions and improvement, not to judgment and punishment.

May 29, 2007

Questioning one’s own sexual orientation is a personal quest that requires time for acceptance and adjustment.

May 28, 2007

A good therapy relationship requires a good “fit” and a willing client.

May 26, 2007

Discussions about a pre-nuptial agreement should always be guided by a professional advisor.

May 25, 2007

May 24, 2007

An emotional relationship may be the real thing, or an escape from reality.

May 23, 2007

The most important factor about an age difference is your comfort level with it.

May 22, 2007

When parents dump their marital problems on grown children, make them responsible for their own lives.

May 21, 2007

Being a “friend” doesn’t come with a right to judge or burst the other person’s bubble in deeply personal matters.

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