Tip of the Day Archive
When an adult child is deceptive and insensitive, trust is broken.
You can’t choose a partner’s relatives, so decide together how to handle them.
Acting insensitive to your partner’s feelings can start to erode a relationship.
An ultimatum is often added pressure at the worst time.
A gem from the past can be too glittery to hang onto, if it disturbs your new partner.
Office gossip about someone’s partner being gay can be dangerous to both long friendships and jobs.
Partners who are left alone too often may become vulnerable to people who seize the advantage.
Differences in relatives’ personal food choices needn’t be a recipe for family divisiveness.
A relationship with constant “win or lose” discussions, always leaves one party dissatisfied.
Don’t let past “mistakes” obstruct the success of a good relationship.
An active, loving sex life can be one of the great connectors in marriage.
When it comes to protecting your child, trust your gut.
Children’s best interests do NOT include running their parents’ lives.
When someone’s opinions are always being forced onto you, the whole relationship is likely to be unequal.
An emotional affair may be more of a warning than a habitual pattern.
When a sexual “problem” affects a relationship, it’s sometimes more about the relationship than the sex.
The signals given during dating are often Early Warning Signs that need to be fully understood.
Compassion and compromise are necessary in post-divorce weddings and second-time marriages.
The “fatal” mistakes in a marriage are the ones from which you flee, rather than learn and work to improve.
Trust returns through day-to-day behaviour, not through promises.
When more time is spent with pornography than with you, it’s time to go it alone.
In relationships, pushy equals needy and is usually a big turn-off.
Hallowe’en can be a fun, fanciful event, so long as children’s safety comes first.
Knowing your own part in a break-up, is the first step towards getting better at relationships.
“Don’t talk to strangers” is an old safety rule that still applies to getting close and personal electronically.
Revealing a partner’s innermost secrets is a no-no that can become a deal-breaker.
Being the Rescuer to an Abuser comes at too high a price.
Hiding from in-law problems with your spouse is unfair to everyone involved.
A continued power struggle in marriage either wears both sides down to misery or eventually causes a split.
To gossipmongers, your marital problems are pure entertainment.
Obesity is best approached as a health risk, rather than a relationship problem.
When someone is running your life, you may have given them the power.
A marriage that can end over “puppy wars” has other problems eroding it.
Loved ones deserve greater sensitivity and caring when they’ve been through a trauma.
Show adult children understanding for their need for separate space and routines.
Compromises sometimes have to be re-worked over time – but not through sudden whim.
Email contact isn’t evidence of cheating, but secrecy indicates a problem with trust.
Don’t expect trust from someone you once betrayed, until you’ve proven your renewed commitment.
When depression becomes the overriding response to problems, professional help is needed immediately.
When a dating relationship creates persistent anxiety, explore the roots of your reactions.
When a married person doesn’t want a friendship to “go further,” back off any other expectations, for everyone’s sake.
Don’t snitch on bad behaviour, try to influence change.
Different moral values can eventually mean different, and unacceptable behaviour – better to start a relationship knowing you’re both on the same values page.
When a partner repeatedly ignores “the problem” you raise, he or she IS the problem.
Your family’s friendship with your “ex” sometimes calls for negotiations to assure everyone’s comfort.
Stay close and supportive to children on whom you can have a positive influence.
When a relationship goes stale, it’s the people who need to refresh their motivation, or move on.
When cheating becomes obvious, stop snooping and take action.
When a partner offers no ideas regarding a problem, the spouse often feels unheard.
The ongoing bitterness of an ex-spouse can harm a family more than the divorce.