Tip of the Day Archive
Speak up. Close friends will respond to your feeling left out. Others travelling with you will appreciate your reaching out.
Sibling love and support is most appreciated when it’s given without doubts.
A close relationship with a sibling is not the same as an emotionally romantic relationship with a spouse.
A father’s promotion to work/live in the U.S. away from his wife and children needs a full family discussion.
Romantic relationships between late-teens/young adults can be very supportive, if couples keep up with their studies.
When uncertain about the ups and downs of a relationship, talk to yourself. Then, raise the inner questions that you need to contemplate, and not fear.
Feeling heard and understood is also the most important basis of any relationship.
When a divorced parent bitterly destroys their child’s relationship to the other parent, no one benefits.
Early dreams of the perfect family lifestyle don’t always surmount the test of time.
Almost everyone has made some foolhardy decisions. Learn from them.
Loving grandparents can communicate positive, helpful information to their young grandkids, without lecturing the adult parents on how they choose to live. Instead, being helpful can resolve differences.
When someone’s marital affair could hurt people you know and care about, avoid the gossip entirely.
When a grandmother behaves as the extended family’s gossip-spreader, walk away.
Help towards an adult child’s advanced education costs, but the student must pay a reasonable share.
If both people in the relationship want a more honest, mutually self-affirming future, it’s a healthy choice. Accept agreeably.
When our own relationships need support, trusted friends can sometimes help with difficult decisions for going forward.
Complicated relationships can become less satisfying as an individual recognizes their personal need for deeper meaning in their life.
If you’re triggered by past traumatic events, professional therapy can be helpful.
Divorce, other peoples’ children, and dating anew all require work.
When friendship falters, both sides must yield or acknowledge failure.
Any wife being treated “like a servant,” needs to get help from a supportive organization e.g. a local YWCA.
When visiting an aging relative in a care home, show sincere interest in their well-being.
When a husband’s diligently-sought birthday gift only annoys you, postpartum “baby blues” may be involved.
It’s up to the adult offspring of their parents, especially those already in mid-life, to make healthy decisions about maintaining their well-being, and seek medical advice when needed to benefit their future.
When tragedy strikes and emotions are high, future decisions should be weighed very thoughtfully.
To live together to “see what happens,” isn’t as illuminating as mutually discovering how great it can be.
Don’t judge a potential partner’s age-related background. Learn about it.
Ignore years-ago high-school gossip.
Never judge a book by its cover, or a person by their thinning hair.
True friendship is about caring when it matters, not about gift exchanges.
An adult child’s undisclosed lifestyle is only a parent’s potential business if dangerous or coercive.
Be prepared to help your young adult through the possible heartbreak of a first relationship.
Dating-assists will always attract some singles, whether online, seated together briefly, or connected by paid match-makers. Your choice.
If you want to protect a family member you love, make time to visit and be present in their life.
Cheating can destroy a marriage and split a family, or be a turning point for positive change.
Mental health issues require professional help (psychologists/psychiatrists/clinical social workers, etc.) not lay peoples’ uneducated opinions.
To gain mutual trust with your children, discuss its importance from early years.
When you have love and self-achievement, pass it on.
When close friendship and family bonds collide due to opposing values, stay out of the middle but try to stay connected.
Don’t jump to conclusions about someone’s behaviour that reminds you of past events.
A health-compromised parent must seek professional supports to prevent her adult child from bullying her and giving her work orders.
When there’s a serious noise problem between adjoining apartment or condo-dwellers, resolve amicably rather than through legal means, if at all possible.
When a relationship’s going nowhere, recognize that it’s wrong for you. Move on.
Leave flawed relationships in the past; find happiness in your future.
Don’t let close people compete for your attention. It’s immature and harms all the relationships.
Don’t tell an adult child that you never loved their other parent. It resolves nothing.
When your core values are argued against, you’re with the wrong person.
Every special relationship matters, including those which ended simply because their time was over.
If he/she is stringing someone else along, you may be facing the same fate.
Loving grandparents can help families by example, not by lecture.