Tip of the Day Archive
In relationships of life and love, waiting out a problem isn’t always the route to resolving it.
It’s often up to the grandparents to work at staying connected to their grandkids.
Count the progress of your connection with someone, not the months of dates.
Facing ongoing drama between divorced ex’es, the new couple-to-be should seek counselling help.
Keeping or ending a pregnancy from a problematic relationship is a complex decision with long-lasting impact emotionally and practically. Don’t be bullied or coerced over it.
Don’t ask, don’t count. Assess a dating partner by his/her behaviour with you.
Rise above nasty gossip to enjoy your child’s wedding and secure your relationship with the new couple.
A secret outside affair doesn’t improve your relationship, it changes it.
Repeated sudden angry outbursts call for health checks of the person’s physical and/or mental health.
Discovering a partner’s unknown and troubling past is shocking, but still deserves an opportunity for honest discussion.
Some family rifts have a basis in events that need to be talked out with sensitivity.
Staying with an emotionally abusive, irrationally angry, and haranguing partner is dangerous to your well-being and risks your safety.
When sex/intimacy becomes “the elephant in the room,” start talking, preferably through counselling.
Warning: When one partner cuts off sexual relations, the other starts reacting.
Readers: The question is current again – Should you out a cheater?
Volatile relationships regarding angry ex-spouses with children, call for getting legal, family court, and sometimes police advice on how to handle.
If he’s married and not making plans with you, he’s got other plans for himself and his wife.
People love to “solve” others’ sex problems, but many can hardly discuss their own.
When two generations live together in constant conflict, someone among them has to be the adult and make a change in the situation.
Persistent cheating in a relationship can’t be excused as attention-seeking only. It’s also selfish betrayal of your partner.
Years of silence is no way to address a marital problem. Speak up in counselling, together.
The best revenge is moving on happily and confidently.
Grieving can happen even before an anticipated loss, and may require professional help to get through it
A partner’s persistent lying ends trust in him/her and in the relationship.
Video games aren’t parents’ enemy. It’s not keeping aware of how they’re being handled by your child, and not setting time controls and interaction boundaries.
Find wedding-day compromises and solutions that you can accept; reject those you can’t.
If trusting someone with sensitive secrets has been disappointing, insist that it can’t happen again. And mean it.
Don’t let another’s jealousy cast shadows on your wedding. Be firm but mindful of any ways to be kind.
Casual sex isn’t so casual if you can’t handle the consequences of helping someone cheat.
Enticements to unwanted sexual experiments and behaviours can happen anywhere. Be true to yourself.
Two strikes from a partner with a “love-them/leave-them pattern” should end this hurtful game.
Too-complicated relationships without a foreseeable change, wear people down.
When your family history’s rife with sibling resentment and anger, aging won’t resolve it.
Three LOUD alarms: Porn-addiction, including teen porn, teen step-daughters in the house, rejecting spousal sex.
If sexual-identity confusion becomes overwhelming, discuss it with a professional therapist.
Persistent unchecked neediness for outside flattery and desire that risks a partner and family, becomes a ticking time bomb.
Snooping, doubts, and interrogations are common steps towards break-ups. Try trust and discussion until there’s solid evidence or admission of deceit.
Be aware that affairs used as an “escape” often have their own emotional traps.
In all relationship experiences, don’t let one bad one define you by limiting your life.
Daily harangues are unacceptable. Get talking about solutions, or get help.
If your relationship contains love, shared interests, and compromises, feel confident to discuss the future.
If you can’t trust a future partner’s ability to manage his/her anger, walk away.
Not enough sex? Stop keeping score, find common ground. You’ll feel better.
Having a child should be a mutual decision, or it can divide your relationship.
Don’t stay trapped by another’s depression and addictions.
A complacent sex life can be heated up unless underlying issues are left unresolved.
If wedding plans only require a few peace-keeping/sanity adjustments, you’re lucky.
When slob behaviour’s “crippling” to a partner, make compromises and negotiate boundaries.
A fetish can be understood and better accepted if its source is understood.
Trust your need to move on and save yourself, instead of trying to trust someone who lies, cheats, and disrespects you.