I’m a male, mid-20s, whose birthday is coming up. However, I currently have no significant friends for this day since distancing myself from my closest male friend.

I have two female acquaintances with whom I’ve tried to re-connect, and am considering sending birthday invitations.

I’m only interested in meeting and socializing with ladies, as I’m totally STRAIGHT and have never been in a relationship. I have no interest whatsoever in meeting any new male friends.

Should I contact these ladies?? By phone or text? I prefer text, but I’ve been flaked so many times… no reply from them.

My last resource is creating an FB event and sending invitations to those people of interest. All my FB friends are females.

Birthday Boy

I believe that making your birthday some kind of friendship test with these women or anyone else, is NOT a good idea. Worse even, if you make it a Facebook event with lots of not-even-acquaintances.

You’re clearly at a turning point in your social needs for friends, companions, and a future relationship.

Be aware that anyone who writes in CAPS how very STRAIGHT he is begs the question: “Doth he protest too much?” Only you know the answer, or you may even be searching for it yourself, but proclaiming this will make people wonder.

Be yourself, follow your nature, your instincts, and your emotions.

Make friends with both sexes. Having male friends doesn’t restrict you from meeting women. The wider your network of people with whom you have some shared interests and mutual liking, the more potential closer friends you’ll make, the more chance for companionship, male or female.

Celebrate your birthday with one person you like a lot, even if it’s a family member, a neighbour, a colleague, and not a possible future mate.

It’s also better to treat yourself wonderfully on that day, alone – great food, great movie, or something else uplifting – than to force a false get-together with people who haven’t been responsive to you.

I’m recently divorced after a nine-year relationship, and was surprised to see my ex in my building elevator the other day with a new guy.
Seems he was online dating for the last few years. Now that I kicked him out (thanks to a good lawyer and prenup), after finding so many pictures and emails on his phone when I went to charge it one night, now he’s apparently throwing this back in my face.
Isn’t it a little creepy that the new guy is the same age as me, seemingly has a better job than the jerk I kicked out, and can now keep him in the style he was accustomed to with me? Or should I not let this bother me?

Apparently the ex can still be found on gay dating sites where he’s listed as partnered, but why be on the sites? Probably only a matter of time until his true colours are shown to this new person.
Meanwhile, how to deal?

In My Face

Deal from the high road. Be cool, but polite, and say as little as possible to him other than acknowledging his presence when he’s with the other guy.

Do NOT let him engage you in a real conversation. You kicked him out for good reason; it’s over.

Showing any emotion, anger, hurt, etc., will only satisfy him that you are not fully over this. Of course, betrayal wounds don’t heal immediately. But pride in who you are, can, if you will it.

My five-year common-law relationship was rocky sometimes, but it’s been solid for the past two years.

My constant hurt is that his ex common-law partner is still the executor and sole beneficiary of his will.

He’s promised me that he’ll change this but never does, there's always some excuse. He has no family so I’ve suggested he leave his estate to charity, but he never gets to see the lawyer.

All I’ve asked him is to make provisions that I have a home, if something happens to him. Your opinion?

Frustrated

Get a lawyer’s letter citing what will likely happen if your partner dies before he changes the will.

Example: His ex inherits the house and all his assets, and you’re thrown out. (In some jurisdictions you’d be able to sue for common-law rights, others not.)

Show him this legal opinion.

That should be enough to warrant your then giving him a deadline to change his will, or you leave.