I’m a young single man who works for building management in an office building. I take my job seriously and make an effort not to romance the ladies at work.
But there’s this one young very nice lady who’s flirting with me. She works for a different company. I’m very interested in her and want to let her know that I like her.
However, I don’t want to involve my job nor have anyone at the job know of any possible involvement. I thought about sending a card to her, but am not sure how this young lady will respond.
I don’t want to get in trouble or lose my job. Should I take a chance or leave things as they are?

- Wondering

Nothing spreads faster through an office building than gossip about a come-on from the building management guy. You’re the man lots of women see every day, and may even count on for help if there’s a security issue.
The fact that this one woman is flirtatious does not mean she’s interested in dating. Unless she makes this possibility clear to you, and is sincere about getting to know you outside of the building, you should only respond with politeness.
Your taking her more seriously could be more than she bargained for, and cause a negative reaction. Or, a casual fling with her could make your workplace feel uncomfortable once it’s over.
Besides, check your company’s policy on such liaisons; if it would have to be kept a secret, it’s already a problem in the making.

I’m married with two children, the perfect husband, and the perfect package with all that I could want.
The thing is, I married young and I’ve only ever been with one man. I’m finding myself curious and constantly feel like straying. I don’t, but the urge is there.
I don’t want to hurt anyone, but the feeling will not go away. It’s ripping me apart and my husband can see that I’m irritable. My hormones just feel out of control.

- Need Help

Caution: You could lose everything if you don’t get a grip on what’s making you so restless.
Despite your claims of a “perfect package,” you’re expressing the common itch of someone who feels unloved and/or under-stimulated. This likely has to do with factors you haven’t mentioned – perhaps an unsatisfactory sex life, or not having some free time for yourself.
There are healthier ways to scratch that itch without straying into the dangers and complications of an affair.
I strongly recommend that you talk to someone trusted, such as your doctor, a counsellor, or a wise friend. Be honest about what’s missing in your life, and seek changes within your marriage.
You and hubby may need to start having a weekly “date” night out together; or maybe you need to start a project or go back to school.
Having an affair as the answer is really looking for trouble.

My boyfriend of six years and I are both 35.
In a discussion, he put me down, saying, "I don't know how you could actually make a career out of playing the piano."
He sees himself as a successful corporate executive, and his siblings are all successful engineers. He claims that senior level positions have always been offered to him on a silver platter.
I didn’t respond.
However, I thought, “You loser, I’m successful too." Example: I’m performing, teaching, running my own business, own several pieces of real estate, etc. I’m an ambitious, no-nonsense, results-oriented person.
How can I prove to him that I’m just as successful - making more money than he and his siblings put together, living my dream, and making the best of things?
Should I have attacked him or ignored him?

- Unsure

You should have ended the competition – either by breaking up, or insisting that you both acknowledge each other respectfully.
Frankly, this sounds like a relationship headed to blow apart anyways – unless you two super-achievers start thinking like a team, rather than besting each other. You’ll both only emerge successful as a couple if you can put your egos aside and admire each other, without feeling the need to make comparisons. That means appreciating each other’s different skills and working to complement each other in the things you do together.
Otherwise, your natural resentment of his negative view of your work and accomplishments, means you’re with the wrong guy.