Tip of the Day Archive
A crappy ex is just that. Move on.
Friendships that focus on trying to change another’s attitudes often have a relatively short shelf life.
Grandparents can best help their grandchildren thrive, if they consult with and respect the parents.
Protect youngsters from second-hand marijuana smoke and pot-laced foods; respect others’ rights to smoke elsewhere.
When a potential relationship presents obvious questions, take time to decide how to answer them yourself.
Channel fantasies of a romantic marriage of perpetual ease, into energy for creating a strong union and happy family life.
Wedding gifts to your adult children should reflect their choices.
When repeatedly listening to someone confiding nasty behaviour, you inadvertently become an enabler.
Adult siblings with difficult personalities since childhood are unlikely to change, but may need help eventually. Keep contact.
Don’t let mother-daughter tensions put a baby’s well being in the middle. Raise gentle questions, not escalated fears.
Distancing and cheating are common relationship break-up twins. Communicate first.
From Michelle Obama in 2016, about responding to others’ negative behaviour: “When they go low, we go high.”
If you’re bearing all responsibilities for kids, work and home, you haven’t got a partner unless there’s major change.
Don’t be afraid to seek a connection with someone, first as a friend.
When undefended against in-law bullying, stand up for yourself, talk to a counsellor, and carefully consider your future.
While open honesty is preferred, long-ago past relationships when single, are sometimes understandably unrevealed. Forgive.
Casting for opinions about whether to divorce is like fishing without bait. Gather material understanding first of what went wrong.
Beyond romance, finding personal independence and satisfaction help create a healthy partnership.
It’s the relationship that’s dividing you, not the cottage.
Dating too many too much? Curb the rush and take time to reflect on their character.
There’s often more to what’s wrong in a relationship than assumptions about cheating.
Confronting escalating anger/threats requires contacting all resources including police.
Work on financial difficulties together, instead of blaming and cheating.
A doctor-patient “romance” crosses professional lines in many jurisdictions, especially if seen, legally, as sexual abuse due to a power imbalance.
Post-divorce emotional pain can be as hard on the parent who’s rejected as on the children who turn away.
Confiding marital problems to a former lover disrespects your partner, period.
When a partner’s seeking caring attention at emotional times, give it, don’t hold back with attitude.
Without trust, love isn’t enough long-term.
Instead of having repeated hit-and-run relationships, get professional counselling to understand your own imperfections and fears.
Having unprotected sex with multiple partners is a set-up for future problems you never considered.
Joining a stranger for an unknown destination creates a setup for high risk.
A name change is a personal choice, if legally possible.
Mental health abuse plus bullying by a parent, can harm a child for life.
Uncontrollable-child behaviour calls for professional information and direction, for the child’s sake.
Healing post-divorce stress doesn’t happen through wanton promiscuity, seething anger, or blanket distrust of women/men. Get counselling.
A father’s scorn can be very damaging to daughters even if they’re adults.
Comparing numbers of past sexual partners is misleading. What counts are reasons for past behaviour and the person’s character today.
Don’t hide romantic feelings for a friend. No risk, no chance.
When siblings dictate who cannot visit the family cottage, it’s time to decide if the drama is worth it.
Parents must set early boundaries on their children’s video-gaming and watch for signs of excessive involvement with it.
“Outing” a cheater can lose a friend. But silence risks greater upheaval to the betrayed partner.
If emotionally involved with someone accused of an act you can’t accept, take space from the relationship until all the facts are known.
“Dating” an old friend while excluding your life partner, is demeaning and risks the relationship.
People living with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder need continued understanding from those close to them.
A relative’s self-absorbed behaviour doesn’t warrant the whole family accepting discomfort, rudeness, and negativity.
Learn to manage the baggage of a divorced spouse who shares child custody with his ex.
Polyamory requires a couple’s mutual agreement; it’s not just an excuse for cheating.
You can only encourage troubled people to help themselves, not do it for them.
A liberal, exciting marriage requires partners who don’t control the other.
A charmer is the most incorrigible type of cheater, because he can get “friends” to accept his schemes.