My boyfriend and I dated for six years off and on.
On weekends, he sleeps at my parent's house and snores so loudly that it wakes up everyone. He denies it, avoids talking about it, or doesn't care.
His snoring sounds like snorting, choking, gasping for air, and lasts all night. It’s such a nighttime annoyance, it strains our relationship.
He also experiences daytime sleepiness, drowsiness, dozes off while watching TV, has sore throats and headaches in the mornings, shortness of breath, and hypoglycemic reactions.
Is he unaware of his snoring or sleep apnea? Is it a serious problem?
How should I convince him to seek professional help?

- Exhausted

Your guy needs some straight talk, when he’s wide-awake.
His snoring is what’s causing his own daytime drowsiness, irritability, lack of focus, and (stress this) decreased libido for both of you.
Snoring of his type is often associated with sleep apnea – which means he’s stopping breathing repeatedly during sleep, up to hundreds of times during the night, often for a minute or longer.
Untreated, sleep apnea can cause high blood pressure and other cardiovascular disease, memory problems, weight gain, impotency, and headaches.
However, there are several treatment choices available. He needs to get checked out by his doctor.
Meanwhile, if the family doesn’t get relief from sleeping with earplugs, he should sleep at home. After all, pushing him out of reach may be the best motivator of all.
But if you get nowhere with these approaches, ask yourself this: could it be that the reason you’ve already been “off and on” over the years, is that this is one rude dude who’s so self-centered he doesn’t even respect your parents, let alone you, enough to not disturb them every weekend?
Think about it.

There’s a girl whom I’ll be going to school with next year and I know that I really like her.
I’ve never had feelings for a girl like this before.
I’ve gotten to know her over the past couple of months and can't stop thinking about her. She has an amazing personality.
The problem is that she has habits that I don't really agree with. For example, she drinks and sometimes gets drunk, she smokes occasionally and she has even tried marijuana (she's not even 18 yet!).
I, on the other hand, have never had a drink, don't smoke and have never tried any drugs.
I’m so confused because I really feel an attraction between us but it hurts when she tells me that she drinks and has done marijuana before.
How do I go about dealing with this?

- Dazed and Confused

Having confidence in your own standards is important for all your relationships, now and in the future. So, if you’re attracted to someone with different standards, it’s important to think through how to handle getting to know each other better without just plunging into a closer relationship and feeling compromised or disappointed.
Talk to her about her drinking, smoking, and drug use… you may find that she’s been going through a temporary experimental phase. OR, you may find she’s a person who likes taking risks, doesn’t have enough self-esteem to resist what the crowd is doing, and/or is careless about her health and image.
Once you have a clearer picture, you’ll know whether her good personality is superficial, compared to her habits, and whether you can really handle being in a relationship with someone who thinks and behaves so differently from you.

I’m 25 and engaged to a wonderful, handsome and successful doctor. He said he couldn’t marry a woman who’d had sex with another man, so I lied about my prior experiences (all brief and unsatisfying) with three different men.
Worse, he knows one of them, and would find it humiliating.
I’m certain that if I tell him he’ll be devastated and won’t marry me.
What should I do?

- Guilty

Many people believe in the “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy on past affairs. But, being discovered later as a liar can lead to long-term distrust, even divorce.
Better to take the risk of telling him now, explaining that it’s your brief, unhappy experiences that taught you to know when the right man came along, and that he’s the love of your life forever.
If he rejects you, he’s neither a forgiving nor compassionate man… both warning signs of a difficult husband, anyway.