Tip of the Day Archive
When you’re unhappy at home, poaching on someone else’s happiness isn’t the answer.
Breaking up IS hard to take, especially if you wallow in the past.
When major decisions are based around only one partner’s needs and feelings, the “team spirit” is bound to fade.
Teenage relationships come with huge emotional swings, requiring parents to set out boundaries and protections.
Sneaking around to see an ex is demeaning to the couple’s relationship.
Allowing a serious marital problem to persist, for fear of confrontation, only creates a later firestorm.
An affair is sometimes only an escapist interlude, and not a desire for divorce.
Major life decisions such as whether to have children aren’t always final.
When there’s a “secret somebody” barring the doorway to a date, the person you want is not free.
When sexual drive lessens, look for reasons and solutions, rather than blaming or giving up.
When a child is born from a spouse’s affair, that child’s well-being is more important than the anger of any adult involved.
No marriage vow should bind someone to accept true abuse; safety comes before all other negotiations.
Happy Valentine’s Day – an opportunity to celebrate all the loving relationships in your life!
Do not approach a problem with a bullhorn and bat, when a quiet conversation might just work.
In a loving relationship, one partner must not act superior.
Adult table manners are a sensitive topic: Guide, but don’t lecture.
Power struggles aren’t about the actual topic, but about whether two people can solve disagreements.
All relationships have peaks and valleys; find ways to appreciate the ordinary times, and to occasionally renew the spark.
“Are you going to have children?” is NOT a casual question; it’s intrusive and None of Your Business.
Children of addicted parents can benefit from support groups, and may also need professional help.
When your values are totally different, it’s time to cool the friendship.
When doing “everything” for another isn’t working, change your whole approach.
When a relationship is hugely different from what you expected, make sure you can deal with the consequences.
When watching porn interferes with a relationship, the tension can easily build towards a break-up.
Speaking up is the way to insist on a partnership; staying silent will eventually lead you to flee.
A long distance relationship cannot thrive on suspicion and drama.
Look for the way into a difficult discussion through recognizing what factors could’ve created the problem.
The first involvement after a major break-up is often the Transition Romance, but not the last one.
Happiness that’s self-centered can become a lonely one-way street.
When a separation is inevitable, so is the need for learning your legal rights and responsibilities.
When you find yourself going down the same path with each relationship, examine how you make your choices.
Grandparents need to respect their children’s rights to raise their kids as they choose, so long as there are no abuse issues.
Daydreaming about “the one that got away” can be destructive to holding onto the one you chose instead.
When suspicions take over your ability to enjoy a relationship, it’s time to be pro-active about your next move, rather than wait for calamity.
Co-parenting with an ex – along with his/her new spouse – takes putting criticisms last, and your child’s comfort level first.
Long distance relationships require efforts and plans by both sides for contact and visits.
“Breaks with rules” are usually a signal that the relationship just isn’t working.
When any problem makes you feel hopeless, call your local distress centre immediately to re-connect with all that’s worthwhile in yourself.
Secrets and lies are destructive to a marriage, they never “save” the situation.
Confronting a former abuser, personally, should only be done after counselling has made you stronger within yourself.
In-law problems can destroy all the relationships in a family. For my personal help with tough in-law situations, see my reality TV show, “Outlaw In-laws” on Slice TV.
When a sporadic, platonic friendship with someone of the opposite sex creates jealousy, the problem is usually with the relationship, not the friend.
Intimacy is the glue between a loving couple; when it’s withdrawn, usually other aspects of the union have become unstuck.
Talking someone into a relationship, over their doubts, is a set-up for an unequal union.
A foolish flirtation can become a positive turning point in a marriage, if both parties recognize what’s missing.
The “40s” are often wake-up years that point to what needs changing in your life.
When dating seriously, previous close relationships take on new meaning if you fail to mention them.
In a new relationship, listen and absorb what your potential partner is really saying.