I’ve been together with my boyfriend for close to four years and we’ve always had a good sexual relationship until the last year. He was living overseas for over a year and we had survived the “long distance relationship;” he came back a few times and I had gone overseas to visit him, and everything was great.     
      Since he returned to stay, he’s been having performance issues that he initially said was caused by stress. Now he says that he has no sex drive. We’ve almost come to a complete stop in our sexual relationship. I know that he loves me deeply and everything else in our relationship is great but this is starting to tear us apart.
      He’s still very loving in every other way but he doesn’t think that this is a big issue. He thinks I’m putting too much value on this matter. I know that there’s no one else in the picture and it’s not because of any change in body image. The more I talk about it the more frustrated I seem to make him.
      - What to Do?

Your boyfriend has to stop brushing this off as a “not big” problem; and you have to handle the discussion as a couple’s challenge, rather than something he’s experiencing alone.     
      Love “in every other way” is only satisfying to the partner - YOU - if you truly feel satisfied. If so, drop the topic, enjoy the intimacy you do have and hopefully, without pressure, he’ll look into what’s happened to his libido.    
      However, you should both know that the change in his sexual behaviour could have a health-related basis, including health changes, medications, emotional problems, and/or addictions; he should be checked out by his physician.    
      If pronounced clear, sexual counselling would benefit you both. But if he refuses, you then need to decide how long you’re willing to put up with his do-nothing attitude about what is your sex life too.

I experienced a romantic obsession with someone else during my marriage, many years ago. I think it's important to point out to people that these feelings often come during a lull in your committed relationship, when someone you might be attracted to comes into your life (often work-related).    
      My solution was to talk to my husband about what I was feeling. All I did was confide in him in a calm, quiet moment that I was worried that I had feelings for someone.  His response couldn't have been better:  "I don't think you can work so closely with someone, especially someone who was such a great mentor to you, without loving them a bit."    
      That was all I needed to hear and it was the last I thought of that man in a romantic way! People are often sharing their concerns or feelings with a friend or family member instead of with the one they should be - their spouse!  I don't talk to my friends or mother or sister about any problems I might have in my marriage ... the only person I discuss it with is my husband!
      - Loving Lesson Learned

Lucky you to have such an understanding partner ... he’s lucky, too, that you trusted him with the information and believed you could deal with it together.    
      The workplace is a common breeding ground for crushes and romantic feelings, especially for those whose marriages are already stressed. Recognizing the danger signs at work and at home means you can first try to save the marriage.

My daughter’s in kindergarten and I’ve found many annoying problems with her teachers. I’ve complained  – e.g. they don’t have a scheduled bathroom time and my daughter wet herself several times, because she’s too embarrassed to ask aloud to “go.”      
      They make a verbal fuss about keeping hands clean, as part of swine flu prevention, but they often run out of hand sterilizer lotion. Now, I feel they see me as That Pesky Mother but aren’t I supposed to protect my child?
      - Upset Mom

Yes, you have a right and duty to protect your child but your approach can either be off-putting (such as blaming and angry) or helpful (such as organizing parent volunteers). Remember, a roomful of kindergarten kids can be very demanding.
      Be sure to also compliment the teachers on the progress your child makes and note when she’s been particularly happy with an activity or program they’ve planned.