Tip of the Day Archive

March 31, 2017

See-sawing from an affair to divorce to living together, obscures what you’re really able to give to a relationship.

March 30, 2017

Children raised under joint custody need assurance that they’re wanted and secure with each parent.

March 29, 2017

Don’t let fear and frustration create barriers to your relationship.

March 28, 2017

Forgiving repeated meanness and rejections gives your partner no reason to change.

March 27, 2017

New parents need time alone together besides visits with eager relatives.

March 25, 2017

Don’t change your basic values to hold onto someone.

March 24, 2017

Even when anger and resentment are warranted, it takes a toll on those who live with it.

March 23, 2017

Planning marriage with a person, who’s repeatedly lied to you, is a recipe for distrust and heartbreak.

March 22, 2017

Make your own best choices (with your partner) for your wedding, rather than be upset by others’ egos and past agendas.

March 21, 2017

When a relationship’s toxic to you, don’t wait for the other person to agree to get help. Go on your own.

March 20, 2017

Focusing on petty judgements may reflect relationship-fear rather than the wrong partner.

March 18, 2017

When a new “friend” comes between a married couple, there’s a disruptive impasse ahead.

March 17, 2017

Change a mother-daughter power struggle to a relationship between two equal adults.

March 16, 2017

A babysitter for your children must be someone you trust, period.

March 15, 2017

To paraphrase the renowned American writer/poet civil-rights activist Maya Angelou: “You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.”

March 14, 2017

Fantasy or escapist daydreams interfere with taking positive steps to feel better about yourself.

March 13, 2017

Families dealing with addictions aren’t alone. There’s support available for loved ones and the addicted person.

March 11, 2017

In a standoff over chores? When there’s no workable solution, look for the deeper problem.

March 10, 2017

When trust ends, seeking truth is sometimes the only way to save yourself from more deception.

March 9, 2017

A discovered secret of extramarital sex with a same-sex partner must be discussed as soon as possible.

March 8, 2017

With a chronic complainer, respond to the issues on which you can be supportive, and sidestep the nonsense.

March 7, 2017

A severely depressed partner needs professional help beyond emotional support.


March 6, 2017

Someone who’s periodically gone from a relationship without explanation, has someone else waiting.


March 4, 2017

The devastating crime of sexual molestation by a parent leaves long-term issues to handle.

March 3, 2017

Laziness regarding work can become far more annoying in a long-term relationship.

March 2, 2017

Even small white lies, if they keep adding up, become a grey cloud over a relationship.

March 1, 2017

As new parents, check with the baby’s doctor and seek information on any persistent and worrisome behaviours.


February 28, 2017

Being wooed by lies and deceit isn’t a secure basis for a long-term relationship.


February 27, 2017

When you suspect an ex’es motives, ask the question directly or get professional advice.

February 25, 2017

If a partner experiences shocking news, be supportive and don’t overreact, even if he/she needs some time alone.

February 24, 2017

A parent who tries to obstruct a wedding for selfish reasons, risks being by-passed.

February 23, 2017

A fantasy of future love doesn’t solve present loneliness.


February 22, 2017

People who seek advice usually need guidance more than orders.

February 21, 2017

Do NOT rush into a move that can ruin your relationship with your children. Think long and hard, get counselling, put the children first.

February 20, 2017

Friends can be most supportive by raising questions that matter about a toxic relationship.

February 18, 2017

Lines of trust between a couple shouldn’t be handled loosely.

February 17, 2017

Some relationships are important just because they exist.

February 16, 2017

When a random text from a long-ago friend stirs up trouble, it’s the relationship that needs discussing.

February 15, 2017

Love at a distance can only be kept warm if both parties fan the flame.

February 14, 2017

Don’t rush towards a break-up; discuss ways to a closer connection.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

February 13, 2017

Weight is not fair game for casual comments.

February 11, 2017

Don’t ignore heavy emotional reactions from an ex. Alert close support people.

February 10, 2017

Weighing your own past hurts against your children’s needs requires the ancient wisdom of King Solomon, or a current process of counselling.

February 9, 2017

When a volatile relationship ends, counselling can help you recognize in future what is considered healthy and unhealthy “love.”

February 8, 2017

Frequent absence from family recreation and sexual partnership is unfair, period.

February 7, 2017

If leading by example doesn’t work, just say what you need.

February 6, 2017

Always being convenient and comfortable for the other is a one-sided relationship.


February 4, 2017

When one sibling is assaulted by another, each needs separate support and response.


February 3, 2017

When out-of-character behaviour causes a break-up, you need to prove that it won’t happen again.

February 2, 2017

Even on a beach, discretion’s wise when you meet someone new.