Tip of the Day Archive
When a spouse shows little commitment, the partner has to decide what he/she can’t accept.
Raising children is a choice that’s best made from a basis of love, not need.
Long distance relationships can’t survive without communication that’s sensitive to each others’ feelings.
You can’t repair a marriage if you’re distracting yourself with work and playing around.
When someone has reciprocal feelings for you, they somehow let you know.
When a friend sets out on a trouble-strewn path, a warning is better than turning away.
Bitterness over separation agreements eventually affects children; learn your rights and deal with them.
A repeat pattern of ending relationships through suspicions should trigger self-reflection and/or counselling on ways to change.
When there’s a major boost in finances, couples need to share the responsibilities as well as the joy.
An adult child can effectively give an unfaithful parent a needed wake-up call.
When discussing the next big step in a relationship, make sure you both hear and agree with each other’s expectations from it.
Sometimes you have to let an ex go, to help them move on independently.
If the idea of an open relationship seems enticing, be sure you think through all the consequences.
When a contentious issue is beyond solution, it often becomes the deal-breaker in a relationship.
A mutual friend has no ownership over the new buddies’ friendship.
When a couple’s time is constantly intruded upon, they need to discuss setting boundaries, and why the interference was permitted.
If an ex fires up sparks, there’s risk of burning through your primary relationship.
A small mistake can become a huge headache, unless you handle it quickly and openly.
Forgiveness of a past betrayal is admirable, but accepting ongoing put-downs is self-defeating.
A marriage entered into without love or companionship is an arrangement that’s bound to become dissatisfying.
When it’s impossible to communicate, couples need professional counselling.
Divorce is not the logical solution to outside stresses and should be decided after other crises are handled.
When a difference of opinion is a potential deal-breaker, weigh your choices.
A double life usually leads to double the hurt all around; it’s better to choose.
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When practical solutions don’t resolve a household standoff, counselling is needed.
No matter how self-protective a lie may be, it’s ultimately bound to have a negative effect on a relationship that you were dishonest.
When a potential partner acts like a carefree, irresponsible single, you can expect to be leaned on for the serious matters.
Changes in sexual desire usually have a reason that needs exploring, rather than a threat of escape.
Loving step-parents should be celebrated.
Serial relationships don’t leave time for learning from the past.
Intrusive in-laws take a great risk of eventually being left out.
A romantic escape is often the clue that your reality needs to be changed.
It’s up to the adult child to set boundaries with critical parents.
Sometimes, the messes you created have gone too far to fix, and the people you betrayed should be left alone.
When parents’ rules seem strict, try various compromises, but always prove yourself worth their trust.
When a family member risks serious trouble, be direct, not passive.
Family support needs to be positive and encouraging, not critical.
When a partner seeks flights of fantasy it’s time for the whole relationship to undergo a reality check.
Abusive relationships are destructive to everyone involved.
Sometimes it’s the little things that signal warnings of far bigger relationship problems.
Every relationship involves obligations, yet some need to be weighed against personal unhappiness.
The Rescuer is often NOT the person turned to for a next equal partnership.
Don’t return to an old relationship expecting it to be exactly the same.
When a partner seizes power, refuse to be dominated.
Advice should be geared to solutions and improvement, not to judgment and punishment.
Questioning one’s own sexual orientation is a personal quest that requires time for acceptance and adjustment.
A good therapy relationship requires a good “fit” and a willing client.
Discussions about a pre-nuptial agreement should always be guided by a professional advisor.