I’ve been engaged six months; we dated for six years prior, I was her first, and I’ve had a handful. She’s the perfect woman for me, I love her beyond words, but I’m not satisfied with our sex life. I initiate everything. I long for her to initiate, or flirt or tease with me.  
      It’s always been this way – she’s satisfied by me, but has no sex drive. She says she doesn't feel sexy but that it’s not because of me. She partly blames her weight, but she’s recently lost 30 pounds and things haven’t changed.     
      My worst fear is that we marry and I eventually look for someone who shows desire for me. It’s the last thing I want but I’m scared I’ll break her heart.   
       - Afraid I’ll Stray

With “straying” already out there as a default position, delay the wedding plans. Loving her “beyond words” isn’t helpful. You need lots of words … between the two of you, and within herself about her self-image. You seem to think she can change by wanting to please you or by merely dropping pounds. But the confidence lack that has her feeling un-sexy, goes deeper than that.  
      She needs to believe your excitement is about her as the woman she is, not who’ll she’ll become. Throughout your dating, you’ve wanted her to improve; the engagement has you even more anxious that she may not.
      This is pressure, not encouragement. Build your connection free of any deadlines: consider that chatting, cuddling, sharing confidences, stroking, all equals intimacy, and can increase the desire for sex.  
      If several months of a new approach doesn’t help, see a therapist together. The relationship is more important than the wedding date.

My husband of six years (together for nine) is in a ranching business with his parents; we have our land, they have theirs, except they control all the money and the business. We put our earnings from the cattle in their account and they handle it. Their driveway connects to our house, which they built.  
      My in-laws are alcoholics – they drink daily. My kids enjoy going there but it’s become difficult with all the drinking, name-calling, pettiness and telling me off. I don’t get along with them anymore. I don’t want my kids to see the horrible effects of alcoholism and am now keeping them away. I’m also arranging for a different sitter for when I go back to work.  
      My husband’s caught in the middle: Every time there’s fighting, his dad threatens to sell the farm and everything that goes with it. I want our own life and not to be meddled by them daily. I’ve been to counselling with my husband and alone.    
      We’ve written them a letter explaining our rules but they just laugh and do what they want.   
       - Desperate and Tired

Start with Simple: Do NOT use your in-laws as babysitters again. Visits by the children should include you and/or your husband, and be terminated when the fighting starts. Instead of giving rules, take charge by walking out when the atmosphere’s difficult or they drink in front of their grandchildren.  
      If the meddling and control continues, consider Complex Responses: See a lawyer and an accountant to discuss separating parts of the business, while still staying partners in the whole. OR, decide with Hubby if this partnership is ultimately destructive to your relationship. 
      If so, start financial and legal planning NOW, with professional help, to divide the business and possibly move to another home.

My wife of 32 years pays lip service to our budget agreement, and continues to overspend; or she gets really angry, and I shut down. With debt counselling for or $80,000, we had a five-year repayment plan. Four years later, we owe $50,000.  
      I’m “the husband who obsesses over money.” She says no one can control her. I’m on medication for depression and anxiety. We’ll be retiring soon and these “habits” are a recipe for disaster. How far do I go to regain my own happiness?   
       - Miserably Debt-Ridden

However “far” you go, you’ll both still fight over money. “Control” is the main issue, more than the debts. She’s spending in protest to your obsession, and how you’ve handled it (and perhaps other issues, too).  
      Couples’ counselling doesn’t solve everything, but neither does separating or declaring bankruptcy. You need a new way of handling ALL disagreements, not just over money.