I have an overwhelming obsession for women's feet. I've had it all my life and am considering turning gay.
I’ve developed a craving for male feet and believe that podophilia indicates homosexual tendencies.
Most of the females I've had sex with thought so too.
The few times I've worshipped a male’s feet it was very natural and uninhibited. Also, I've had my feet worshipped by females and males, but the males seem to get greater pleasure out of doing it.
I don't feel ashamed or humiliated by my fetish, but it seems that mainstream society still looks upon podophilia as unacceptable,
Should I seek help? Or continue my quest for beautiful feet, male or female?
For those readers who didn’t know, foot worship, or podophilia, is the most common form of sexual fetish related to the body.
It has nothing to do with sexual orientation, and is known among male and female fetishists.
To Footloose - You cannot “turn” gay, even though you may participate in sex with both genders.
Your foot worship is a private event. What matters is whether either person involved feels there’s something wrong with themselves or the activity…. clearly YOU don’t.
So long as you’re not hurting or forcing someone to participate, or taking your “quest” to people who’ll harm you, there’s no reason to seek help.
I'm at a loss about my mother's boorish behaviour.
She constantly makes insulting remarks to me about my fiancée and her family. I defend them, and also tell my fiancée, for which my mother’s blasted me.
My mother and aunt (a stroke victim) have never gotten along. My mom told my cousin that her mother deserved the stroke due to the bad blood between them.
When my cousin stood up for her disabled mother, she was “disinvited” to my wedding.
My mom told me that she was rude and obnoxious. However, we have a close friendship. I’ve insisted she’s still invited, as I’m paying for the wedding. My mother now refuses to attend.
My father won’t attend without her; and my siblings won’t attend, to not take sides.
My family says I started this mess by telling my fiancée my mother's insults.
My cousin has asked to be taken off the list, but she’s like an older sibling (I’m the oldest of three boys).
I’m the only one willing to confront my mother's bad behaviour, and believe that disinviting my cousin only enables Mom.
Confronting the Big Bad
This family’s undoubtedly been whipped into chaos before, given your mom’s nature. I understand your sharing yourview of your fiancée’s future MIL, and your loyalty to your bride, but repeating the insults was unwise.
Better to have told Mom privately that you’re not interested in her comments.
Now your cousin’s been targeted as the linchpin to make or break family unity, for the wedding. It’s a crummy choice for you. And frankly, there’ll be other divisive issues ahead.
Decide with your fiancée how you want your wedding to proceed – e.g. a private ceremony with just you two and best friends to stand up for you. OR, if you want both families there, then your cousin already accepts why she’ll miss the event. Keep her important in your life ahead, e.g. godmother to your first child.
Talk to your siblings. Say you now agree that you shouldn’t have repeated Mom’s nastiness, but there’ll always be rifts unless you try to stay united.
Frankly, I’m not sure that’ll succeed. She’s toxic. Protect your marriage.
My boyfriend (two years) has lived with me for four months. It was supposed to be for one month, but he hasn’t saved enough to move out.
I pride myself on being “good” with money. I’m very resentful about my working hard to pay rent/bills while he attends school, doesn't work, and never has enough money.
I’ve repeatedly suggested he leave or find another place. He gets angry, cries, and even threatens suicide.
He has issues from his childhood, which he refuses to handle. I feel trapped at 26, and unwilling to support him financially. I no longer want to be in this relationship but that may change when he moves.
Help him find a job, pay toward his first and last month’s rent, connect him to a distress hotline and referral for counselling. Then take a break. He needs professional help to care for himself, not be your dependent.
Tip of the day:
A foot fetish that doesn’t harm anyone is a private matter.