Tip of the Day Archive
Being the Rescuer to an Abuser comes at too high a price.
Hiding from in-law problems with your spouse is unfair to everyone involved.
A continued power struggle in marriage either wears both sides down to misery or eventually causes a split.
To gossipmongers, your marital problems are pure entertainment.
Obesity is best approached as a health risk, rather than a relationship problem.
When someone is running your life, you may have given them the power.
A marriage that can end over “puppy wars” has other problems eroding it.
Loved ones deserve greater sensitivity and caring when they’ve been through a trauma.
Show adult children understanding for their need for separate space and routines.
Compromises sometimes have to be re-worked over time – but not through sudden whim.
Email contact isn’t evidence of cheating, but secrecy indicates a problem with trust.
Don’t expect trust from someone you once betrayed, until you’ve proven your renewed commitment.
When depression becomes the overriding response to problems, professional help is needed immediately.
When a dating relationship creates persistent anxiety, explore the roots of your reactions.
When a married person doesn’t want a friendship to “go further,” back off any other expectations, for everyone’s sake.
Don’t snitch on bad behaviour, try to influence change.
Different moral values can eventually mean different, and unacceptable behaviour – better to start a relationship knowing you’re both on the same values page.
When a partner repeatedly ignores “the problem” you raise, he or she IS the problem.
Your family’s friendship with your “ex” sometimes calls for negotiations to assure everyone’s comfort.
Stay close and supportive to children on whom you can have a positive influence.
When a relationship goes stale, it’s the people who need to refresh their motivation, or move on.
When cheating becomes obvious, stop snooping and take action.
When a partner offers no ideas regarding a problem, the spouse often feels unheard.
The ongoing bitterness of an ex-spouse can harm a family more than the divorce.
Mature singles may’ve not married for a variety of reasons that should not be guessed.
An extramarital affair is always risky, but secret sexual encounters with a same-sex lover is like playing with matches and dynamite.
An ex may be a friend, but a partner comes first.
A critical attitude toward another’s family, while dating, adds more stress than solutions.
A relationship gets too costly to bear when only one side is paying emotionally as well as financially.
Children generally feel that their parents’ sex life is “Too Much Information.”
A loving partner doesn’t listen to family insulting you.
Relationships kept in the dark often don’t survive in the light.
In-law troubles can break up a family, if there aren’t boundaries against intrusions and control.
A relationship based on one person always giving in, is headed for trouble.
A partner who indulges in deceit and demands is dangerous to your self-esteem and well-being.
Staying with a guy who’s trolling for others, says more about you than him.
Starting a serious relationship with a secret is a recipe for living with tension and fear.
Use this anniversary of tragedy and loss, to acknowledge the loved ones in your life and the importance of your relationships.
When you stoop to snoop, you may end up fighting shadows in your own mind.
Moving forward after a bad break-up means being open to new possibilities, showing interest and being interesting.
Hostile post-divorce relationships can cause more harm to children than to either spouse.
When emotions from a past divorce interfere with sex in a relationship, it’s time for professional help.
Living with suspicion and insecurity is counterproductive – damaging to the very relationship you wish to secure.
Low libido is a problem that both partners need to address with intention, not blame.
Partners who’re always giving “lessons” in behaviour, are usually controllers, not teachers.
When a partner is haunted by old baggage, no relationship can thrive.
A relationship that exists only in one person’s mind, is not real.
An online “friendship” isn’t a romance until you start dating in person.
An affair is an affair, and can’t necessarily predict the potential for a happily married union.
When a snorer’s in denial, a tape recorder can provide the wake-up message.