My husband and I live downtown in a really bad area in a big city, thousands of miles from our families. We both work full-time jobs.
He wants to have a child. I’m 28 and have had two abortions fifteen years ago and am scared to have a baby and would rather adopt a child in need.
We also don't have friends or family here as a support group and we don’t even own a car. We can't move back home because there are no jobs where our families live.
I feel panicked and that time is running out. Maybe being pregnant would kick my husband into high gear to want to improve our living situation?

- CLOCK TICKING

You need to face up to the conflict you feel about having a child, and stop looking for excuses, some of which don’t make sense. After all, it’s no easier to raise an adopted child in a bad neighbourhood, without family support, than it is to raise a child you give birth to.
I urge you to use this time (your biological clock has several years to go) to get counselling about the abortions you had as a young teen. They’ve left you scared, anxious, and confused about having children.
It would be unfair to your husband to let fears from the past dictate what should be a mutually-agreed decision.

I’m a female who, while on a holiday, met a lady friend. We communicated by phone and computer everyday. Our families took a trip together and I got a "red flag" feeling about her towards my husband.
I find it insulting to watch women flick their hair, purr and bat their lashes at him while they talk to him in a way that I’d never do to their husbands.
One day, I told her in a joking manner that I’d drop her as a friend if she ever did that to my husband as I don't think it’s cool. She swore that she valued my friendship too much to do that.
So, while on holidays this summer, we visited her home. By day two, I noticed that she made eyes at him when she thought I wasn't looking, she flicked her hair and giggled like a school girl, and walked by him with that "come follow me" look.
I told my husband to quit following her. He said it was innocent, he was just being friendly! I soon hustled my family to pack and get on our way.
When my husband later asked why so soon, I said I was uncomfortable with how the two of them acted. He apologized and promised that the next time we get together with them, he'll make sure there’s nothing like that. My feeling - there isn't going to be a next time!
One month later, my “friend” is sending emails saying she misses our chats. I don't know what to do.

- Insulted

The woman’s a born flirt and likely behaves with all men that way. But since it’s something you know you can’t accept, “friendly” or not, why put yourself in that position?
However, lots of people have friends they communicate with, and even occasionally see on their own, without being in couples together.
You did the right thing to be straight up with your husband about your discomfort, without blaming him, and he responded appropriately. You can go back to chatting with this woman, but keep it less frequent, and plan no more family visits.

Is it possible to wake up and discover that all feelings for someone are gone, without any reason? And how to tell that to a person?
I'm in a long (very far) distance relationship for over three years. We’re in touch daily by phone, email or live chat. We’re planning to meet later this year, and talking about a permanent future together.
I used to enjoy his attention, love letters, etc. but now find talking to him a chore.
We’re both 40, there’s no one else in my life beside him.

- Lost Feeling

It’s possible, because it happened to you. You’re over the build-up, the anticipation, the mystery of this faraway dream romance. Now reality is looming closer and it already feels like a drag with too many practical matters to consider.
Tell him that you have to end the relationship and call off the meeting; blame it on fantasy fatigue.