I've been seeing this guy periodically, as a FWB, for seven months. Recently, he broke up with his girlfriend for good, so we spent more time together.

We agreed that we didn't want a relationship with each other, but the physical attraction's electric, undeniable, and we have great times together. This lasted several short weeks, and then suddenly he went cold.

After spending a weekend together, he's since ignored my calls and messages, and deleted me from his phone without even "goodbye." Yet we were as much good friends as we were lovers. We also have the same mutual friends, so we'll be running into each other. I only want to know why he's ignoring me, instead of confronting me with his issue.

How should I best approach him the next time I see him, so that maybe he'll tell me what changed?

Need To Know

If he has an equally strong need NOT to explain, your approach won't matter. Asking, pressuring, crying "foul," or insulting him will still get you silence... for now.

If he did have something he wanted to hear from you - e.g. if you did something wrong - he'd have told you already.

So, when you see him, act naturally, as an old but infrequently connected friend would do. Be polite, but detached. Ask nothing, and move on after your hellos. It may be the non-approach that'll make him want to explain himself.

I'm male, 21, my close friend since early high school is almost 19. I've always had more feelings for him but was able to keep my emotions in check because I thought he was straight and off-limits (he's usually had a girlfriend).

I eventually told him I'm gay and he's had no problem with it. I haven't said that I'm in love with him, but he must know because we joke about it. He's never expressed any desires for guys in general or me specifically, let alone gay encounters.

We usually hug each other goodbye but straight guys do too, so that isn't a sign or hint, right? He recently broke up with his girlfriend. When we next got together he suddenly asked if I'd like to hold hands with him while walking, then did.

Straight guys don't hold hands do they? I think he may be bi-sexual and even interested in me. But I may be reading too much into the handholding. He let go after only a minute because his sister saw us.

Or was he just doing me a favour? He once said he'd be worried about his parents' reaction if he were gay. Could he be too scared to pursue a guy? Should I help him come out of his shell? I don't want to ruin our great friendship.

Confused

Hugs and handholding are sometimes just equal gestures of friendship, especially when one person is a bit blue and reaches out for comfort.

You won't know the answer until you ask the question. But don't rush it. He's vulnerable now and may want to experiment but that could end up a disaster for your friendship if he gets uncomfortable.

At some point, when he's been on his own longer, ask if he had some reason that day for holding hands. It's an innocent enough question if you don't build your expectations and hopes.

And if he does want to experiment, make sure you believe he's ready for it. And also, that he knows to practice safe sex, as you must know, too.

A co-worker has invited me to her wedding. She knows that I'm married, however only my name appeared on the envelope.
My husband says that I should ask her if he's invited. A friend suggested that I send the reply back informing that the both of us are attending. What's your opinion?

Unsure

Your husband has better manners than your friend. It's rude to assume something, especially since the bride is clearly not a close friend.

She may've had to limit the list financially, so only invited co-workers on their own. Or she made a mistake on your invitation. Or thought your name covered you as a couple (I doubt that.... you could ask other colleagues who are married if and how they were invited).

It's appropriate to ask her directly what she intended, in a manner that shows you understand it's completely her choice, her day.