A guy who can't stop connecting with new women has one foot outside the relationship.

Learn to love yourself, and you won't tolerate a jerk.

Protecting a "grown" child works best through thoughtful intervention, without force.

Sometimes, it's necessary to risk a friendship and urge someone to take difficult steps.

Try to keep humour about non-threatening family quirks, whenever possible.

Neighbour problems can become extremely nasty and force a move. Proceed carefully.

Big changes call for discussing an Adjustment Plan, to reassure both people in the relationship.

If living with abuse, get counselling to help insist on changes in the relationship, or leave.

Internet harassment may be deemed criminal behaviour that must be stopped, with police involved.

Meeting someone personally, through friends or family, is usually preferable to Internet pursuit.

Friends can be a better influence if they offer positive support instead of negative judgment and dire predictions.

Don't look for a problem, if the important things are going well.

When it's clear that someone who's hitting on you is involved in another ongoing relationship, just end the contact.

Don't let relatives' rudeness colour the joy and graciousness of your wedding day.

Rushing someone into a relationship often causes a bigger rush away.

Fashion is another relationship message to heed.

If your "insecurity" comes from a partner's emotional distance, the relationship needs re-tooling.

Be careful of making calculated "deals," when emotions are involved.

Moving in together, with children, requires advance planning and realistic expectations.

When an unhealthy relationship gets dangerous, an intervention by close family and friends is warranted.

When a teenage relationship goes stale, both parties need to gain more life experience, and confidence about what they want.

When children get involved in things you don't understand, get fully informed.

Child custody and access require long, thoughtful deliberation with professional help, for the best interests of the children.

When "friends" consciously fail you, say so. True friends will apologize.

When colleagues' habits are annoying, find solutions.

Someone who invites pursuit, but does nothing personally, usually gives nothing in return.

For all who are struggling, use these ideas of the past two days' columns to explore every resource to help children have a fair chance at growing up with food, shelter, and security.

We can all help, by making sure the clothes, toys, and furnishings we no longer use, go to places like Goodwill.

Working on a marriage means acknowledging the distractions and people that interfere with it, and making changes.

A relationship of mutual love is worth making a major effort to stay together.

When the same drama keeps re-playing, change the script and stop accepting shabby treatment.

After a separation-period affair, reconciling usually requires couples' counselling together.

When roommate tension is escalating, get help.

A partner's annoying nervous tic needs your understanding, to encourage finding distractions.

Adult children who want a relationship with their parents need some understanding of the aging process.

A big mouth is a red flag to friendship, since it destroys trust.

Get expert help for complex problems.

Help teenagers learn the social value of decent table manners.

If you're doing the "chasing," the other party doesn't have to show interest… or feel it.

Loyalty to the wrong partner choice isn't being loyal to yourself.

In a multi-problem family, nurture the relationships that do work.

When a relationship's been toxic, repairing it requires both parties to do the work.

When the future feels too vague and far off, work on a timeline together.

Sometimes relationship red flags are raised by others who care about you – and sometimes they're as clear as day.

Post-divorce dating often takes time to find the balance between kids and a new partner.

When unfocused behaviour persists, consider a medical check for reasons.

What happens between siblings is theirs to resolve.

Don't ignore red flags just to prove something to others.

Stop snooping and get counselling to find solutions.

Help this mother with ideas for a better 2012.