Tip of the Day Archive
See-sawing from an affair to divorce to living together, obscures what you’re really able to give to a relationship.
Children raised under joint custody need assurance that they’re wanted and secure with each parent.
Don’t let fear and frustration create barriers to your relationship.
Forgiving repeated meanness and rejections gives your partner no reason to change.
New parents need time alone together besides visits with eager relatives.
Don’t change your basic values to hold onto someone.
Even when anger and resentment are warranted, it takes a toll on those who live with it.
Planning marriage with a person, who’s repeatedly lied to you, is a recipe for distrust and heartbreak.
Make your own best choices (with your partner) for your wedding, rather than be upset by others’ egos and past agendas.
When a relationship’s toxic to you, don’t wait for the other person to agree to get help. Go on your own.
Focusing on petty judgements may reflect relationship-fear rather than the wrong partner.
When a new “friend” comes between a married couple, there’s a disruptive impasse ahead.
Change a mother-daughter power struggle to a relationship between two equal adults.
A babysitter for your children must be someone you trust, period.
To paraphrase the renowned American writer/poet civil-rights activist Maya Angelou: “You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.”
Fantasy or escapist daydreams interfere with taking positive steps to feel better about yourself.
Families dealing with addictions aren’t alone. There’s support available for loved ones and the addicted person.
In a standoff over chores? When there’s no workable solution, look for the deeper problem.
When trust ends, seeking truth is sometimes the only way to save yourself from more deception.
A discovered secret of extramarital sex with a same-sex partner must be discussed as soon as possible.
With a chronic complainer, respond to the issues on which you can be supportive, and sidestep the nonsense.
A severely depressed partner needs professional help beyond emotional support.
Someone who’s periodically gone from a relationship without explanation, has someone else waiting.
The devastating crime of sexual molestation by a parent leaves long-term issues to handle.
Laziness regarding work can become far more annoying in a long-term relationship.
Even small white lies, if they keep adding up, become a grey cloud over a relationship.
As new parents, check with the baby’s doctor and seek information on any persistent and worrisome behaviours.
Being wooed by lies and deceit isn’t a secure basis for a long-term relationship.
When you suspect an ex’es motives, ask the question directly or get professional advice.
If a partner experiences shocking news, be supportive and don’t overreact, even if he/she needs some time alone.
A parent who tries to obstruct a wedding for selfish reasons, risks being by-passed.
A fantasy of future love doesn’t solve present loneliness.
People who seek advice usually need guidance more than orders.
Do NOT rush into a move that can ruin your relationship with your children. Think long and hard, get counselling, put the children first.
Friends can be most supportive by raising questions that matter about a toxic relationship.
Lines of trust between a couple shouldn’t be handled loosely.
Some relationships are important just because they exist.
When a random text from a long-ago friend stirs up trouble, it’s the relationship that needs discussing.
Love at a distance can only be kept warm if both parties fan the flame.
Don’t rush towards a break-up; discuss ways to a closer connection.
Happy Valentine’s Day!
Weight is not fair game for casual comments.
Don’t ignore heavy emotional reactions from an ex. Alert close support people.
Weighing your own past hurts against your children’s needs requires the ancient wisdom of King Solomon, or a current process of counselling.
When a volatile relationship ends, counselling can help you recognize in future what is considered healthy and unhealthy “love.”
Frequent absence from family recreation and sexual partnership is unfair, period.
If leading by example doesn’t work, just say what you need.
Always being convenient and comfortable for the other is a one-sided relationship.
When one sibling is assaulted by another, each needs separate support and response.
When out-of-character behaviour causes a break-up, you need to prove that it won’t happen again.
Even on a beach, discretion’s wise when you meet someone new.