My boyfriend of three years and I broke up after I’d asked if he saw a future for us and he wasn't sure.

We kept in touch, but I was always saying I’ve moved on. I was playing silly games, hoping he’d come to his senses.

On his birthday, I brought lunch to his workplace. We shared a kiss; it was electric.

I learned he was seeing someone and they’d declared an exclusive relationship that same night!

Several weeks later, we met up for sex. I begged him to leave his girlfriend. He wouldn't.

So, I told her what happened.

He’s now changed his number, and won’t speak to me. He said he loves her now, and I mean nothing.

How could he move on so fast?

I’m prepared to wait as long as it takes to have him.

Background – we’d met online while he was living with his daughter’s mother, but he lied that they weren't together.

On Facebook, he told girls he was single and hit on them, causing us several break ups and makeups.

But we were great together when we were good.

Will Wait Forever

When you live as a soap opera, it’s hard to create a healthy, committed future.

He lied from the start, and you accepted this.

So what was “good” beyond makeup sex? You’d be foolish and self-demeaning to “wait” for this guy.

Put this emotional seesaw behind you, and don’t get drawn into another.

I'm 15 and sat behind a guy one year older than me in French class, who seemed super nice.

Three days later, he asked for my number. The next day, he asked me out, but I said he didn't mean “date” because he's engaged.

Soon he was telling me how cute I was, beautiful, perfect, etc.

At play rehearsal, he sat next to me, put his hand on my leg. He said he loved and wanted me, and it was okay with his fiancée.

My friends all said it was super creepy and I could report him for harassment. At 18, he could be in serious trouble.

He later confided that his fiancée is a dog with which he's had sex once.

I was shocked and disturbed. He texted that I was an awful person for not accepting him as he was, and that he hates me.

So I pretended to understand. But I don't even want to be friends with him anymore.

Should I tell my mom?

Freaked Out in Louisville

YES, tell your mom that you’re freaked out by a guy at school who’s either got wildly different interests from you, or enjoys acting weird, hoping it’ll impress you. It clearly doesn’t.

You’re clearly close enough to your mom to think of sharing this, and you should… in case you need more serious help if he harasses you even once more. In that case, go with your mom to the police.

While he may’ve invented his “dog story” to keep you intrigued, he has to know you don’t want him touching you, following you to play practices, or talking about loving/wanting you…

Meanwhile, stop talking to others about this guy, as it’ll only focus him on you. Just say you’re sorry but he moved too fast, you’re not into dating. And end all chat or texting between you.

“Zoophilia” involves sexual activity between a person and animals, or an obsession on such practice. In most countries, bestiality is illegal under animal abuse laws or those dealing with crimes against nature.

FEEDBACK Regarding lack of supports for straight spouses of gay partners (August 15):

Reader – “Support definitely DOES exist for straight spouses. The wife in this situation can check out the Straight Spouse Network at straight spouse.org/home.php.

“If she can't find a support group in her area, and the online groups don't appeal to her, then her local PFLAG (Parents, Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) chapter (pflag.org) may be able to help her and her children understand and come to terms with this huge change in their lives.”

FEEDBACK Regarding the man uncertain about his Facebook loyalties (August 22):
Reader – “I hope his threatened female friend de-friends him in real life. 

“To pretend that doing nothing’s being "neutral,” he’s sending a huge message that his female friend's safety is less important than how such a routine act of de-friending on FB would be perceived.
“He doesn't have her safety interests at heart.”