The tale-bearer who informs a friend of betrayal by another friend, is likely to end up outside of this group.

A constant flirt’s attention-seeking often becomes more tiresome than attractive.

When a partner’s past, finished relationship is the cause of your depression, the problem likely lies within you more than him.

In-law troubles are rarely resolved by running away; recognizing your own part in the conflict starts the process.

Saving a young person from serious harm outweighs most other considerations.

When you march to your own drummer, don’t be surprised at finding a different beat.

Stay neutral in a marital split or expect to lose at least one friend.

Divorce requires much thinking through and preparation, not just the dream of another’s arms.

Happy April Fool’s Day! Remember: The day’s pranks can be fun, but not when they’re at the expense of another.

A partner’s sudden flight from the relationship usually comes after a long period of warning signs.

In a marital split, there’s inevitably hurt and anger on all sides.

Escaping a marriage through a fantasy affair only brings “distance” until the realities of divorce hit home.

When in-laws clash, the solution lies in learning how to handle each other’s personalities and changing your reaction to de-fuse the situation.

Sounding alarms on a friend’s new relationship, can end up backfiring on the friendship.

Living together without connection is a lonely set-up for everyone.

When a child of divorce is marrying, putting up with ex-relatives is how parents show support and love.

A spouse is your equal, someone to encourage, rather than browbeat with your information.

Memories of past relationships can carry important lessons for future ones.

Consider physical pokes and other horseplay, as a warning signal, if a partner doesn’t stop because it hurts you.

Ongoing financial ties with an ex, are often issues for new partners.

It’s unfair to distance yourself from parental criticism, without trying to show support for your partner who IS affected by it.

A romantic pitch can’t just be about what you feel; you need to find out what the other person wants from love.

While snooping is wrong, sometimes the evidence found is more significant than the method of discovery.

If you respond to suspicions with betrayal, you have to recognize that you’re both flawed and need to re-connect from scratch….if possible.

When one partner’s sexual energy far outdistances the other’s, it’s time to talk about it and make some compromises.

Coming out can’t be pushed to someone else’s deadline; it’s a turning point that must come from within.

Adjusting to the fallout of divorce takes time and a positive outlook, even about big changes.

When a relationship has more stress than shared enjoyment, it’s time for The Talk about whether it’s worth staying together.

Moving forward means not being afraid to look back.

Don’t turn a negative experience into a lifelong saga of woe; real life is what you make of it.

When working for a negative boss, take positive steps to boost your own outlook.

When a partner shows unusual anger and judgment towards an in-law, the problem sometimes rests in the couple’s relationship.

When fury persists over an old relationship, it means you need to forgive yourself, more than the other person.

A broken heart over a break up often reflects anger at oneself, as much as the other person.

When battle lines are drawn down the marital bed, the fight isn’t about love and babies.

When you’re unhappy at home, poaching on someone else’s happiness isn’t the answer.

Breaking up IS hard to take, especially if you wallow in the past.

When major decisions are based around only one partner’s needs and feelings, the “team spirit” is bound to fade.

Teenage relationships come with huge emotional swings, requiring parents to set out boundaries and protections.

Sneaking around to see an ex is demeaning to the couple’s relationship.

Allowing a serious marital problem to persist, for fear of confrontation, only creates a later firestorm.

An affair is sometimes only an escapist interlude, and not a desire for divorce.

Major life decisions such as whether to have children aren’t always final.

When there’s a “secret somebody” barring the doorway to a date, the person you want is not free.

When sexual drive lessens, look for reasons and solutions, rather than blaming or giving up.

When a child is born from a spouse’s affair, that child’s well-being is more important than the anger of any adult involved.

No marriage vow should bind someone to accept true abuse; safety comes before all other negotiations.

Happy Valentine’s Day – an opportunity to celebrate all the loving relationships in your life!

Do not approach a problem with a bullhorn and bat, when a quiet conversation might just work.