Tip of the Day Archive

August 23, 2018

A crappy ex is just that. Move on.

August 22, 2018

Friendships that focus on trying to change another’s attitudes often have a relatively short shelf life.

August 21, 2018

Grandparents can best help their grandchildren thrive, if they consult with and respect the parents.

August 20, 2018

Protect youngsters from second-hand marijuana smoke and pot-laced foods; respect others’ rights to smoke elsewhere.

August 18, 2018

When a potential relationship presents obvious questions, take time to decide how to answer them yourself.

August 17, 2018

Channel fantasies of a romantic marriage of perpetual ease, into energy for creating a strong union and happy family life.

August 16, 2018

Wedding gifts to your adult children should reflect their choices.

August 15, 2018

When repeatedly listening to someone confiding nasty behaviour, you inadvertently become an enabler.

August 14, 2018

Adult siblings with difficult personalities since childhood are unlikely to change, but may need help eventually. Keep contact.

August 13, 2018

Don’t let mother-daughter tensions put a baby’s well being in the middle. Raise gentle questions, not escalated fears.

August 11, 2018

Distancing and cheating are common relationship break-up twins. Communicate first.

August 10, 2018

From Michelle Obama in 2016, about responding to others’ negative behaviour: “When they go low, we go high.”

August 9, 2018

If you’re bearing all responsibilities for kids, work and home, you haven’t got a partner unless there’s major change.

August 8, 2018

Don’t be afraid to seek a connection with someone, first as a friend.

August 7, 2018

When undefended against in-law bullying, stand up for yourself, talk to a counsellor, and carefully consider your future.


August 6, 2018

While open honesty is preferred, long-ago past relationships when single, are sometimes understandably unrevealed. Forgive.

August 4, 2018

Casting for opinions about whether to divorce is like fishing without bait. Gather material understanding first of what went wrong.

August 3, 2018

Beyond romance, finding personal independence and satisfaction help create a healthy partnership.

August 2, 2018

It’s the relationship that’s dividing you, not the cottage.

August 1, 2018

Dating too many too much? Curb the rush and take time to reflect on their character.

July 31, 2018

There’s often more to what’s wrong in a relationship than assumptions about cheating.

July 30, 2018

Confronting escalating anger/threats requires contacting all resources including police.


July 28, 2018

Work on financial difficulties together, instead of blaming and cheating.

July 27, 2018

A doctor-patient “romance” crosses professional lines in many jurisdictions, especially if seen, legally, as sexual abuse due to a power imbalance.

July 26, 2018

Post-divorce emotional pain can be as hard on the parent who’s rejected as on the children who turn away.

July 25, 2018

Confiding marital problems to a former lover disrespects your partner, period.

July 24, 2018

When a partner’s seeking caring attention at emotional times, give it, don’t hold back with attitude.

July 23, 2018

Without trust, love isn’t enough long-term.

July 21, 2018

Instead of having repeated hit-and-run relationships, get professional counselling to understand your own imperfections and fears.

July 20, 2018

Having unprotected sex with multiple partners is a set-up for future problems you never considered.


July 19, 2018

Joining a stranger for an unknown destination creates a setup for high risk.

July 18, 2018

A name change is a personal choice, if legally possible.


July 17, 2018

Mental health abuse plus bullying by a parent, can harm a child for life.


July 16, 2018

Uncontrollable-child behaviour calls for professional information and direction, for the child’s sake.


July 14, 2018

Healing post-divorce stress doesn’t happen through wanton promiscuity, seething anger, or blanket distrust of women/men. Get counselling.


July 13, 2018

A father’s scorn can be very damaging to daughters even if they’re adults.

July 12, 2018

Comparing numbers of past sexual partners is misleading. What counts are reasons for past behaviour and the person’s character today.

July 11, 2018

Don’t hide romantic feelings for a friend. No risk, no chance.

July 10, 2018

When siblings dictate who cannot visit the family cottage, it’s time to decide if the drama is worth it.

July 9, 2018

Parents must set early boundaries on their children’s video-gaming and watch for signs of excessive involvement with it.

July 7, 2018

“Outing” a cheater can lose a friend. But silence risks greater upheaval to the betrayed partner.


July 6, 2018

If emotionally involved with someone accused of an act you can’t accept, take space from the relationship until all the facts are known.

July 5, 2018

“Dating” an old friend while excluding your life partner, is demeaning and risks the relationship.

July 4, 2018

People living with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder need continued understanding from those close to them.

July 3, 2018

A relative’s self-absorbed behaviour doesn’t warrant the whole family accepting discomfort, rudeness, and negativity.

July 2, 2018

Learn to manage the baggage of a divorced spouse who shares child custody with his ex.

June 30, 2018

Polyamory requires a couple’s mutual agreement; it’s not just an excuse for cheating.

June 29, 2018

You can only encourage troubled people to help themselves, not do it for them.

June 28, 2018

A liberal, exciting marriage requires partners who don’t control the other.

June 27, 2018

A charmer is the most incorrigible type of cheater, because he can get “friends” to accept his schemes.