My husband and I had a long-distance relationship for five years before getting married. I discovered he was having emotional connections with other women, but he said he loved me.     
      Once married, my intuitions prompted snooping.  I found his emails professing love and admiration to his ex and other girls. I haven’t confronted him, but can’t pretend to be happy.    
      I want to leave at once, but aside from losing trust, everything else is good. Should I continue and believe he’s just a flirt and nothing more, or leave?
      - Confused

Correction: Trust IS everything important … without it you lose respect in him and confidence in yourself. It’s a downward spiral toward greater unhappiness.     
      Yet, you can surmount this as a couple if, 1) you talk it out together, 2) he recognizes why he seeks these extra-marital connections, and 3) he ends them.     
      This may take time and require therapy – both for him and for you as a couple. You BOTH have to want to do the work.

I couldn’t be happier with my boyfriend of 15 months, but his relationship with his mother has become strained, affecting his mental well-being.    
      She was convinced she had cervical cancer; while trying to get a sample for a PAP smear, a doctor pressed down on her abdomen. Soon after, she complained of abdominal pain and was convinced she had a hernia or a prolapsed uterus. She saw several more doctors and finally had an ultrasound that was negative for any abnormalities.    
      But apparently the technician dug the ultrasound machine so deeply that it injured her abdominal muscles and worsened her pain.    
      She’s constantly mentioning her pain and suffering. She claims she can’t walk so spends the day watching TV. She’s taking numerous drugs and drinking alcohol to calm her, plus barely eating.     
      Whenever someone questions her condition, she becomes angry, yells and swears. She hit her husband when she thought he didn't believe her. So he takes her to doctors until she finds one who’ll prescribe the drugs she wants.     
      My boyfriend tells her she’d feel better if she ate more healthily and exercised, but this leads to screaming matches. Her outbursts make my normally upbeat boyfriend feel sullen and lethargic.     
      A psychologist (specialist) had diagnosed her with Asperger's Syndrome several years ago and I believe this affects how she’s reacting. But she refuses to believe the diagnosis, as she thinks mental illness is a synonym for low intelligence.        
      What should my boyfriend do? His mother is otherwise an intelligent and generous woman who adores her family. Her other son refuses to visit them anymore and my boyfriend has begun visiting them less.     
      Is there some way to make her less reliant on medications and lead a more healthy life? I love her and fear she’ll only get worse.
      - Worried

Someone has to take charge here and that person is her husband. He needs the courage and resolve to insist that he can’t take her to see all these doctors unless a specialist who can help with her reaction to pain also follows her.     
      That way, he’s acknowledging her suffering, but insisting on a more comprehensive approach. Being intelligent, she ultimately can understand that not eating and mixing prescription drugs and alcohol WILL make her more ill than whatever’s happened so far.    
      You and your boyfriend need to support his dad and be sympathetic to his mom – try to encourage some gentle family activity outside the house. But otherwise back off her illness and treatment.

While we lived overseas, the husband of my neighbour/friend got work in another country; just before my friend joined him, she wasn't able to access cash from their bank account (common in that country), so my husband and I lent her $400.    
      We recently visited there and had dinner with them. Neither mentioned the money. It’s a lot to us, I’m sure they genuinely forgot.    
      We’re going there again on holiday and arranged another dinner. How can I bring up the money issue? I want to stay friends.
      - Uncertain

No matter your approach, raising the matter means risking the friendship. But simmering over it will lessen your regard.    
      So, in an email to her, casually mention that you and she both obviously forgot the loan on the prior visit; and that you and your husband could really use its return, on this coming trip.    
      If they cancel the dinner date, you’ll know why.