Tip of the Day Archive
Someone who needs to know “everything” you’re doing doesn’t trust you without his control.
Inter-generational living in the same space only works well when everyone works at it equally.
When a relationship’s strained by stress, parenting, criticism, and escapist feelings, counselling help is crucial.
A relationship can go stale due to circumstances. A break can either re-boot the connection or help you move on.
Constant false yet public accusations are abuse. Don’t accept it.
Constant anxiety, snooping, and issuing controls do not make for a lasting relationship.
Other people’s loud sex can be a problem that’s awkward to hear or address.
If you want companionship with a partner, bring optimism and open-mindedness to dating.
Some people date intensely while scorekeeping throughout.
Counselling may help you handle a difficult partner, but anger management may be necessary to effect change in him or her.
When parents split, keeping children secure is a crucial need.
If you accept crumbs in a relationship, it leaves you feeling neglected, disrespected, and unfulfilled.
Relationship criticisms from older siblings often just create long-standing rifts instead of help.
Choosing where the family moves together requires getting informed and assuring that, absent any need to flee immediately, both partners agree.
Avoid letting old fears cloud focus on your present life and what’s most important in it.
When a partner’s behaviour negatively affects immediate family, it’s crucial to discover the cause.
This is when telling your experience of sexual assault or harassment may make a difference.
If bullied online, respond with guidance from your workplace’s or professional standards and, if necessary, legal and/or police advice.
Partnership between someone asexual and someone highly sexual is a set-up for mutual frustration and resentment.
When a partner’s been emotionally damaged in the past, counselling’s the best chance for developing trust in a relationship.
Flirting’s fun when it’s not hurtful to others or risks harm to yourself.
Don’t rush to judgment or questioning trust for a traumatized victim of sexual assault.
Narcissists can be very difficult family members. Getting a diagnosis might induce the person to try some changed behaviour.
Alcohol addiction requires support to overcome, and must start with the person’s determined willingness.
Adult children must accept parents’ rightful efforts at fairness in dividing their assets.
When there’s a troubled family relationship, focus first on the person who most needs support.
When a partner minimizes contact and focuses on negative events, a break means re-thinking the relationship.
A couple’s differences over sexual desire can still be explored at any age.
With requests regarding family property, be informed and respectful, but not unrealistic.
Adult children’s rudeness may reflect their own unresolved issues.
Physical abuse is unacceptable, period.
“No time for sex” is a choice you can change.
When a best friend finds romance, it’s about that person’s happiness, not about being left behind.
If you snoop, you may find something. Be prepared to confront or distrust.
Connecting with grandkids through face-time, email, reading together, etc, strengthens overall family ties.
Juggling a logical marriage with an emotional passion can leave everyone involved empty-handed.
Feelings between married co-workers may be flirting, fantasy, or life changing. Examine your own marriage, first.
When the family situation changes dramatically, make sure “house rules” are workable, and not threats.
You don’t need to label it “stashing” to know when you’re being treated as second-class. Don’t accept it.
If an older parent’s suddenly rushing into a new marriage, ask questions rather than overreact.
Confront a turning point in your relationship head on, instead of confusing it with other issues.
Weight is a highly personal, sensitive topic, best only discussed with caring, supportive people.
If post-divorce bitterness negates access agreements, ask for court-ordered mediation.
Grandparents don’t owe babysitting duties. Be grateful for whatever help they provide.
Adult bullies thrive on public shaming. Fight back if you have a legal stance (e.g. slander, harassment) or ignore, if possible.
Deep hurts can’t heal if nurtured for years. Get professional counselling.
Grief and fear after a tragic loss have no set end-date. Therapy can help deal with it.
Toxic relationships play havoc with peace of mind. Protect yourself and your own choices.
A new baby can change many past attitudes. Don’t bring the burden of old resentments to a fresh start for your family.
When a live in partner bolts, focus on healing, then on what you want in a next relationship.