September 04, 2010
"Man's best friend" can be doggone insistent about preferring a woman.
September 03, 2010
Though divorce is tough on the whole family, parents' re-uniting is their decision.
September 02, 2010
When routines feel oppressive, allow for some re-energizing changes.
September 01, 2010
An insecure wife needs reassurance, not forced competition for her husband's time and interest.
August 31, 2010
Bad houseguests can ruin a friendship, unless you keep the relationship outside the home.
August 30, 2010
An addiction becomes the third party in a relationship, unless confronted by both partners.
August 28, 2010
"Random" sex can actually be a targeted nightmare.
August 27, 2010
Being a stepparent requires having more maturity than the conflicted child.
August 26, 2010
Silent withdrawal from a relationship is a signal to take a break rather than cling harder.
August 25, 2010
When children know a parent is cheating their silence hides inner conflict.
August 24, 2010
In a relationship, a face-off is about resolving it, not winning the game.
August 23, 2010
Someone still living with their spouse isn't truly "free" in mind or body till they're apart.
August 21, 2010
Is "confession" good for a relationship? Contribute to a debate on this delicate decision.
August 20, 2010
Dividing chores isn't a crisis...unless it's a cover for bigger issues.
August 19, 2010
When an ex-lover crowds your relationship, take a break.
August 18, 2010
When a friendship's easily dropped, don't expect an easy revival.
August 17, 2010
Showering expensive gifts in early dating sets up expectations about far more than love.
August 16, 2010
If your output is far more than the other person's input, weigh the value of staying together.
August 14, 2010
When an affair persists, stop butting heads and get help discussing what's going to happen.
August 13, 2010
When a would-be partner behaves irresponsibly, hold back from moving in together.
August 12, 2010
Lifestyle decisions don't have to be isolating, if you seek understanding companionship.
August 11, 2010
Being a stepparent doesn't mean caving in to indulgence, and lack of boundaries.
August 10, 2010
Legal guardianship of a youngster requires awareness, and a caring level of intervention when needed.
August 09, 2010
A romantic obsession becomes self-destructive when it prevents you from moving forward.
August 07, 2010
Cheating not only risks marriages, but also relationships with children and friends as well.
August 06, 2010
Don't let a friend's destination wedding plans, put YOU in debt.
August 05, 2010
When the future with someone looks bleak, don't prolong the present.
August 04, 2010
When nothing about a relationship adds up, it's based on zero.
August 03, 2010
Compassion for a friend's difficulties is a value to nurture as much as reasonable and possible.
August 02, 2010
A dog can be woman's and man's best friend, if the humans act as a team.
July 31, 2010
Commitment's crucial before a baby.
July 30, 2010
When sexual harassment or abuse is involved, especially of minors, a cheater MUST be reported.
July 29, 2010
When friends' changed values makes you lose respect, you can lose the friendship too.
July 28, 2010
Therapy that "fits" probes background reasons for persistent emotional pain.
July 27, 2010
When an adult child's dramas threaten your own spouse relationship, set boundaries.
July 26, 2010
Closing down intimacy and trust only exacerbate relationship problems.
July 24, 2010
A true friend gives the gift of truth when needed.
July 23, 2010
Next, Part Three stresses how cheating requires us to think about people's lives, not gossip or speculation.
July 22, 2010
More insights and surprises on cheating, in Parts Two and Three over the next days.
July 21, 2010
Communicate through open feelings, not open criticism.
July 20, 2010
Ongoing ignorance from relatives calls for limited exposure.
July 19, 2010
The place of intimacy in the relationship is up to both parties to discuss.
July 17, 2010
An emotionally divided home can negate all the messages about family unity.
July 16, 2010
In relationships, be aware which lines are too deep to cross.
July 15, 2010
Feeling "trapped" is poisonous to a relationship; free yourself.
July 14, 2010
Frequent power struggles usually reflect frustrations that need discussion, not "winning."
July 13, 2010
When the problem seems at a standoff, look for an underlying cause.
July 12, 2010
When an alcoholic partner can't or won't save him/herself, bolster your own strength to carry on.
July 10, 2010
Grieving the end of a marriage is natural and healthy.
July 09, 2010
Asking a mother to "choose" child or spouse is a nasty set-up.
July 08, 2010
The Nanny Debate is a joint negotiation, if it's to work for the whole family.
July 07, 2010
When old trouble comes back knocking on the door, only a fool opens it.
July 06, 2010
When factual evidence rings alarms, get pro-active in response.
July 05, 2010
Looking mature doesn't equate to having life experience, so be sure of what you can handle.
July 03, 2010
If you choose to snoop, think about how long you can accept repeated excuses before it feels worse than leaving.
July 02, 2010
The topic's too hot to drop: Read Part Two tomorrow, July 3rd.
July 01, 2010
A Dad's encouragement leaves more impression than what is on his head.
June 30, 2010
The heartache of a break-up can be healed with self-knowledge and new attitudes.
June 29, 2010
A relationship isn't a viable goal, unless you're truly ready.
June 28, 2010
Adult children's wedding-day bliss benefits all.
June 26, 2010
If you report bad news, remember that some people "shoot the messenger."
June 25, 2010
In a relationship to last, share your doubts as well as your dreams.
June 24, 2010
Avoid jealous overreactions through communication and confidence.
June 23, 2010
When breaking up, maintain a no-sex zone with your soon-to-be ex.
June 22, 2010
Avoiding nasty, bigoted grandparents can be crucial to a family's well-being.
June 21, 2010
Maintaining and re-evaluating your family's values is a constant part of parenting.
June 19, 2010
An extra-marital affair needs to be understood if it's to be forgiven.
June 18, 2010
Listening to what seems foolish can give clues to other realities.
June 17, 2010
Avoiding sex is often a symptom of lost self-love, rather than lost romantic love.
June 16, 2010
Meddling, in the name of "mothering," is still interfering in others' lives.
June 15, 2010
In most father-daughter issues (excluding abuse), the son-in-law shouldn't interfere.
June 14, 2010
Gossipy speculation within the family can leave you "outed" as the Nasty One.
June 12, 2010
A call for closer commitment can make or break a relationship.
June 11, 2010
You can only attempt to repair a relationship, not another person.
June 10, 2010
It can become more demeaning to you to constantly mistrust, than to let a cheater make his/her own fatal mistake.
June 09, 2010
If you always avoid risk in relationships, you may never open the door to compelling love.
June 08, 2010
When kids react to divorce, relatives can help them by participating, instead of judging.
June 07, 2010
Flirting can be tolerated if it doesn't equal cheating, but persistent disrespect becomes intolerable.
June 05, 2010
When fear of moving forward is dominant, there's no hope for a relationship.
June 04, 2010
Show confidence in your relationship, while also staying alert to a third party's behaviour.
June 03, 2010
A bride's dream of being walked down the aisle by her father takes special understanding when divorce is a factor.
June 02, 2010
When a friend's relationship looks like trouble, ask leading questions to help him/her face what's really happening.
June 01, 2010
Loving couples need their relationship to remain their priority, even through tough challenges.
May 31, 2010
Fill your life with purpose instead of mourning what's missing
May 29, 2010
When someone’s in serious trouble, encouragement and participation can help, while criticism and judgement only increases stress.
May 28, 2010
Joint custody relies on communication, without one parent’s control.
May 27, 2010
When someone’s worlds apart in their values, from the get go, pursuing him/her is seeking drama and heartache.
May 26, 2010
When a long-distance partner has already moved on, back off rather than rush to confront.
May 25, 2010
A control-freak parent reaps a household out of control, when other members rebel.
May 24, 2010
A sexual problem that's neglected by one partner, eventually cues the other partner to exit the scene.
May 22, 2010
Despite aliases, and/or the cyber wall of deception, online behaviour still merges into real life.
May 21, 2010
When a partner rejects full commitment, it’s not really a partnership.
May 20, 2010
Appreciating cheap n’ cheerful is a more mature, effective response to tightened income, than whining and resentment.
May 19, 2010
Joint custody requires negotiations that include all the parental figures involved.
May 18, 2010
Persistent anger can doom a relationship, unless its cause is understood and managed.
May 18, 2010
Persistent anger can doom a relationship, unless its cause is understood and managed.
May 17, 2010
Pursuing someone who’s stated he/she isn’t “ready” isn’t just going after a challenge … it’s foolhardy trouble-seeking.
May 15, 2010
Constantly pressuring someone about the possibility of cheating is sure to push him/her away.
May 14, 2010
When your older child needs Tough Love responses, use logic, not criticism of his partner.
May 13, 2010
When a spouse cares more for porn than the partner, the marriage is a sham for everyone involved.
May 12, 2010
When the relationship’s already sour, planning festivities together takes special handling.
May 11, 2010
Professional help and support groups can greatly benefit families involved with alcoholism.
May 10, 2010
Get pro-active — instead of hostile — about issues that need awareness.
May 08, 2010
Any contact from a sexual predator poses a real threat to be reported to police.
May 07, 2010
“Tasting” the escape of an extra-marital affair, often leaves a bitter after-taste.
May 06, 2010
Divorce is never an easy fix.
May 05, 2010
Don’t expect respect from someone who’s shown none.
May 04, 2010
Judgment and a negative attitude can divide once-close siblings.
May 03, 2010
The “other party” who caused a break-up, is no ordinary ex, but a threat.
May 01, 2010
The end of an extra-marital affair must be absolute.
April 30, 2010
When it’s smoking versus a life partner, the choice reflects the relationship, not individual rights.
April 29, 2010
High school sweethearts should let themselves AND their relationship mature.
April 28, 2010
When a spouse is emotionally absent, the marriage may be soon over.
April 27, 2010
Settling for a mediocre relationship is a way to hide from risk and often from real happiness, too.
April 26, 2010
Sometimes, what’s wrong with the relationship isn’t either person’s “fault,” but the wrong match.
April 24, 2010
Someone “in the process” of separating is still married and pre-occupied for an indefinite time.
April 23, 2010
When a married lover’s very satisfied with his/her illicit “arrangement,” it’s unlikely to change.
April 22, 2010
Persistent disagreement about whether to have a baby, often becomes a deal-breaker.
April 21, 2010
A parent’s post-divorce bitterness can only control you, if you let it.
April 20, 2010
Confront about cheating - the truth will eventually emerge.
April 19, 2010
When a whole family’s equilibrium is at stake, try to give it every chance … UNLESS it’s obviously not working.
April 17, 2010
A grandparent’s involvement can be so meaningful to a child, that it’s worth every effort to maintain it.
April 16, 2010
Children thrive from healthy parental influences – even if separated - far better than from a miserable couple.
April 15, 2010
When only one person wants to discuss the next phase, the relationship is stalled and may stagnate.
April 14, 2010
The steps to dating a work colleague should be slow but sure.
April 13, 2010
When you expect discomfort, plan ahead or stay home.
April 12, 2010
When a married person cheats so casually it sends a message to the “partner” that so-called social rules can easily be broken.
April 10, 2010
The only guarantee when you play off one person for another is that people get hurt.
April 09, 2010
When someone says, “no serious relationship,” there’s no other translation.
April 08, 2010
When children are involved, divorce is the last marital “fix,” not the first.
April 08, 2010
When children are involved, divorce is the last marital “fix,” not the first.
April 07, 2010
Play-fighting is only “play” when both parties agree.
April 06, 2010
A marriage without trust hasn’t the foundation for lasting happiness.
April 05, 2010
If you present yourself as a doormat, you’re sure to be stepped on.
April 03, 2010
A relationship can feel "intense" because one partner’s making all the effort to keep it going.
April 02, 2010
There’s no honest way to juggle two loves, and end up not getting hurt.
April 01, 2010
A spouse’s personal discomfort shouldn’t be a factor in judging someone’s job performance.
March 31, 2010
Proving your love to make up for a past mistake, takes time and self-reflection.
March 30, 2010
When a relationship is insecure, focus on defining it, rather than let it erode your self-confidence.
March 29, 2010
Regrets and self-blame are useful if they help you learn from mistakes and improve your life.
March 27, 2010
A lie to save embarrassment only makes you look worse the more you repeat it.
March 26, 2010
Delaying marriage can be a symptom of unresolved issues: Time for the Talk.
March 25, 2010
Hiding herpes is both a health hazard and a deal-breaker.
March 24, 2010
If you mis-read a person’s intent, it’s a mistake to learn from, rather than wallow in it.
March 23, 2010
Erectile dysfunction calls for a medical check-up before looking for other causes.
March 22, 2010
When there are differing sexual standards, someone has to compromise or leave.
March 20, 2010
Dating relationships rarely last if one party clings to unrealistic expectations.
March 19, 2010
Each person’s recovery from addiction is a personal path, but when possible, re-gaining old friendships can be part of the reward.
March 18, 2010
When family disapproval prevails, the partner who won’t speak up will eventually give up.
March 17, 2010
When in-laws are used to help defray child-care costs, don’t be surprised at in-law interference.
March 16, 2010
Parental support for adult children is a gift, not an entitlement.
March 15, 2010
A beloved pet’s suffering requires professional care and guidance.
March 13, 2010
A relationship is one-sided when you’re hidden from the other person’s personal network.
March 12, 2010
When you avoid having The Talk for too long, silence becomes the roadblock in your relationship.
March 11, 2010
The newly separated need time for reflection BEFORE their next relationship, not after.
March 10, 2010
If the serious issues aren’t addressed, an ultimatum is only a threat not a solution.
March 09, 2010
When sex is the no-go barrier between you, look at the foundation.
March 08, 2010
A child’s paternity is a matter that only those directly involved need to discuss.
March 06, 2010
After an affair gone public, don’t expect warmth and ease with the ex-spouse left behind.
March 05, 2010
When you need him/her to move on, it’s up to you to make it happen.
March 04, 2010
Understand the causes of a partner’s sexual shyness to boost your true intimacy together.
March 03, 2010
When depression takes hold, all else can seem hopeless. Get help immediately and then tackle problems one at a time.
March 02, 2010
Alcoholism is an illness/addiction that affects the whole family.
March 01, 2010
Dating break-ups are rough on emotions … don’t be surprised at reactions.
February 27, 2010
Emotionally complicated parent-child relationships call for understanding and compassion … often more so by the parent.
February 26, 2010
Instead of just critiquing others’ lives, consider what suggestions or actions can be truly helpful.
February 25, 2010
When the small stuff is paramount, there’s something more missing.
February 24, 2010
When the cheating’s not over, the signs of “change” aren’t real.
February 23, 2010
A relationship needs to be developed, not “chosen” for instant gratification.
February 22, 2010
Make sure you address your real relationship problem, not a sidebar.
February 22, 2010
Make sure you address your real relationship problem, not a sidebar.
February 20, 2010
When the evidence shows you’re being unfairly used, end the relationship.
February 19, 2010
Mrs. or Ms. shouldn’t matter, unless you’re Mis-sing the real issue.
February 18, 2010
Parenthood means a whole new lifestyle for both of you and requires thoughtful adjustment.
February 17, 2010
Those who intentionally exclude the innocent children of your spouse should be avoided; they’re saboteurs.
February 16, 2010
The sibling who has the truly better life, can afford more generosity of spirit.
February 15, 2010
Sometimes it’s your own state of mind that makes a partner’s innocent “encounter” seem suspicious.
February 13, 2010
If your only enjoy the high life, you’re not ready for a real-world relationship.
February 12, 2010
Separate family matters can sometimes cause irreparable conflicts.
February 11, 2010
The right “fit” is the partner who makes you feel good in ways that matter most.
February 10, 2010
When a parent’s hard to reach, show your interest.
February 09, 2010
When money management is a divisive issue before marriage, expect bigger problems later.
February 08, 2010
Help a stop-smoking effort with encouragement, not nagging.
February 06, 2010
When repeated partners behave equally badly, change your own patterns.
February 05, 2010
A Mama’s Boy has to want to cut the “umbilical” cord himself, rather than have you do it.
February 04, 2010
When a love partner shows repeated nastiness, don’t expect his/her nature to change.
February 03, 2010
A one-night-stand is a loud alarm, but not necessarily a death knell.
February 02, 2010
With a Serial Cheater, get going instead of gathering evidence.
February 01, 2010
When a partner’s hiding the truth, you need your strength and self-confidence for both confrontation and presenting consequences.
January 30, 2010
When a relationship is interrupted, “waiting” without commitment is a gamble. Decide on greater commitment or staying apart.
January 29, 2010
After an affair, a relationship can best survive if both parties commit to understanding why it happened and work at re-building trust.
January 28, 2010
If you’re aware of a couple’s disintegrating marriage, including knowledge of one’s affair, get out of their way to handle it.
January 27, 2010
When abuse of another is a possibility, do what’s necessary for prevention.
January 26, 2010
Seeking a mate requires a friendly, open attitude and finding opportunities to meet more people.
January 25, 2010
An ongoing affair with a married person is not the same as having your own family.
January 23, 2010
Daters Beware: The newly separated sometimes define their new status as, “Free from Commitment.”
January 22, 2010
When a partner goes through changes, the other must be supportive for the relationship to survive.
January 21, 2010
When a problem doesn’t make sense, honest chat is crucial.
January 20, 2010
Sometimes, a small disappointment can make you aware of the bigger ones in a relationship.
January 19, 2010
When you have romantic feelings for a close friend, adjustment time is needed, for both.
January 18, 2010
When in-law issues have a couple polarized, it’s also about their marriage.
January 16, 2010
In a relationship, your partner needs to meet any new close friends and be included in the friendship sometimes
January 15, 2010
Some people have a convenient rationale for cheating, but that doesn’t make “okay.”
January 14, 2010
When one pulls and the other pushes away, expect a break.
January 13, 2010
When there’s a “ghost” between you, it’s still a crowd.
January 12, 2010
When family truly needs help, stepping up pro-actively is the right response.
January 11, 2010
In-law difficulties are best handled by a couple’s team approach, never by one partner’s criticism.
January 09, 2010
To solidify a relationship romantically, a proposal can’t be beat.
January 08, 2010
If it’s love you want, three’s a crowd.
January 07, 2010
When avoidance replaces foreplay, cheating with others won’t solve the marriage problems.
January 06, 2010
The Why of an affair needs to be understood, for true forgiveness.
January 05, 2010
When it comes to using family members’ services, be sure to communicate clearly about your expectations and theirs.
January 04, 2010
When two people aren’t at the same point of commitment, someone has to call, “Time.”
January 02, 2010
When a partner shucks a role in resolving family problems, he/she is ducking out of the relationship.
January 01, 2010
January 1, like any other day, can initiate new beginnings - whether ending a flawed relationship or resolving a conflicted one.
December 31, 2009
Happy New Year to all! Count your blessings and start 2010 with positive energy and appreciation.
December 30, 2009
When exes keep battling long after they’ve parted, both their emotions are still raw.
December 29, 2009
Advice requested by close friends should be given in clear statements, not repeated doses.
December 28, 2009
Close people from a controversial past should be introduced into your current relationship, in an open and thoughtful way.
December 28, 2009
Close people from a controversial past should be introduced into your current relationship, in an open and thoughtful way.
December 28, 2009
Close people from a controversial past should be introduced into your current relationship, in an open and thoughtful way.
December 26, 2009
When it comes to relationships, it’d be more valuable to spend Boxing Day adding up your blessings and acknowledging your flaws, than searching for bargains.
December 24, 2009
Merry Christmas! Wishing all of you joy, goodwill and peace in your relationships!
December 23, 2009
Unsolicited personality dissections are often more of a turn-off than helpful.
December 22, 2009
When sharing a home is intolerable, find decent solutions.
December 21, 2009
Learn your legal rights and responsibilities, when finances are a marital issue.
December 19, 2009
Periodic erectile dysfunction is a couple’s issue … not just a “guy problem.”
December 18, 2009
There’s no old-age allowance that forgives child molesting.
December 17, 2009
Beware the Trigger Affair, sought by those who seek a dramatic result.
December 16, 2009
Christmas dinner is NOT the time to bring family tensions to a boil.
December 15, 2009
When family wedding plans deteriorate relationships, the bridal couple need to go it alone.
December 14, 2009
The joy of a family Christmas is the get-together, not the elusive picture-perfect image.
December 12, 2009
Guilt is a wasted emotion, once you’ve tried your best.
December 11, 2009
It’s better to be free than to accept a relationship in which you’re ignored, neglected and hurt.
December 10, 2009
Without intimacy, couples’ problems are harder to resolve.
December 09, 2009
Father-daughter relationships can be close, without being confining or confusing.
December 08, 2009
Learn to control your own reactions to people, rather than try to control their behaviour.
December 07, 2009
Divorces involving children require thoughtful – and sometimes re-worked - ongoing involvements.
December 05, 2009
Someone who repeatedly seeks escapist romance is unlikely to become a stable partner.
December 04, 2009
Weddings rushed into for the wrong reasons are a set-up for honeymoon alarm.
December 03, 2009
In busy lives, the joy of sex comes from making time and finding humour in the challenge.
December 02, 2009
Mixed messages about what you want from someone rarely brings satisfying results.
December 01, 2009
Marriages wither for many reasons, but they CAN be revived through mutual re-commitment.
November 30, 2009
Past poor relationships only haunt your next union, if you let them.
November 30, 2009
Past poor relationships only haunt your next union, if you let them.
November 28, 2009
Closely watch situations that may require fast action to protect your kids.
November 27, 2009
Your child is your first responsibility, especially over an adult who won’t help himself.
November 26, 2009
Family grief takes many forms, but rejecting a newcomer isn’t a healthy route.
November 25, 2009
Reach out to turn bad in-laws into family.
November 24, 2009
Choose your own child over convenience.
November 23, 2009
For occasional family events, it’s possible to rise above others’ flaws, for the sake of harmony … and children.
November 21, 2009
When you’re left out, ignore the gossips and go to the source to find out why.
November 20, 2009
When sexual problems mess up a relationship, that’s where to start making changes.
November 19, 2009
Even adult children sometimes need parents to apply Solomon’s wisdom, and let them be.
November 18, 2009
When you stop accepting being ill treated, you can start positive changes in your life.
November 17, 2009
Partnership goes beyond a bill for renter’s space.
November 16, 2009
In a true partnership, the housework is part of the sharing
November 14, 2009
A family’s denial about a molesting relative, contributes to ongoing criminal behaviour.
November 13, 2009
Joint custody requires helping children adjust to both parents’ ways, rather than fighting over the differences.
November 12, 2009
Always accept gifts graciously, and then manage what to do with them without offending the givers.
November 11, 2009
An in-law’s personal choices are his/her right; but unacceptable language doesn’t have to be tolerated
November 10, 2009
Anger over a post-divorce settlement, albeit valid, may also be too stressful to pursue a change.
November 09, 2009
A stable family environment requires commitment instead of escapist dreams.
November 07, 2009
When an affair is your escape from reality, you’re not free, just a cheater.
November 06, 2009
When facing a life-changing decision, focus, instead of fragmenting the problem.
November 05, 2009
The silent treatment grants useless power, but solves nothing.
November 04, 2009
Serial cheaters eventually mess up openly, so there’s no need to stress on seeking evidence.
November 03, 2009
A persistent social “groper” is out of control, and needs a strong wake-up call.
November 02, 2009
Be aware of your own vulnerability for at least one year after a break-up.
October 31, 2009
Today, we can all help children experience a safe, fun Hallowe’en celebration about creativity and community spirit.
October 30, 2009
Wedding plans need two heads not one.
October 29, 2009
When impatience rules your better qualities, regrets are bound to follow.
October 28, 2009
Even in later life, love has to be sought personally, and carefully, over time.
October 28, 2009
Even in later life, love has to be sought personally, and carefully, over time.
October 27, 2009
When two people stay silent while they drift apart, they lose finding the way back.
October 26, 2009
Revealing someone’s affair to the injured party, is interference of the nasty kind.
October 24, 2009
When your relationship problems are entrenched, there are choices: Accept, adapt or abdicate.
October 23, 2009
If you’re having an affair with a married person, occasionally try to see him/her from the spouse’s viewpoint, to clarify your own.
October 22, 2009
Romantic love is as important as your own need for it.
October 21, 2009
A sexual interest that’s mutually enjoyed by two partners, and harmful to neither, is a private matter.
October 20, 2009
Best-friend relationships need to adjust naturally when one finds a romantic partner.
October 19, 2009
Important messages can be gained from the issues that others face.
October 17, 2009
Repeated affairs ring a loud alarm that the couple needs counselling and change, not public discussion.
October 16, 2009
One person’s lack of sexual drive usually becomes a couple’s problem, if not addressed.
October 15, 2009
Knowing about a friend’s affair can end up risking the friendship itself.
October 14, 2009
A dating web site profile is just an introduction, not an application form.
October 13, 2009
Sometimes the honest-but-difficult approach is the only one that can work.
October 12, 2009
When sudden loss and fears of mortality create emotional blocks, get professional help.
October 10, 2009
Post-relationship contact isn’t for everyone.
October 09, 2009
An unhealthy relationship needs change or finality.
October 08, 2009
When a close relative has frequent bouts of anger, look for reasons rather than your own reaction.
October 07, 2009
Tip of the Day: When older children defy your safety concerns, you need authoritative reasons, or a change in the situation.
October 06, 2009
Extreme sibling rivalry should signal a need for professional help.
October 05, 2009
The best way to avoid getting burned, is to stay away from the (old) flame.
October 03, 2009
When sex “dwindles,” find more time for intimate contact.
October 02, 2009
When the person who messes up finds excuses for anger, it’s a childish tactic to divert blame.
October 01, 2009
A protracted triangle relationship prevents the two who are a couple from full emotional commitment.
September 30, 2009
Hidden health secrets often breed resentments and distrust.
September 29, 2009
When a relationship remains unusually complicated, someone’s keeping it that way.
September 28, 2009
Sexual timidity based on a poor self-image, calls for patience, encouragement, and a broader concept of intimacy.
September 26, 2009
Divorce is a couples’ personal issue; in-laws’ concern should mainly be about their
grandchildren’s welfare.
September 25, 2009
When a true crisis arises, helping each other should be a natural part of the relationship.
September 24, 2009
Fantasy love, when perpetuated and unrewarded, can become destructive to your well-being.
September 23, 2009
It’s never too late to be open-minded about finding companionship.
September 22, 2009
Sex in committed couples is more than who does what; it’s part of many ways of expressing
intimacy.
September 21, 2009
When a partner’s holding back, ask the right questions.
September 19, 2009
Someone who retreats instead of discloses, carries heavy personal baggage.
September 18, 2009
When the unlikable characteristics of your partner persist, who she/he is, or make a serious change yourself.
September 17, 2009
Freedom 55 was an ad campaign, not a promise; it’s up to you to balance “grandparent duties” with relaxation.
September 16, 2009
When you arbitrarily label people’s attitude towards you, remember that judgment can work both ways.
September 15, 2009
When a marriage has obvious gaps, don’t just blame the third party who comes in between.
September 14, 2009
Mothering an adult child, with diplomacy, can still require honest, straight talk.
September 12, 2009
Staying overly enmeshed with an ex, greatly risks a current relationship.
September 11, 2009
Every couple faces challenges; communication and compromise by both parties are essential ways to handle them.
September 10, 2009
An hour’s distance isn’t huge, unless one party won’t meet on issues part-way.
September 09, 2009
Relationships between parents and adult children require equality and respect, not dependence.
September 08, 2009
Divorce is a dramatic wallop; healing takes time, thoughtful reflection, and positive determination.
September 07, 2009
Past burdens can be overcome, but sometimes you later need to re-boot your inner strengths.
September 05, 2009
What we see of people only on the surface, doesn’t give license for judgments on their inner drives and integrity.
September 04, 2009
Computer privacy is never to be taken for granted; secure your passwords and private information in every available way.
September 03, 2009
Staying together as unhappy martyrs never ends up heroically.
September 02, 2009
A squandered relationship is a harsh lesson for both parties.
September 01, 2009
Prepare ahead for repeated family squabbles.
August 31, 2009
Moving on to a new, multi-faceted relationship can be aided by professional guidance.
August 29, 2009
If you don’t enjoy drama in your life, keep it in the theatre, not in your relationship.
August 28, 2009
“Begging” for emotional equality doesn’t belong in a healthy relationship.
August 27, 2009
When health and/or emotional issues complicate your relationships, seek counseling before making long-term commitments.
August 26, 2009
When a crush becomes an obsession, change the situation in which it flourishes.
August 25, 2009
Rising above the chaos caused by alcoholic parents takes determination, inner strength, and finding supports.
August 24, 2009
A true friend understands that there’s never a reason to willingly accept a racist atmosphere.
August 22, 2009
When close friends’ and family’s repeated behaviour annoys you, be assertive about saying you want it to stop.
August 21, 2009
When there’s serious conflict in a family business, look for solutions that protect emotional health as primary.
August 20, 2009
When sexuality is a parent-child concern, both sides need communication and information.
August 19, 2009
Cheating is a public betrayal, not just personal.
August 18, 2009
Relationships can’t develop if The Talk is being avoided.
August 17, 2009
If the bride and groom prefer cash to cookware, why care?
August 15, 2009
When sharing living expenses, the atmosphere for decisions should be one of generosity and mutual trust.
August 14, 2009
Anyone aware of repeated sexual offences such as molestation, needs to take action that’ll lead to
intervention and/or alerting police.
August 13, 2009
Abuse has to be acknowledged, along with remorse, to ever be forgiven.
August 12, 2009
Meeting through a selective dating service still requires getting to know a person slowly, and carefully.
August 11, 2009
Secret “friendships” while married, still manage to affect the couple’s dynamic.
August 10, 2009
Elderly parents sometimes need formalized help to prevent financial abuse.
August 08, 2009
Playing the Rescuer often encourages the other person’s dependency game.
August 07, 2009
Obsessing on the past can destroy the present.
August 06, 2009
Angry overreactions signal a need for discussing the incidences, before they escalate to a more serious problem.
August 05, 2009
Second “families” don’t automatically embrace each other as close relatives; it takes time and understanding on all sides.
August 04, 2009
Never ignore suicidal threats; treat them as a call for more intensive help.
August 03, 2009
Unfounded accusations against a spouse eventually erode trust and love on both sides.
August 01, 2009
A wedding should be a time of celebration and family harmony; look for positive ways to achieve this.
July 31, 2009
If you can’t have a real conversation, there’s little point in sharing a meal.
July 30, 2009
Propose when the relationship is ready, not just to nail it.
July 29, 2009
The charitable instinct is greatly needed in our society; develop your own, proudly.
July 28, 2009
Holding back in a relationship, leaves the future up to the other party.
July 27, 2009
When an adult child has marital problems, being supportive will help more than criticizing.
July 25, 2009
Long-distance relationships require mutual commitment and trust, plus an eventual goal of being together.
July 24, 2009
Not every new relationship has to be worried over; if it’s unsatisfying, and uncompelling, forget it.
July 23, 2009
Keep your focus on the marriage, not the in-laws.
July 22, 2009
A past affair is best discussed as part of a reconciliation process, with the help of counselling.
July 21, 2009
Distance yourself from those who make poor choices, while relying on you for rescue.
July 20, 2009
Couples need time and effort for nurturing their love, as well as their sex life.
July 18, 2009
A couple who stay together after one spouse’s affair, need openness and hard work, not distance and denial.
July 17, 2009
When sex is rejected early in a marriage, it’s an alarm bell to resolve, or re-consider.
July 16, 2009
Basing your feelings on others’ gossip, instead of finding out for yourself, produces only confusion.
July 15, 2009
For a relationship to grow and last, you need to develop full intimacy and trust.
July 14, 2009
When a partner finds fitness and fun, it’s a lot healthier to join, than to brood with resentment.
July 13, 2009
When one partner’s watching porn includes repeated efforts at cheating, virtually and real, the risk to marriage is huge.
July 11, 2009
“Telling the wife” is usually an excuse for getting revenge on someone, not an honest desire to help.
July 10, 2009
One true adult friendship is a treasure; to “mine” it requires an open mind, plus planning and time.
July 09, 2009
Insecurity in a relationship is often a self-fulfilling prophecy.
July 08, 2009
Indulging rudeness over gifts is hurtful not only to the giver, but to the recipients too.
July 07, 2009
When all your relationships feel negative, consider examining your own part, through counselling.
July 06, 2009
When a relationship is pushed with too much speed or risk, expect alarm bells, not wedding chimes.
July 04, 2009
When a partner’s appearance dramatically worsens, there are bigger problems beneath the image.
July 03, 2009
When you involve parents full-time in your childcare, it’s had to exclude them in your childrearing.
July 02, 2009
Affairs with a married person usually end up with at least one very hurt outsider, and it’s rarely the cheater.
July 01, 2009
The newly single need to approach dating again slowly, and with an open mind.
June 30, 2009
Retirement is a transition couples need to discuss and plan ahead.
June 29, 2009
Making moves beyond a one-sided office crush can ruin both the office AND home relationships.
June 27, 2009
When stepparents do all the work of raising children, their feelings as parents count for more than biology.
June 26, 2009
Future in-laws can’t be expected to be co-operative, if your plans are secretive.
June 25, 2009
No adult child should let a parent badmouth their spouse, without speaking up and warning of consequences.
June 24, 2009
Loving a friend deeply doesn’t mean it easily translates into a romantic connection.
June 23, 2009
Porn can disturb some relationships, if it’s a contentious issue.
June 22, 2009
When a spouse’s addiction has become entrenched, you need information and professional help to handle it.
June 20, 2009
When in-laws try to hijack a wedding, their adult child must take control with an ultimatum: accept reality, or stay home.
June 19, 2009
After a partner’s affair, you need to know the WHY, not the WHAT of it.
June 18, 2009
A baby requires new co-operation between a couple, not just diaper changes.
June 17, 2009
Lies are like quicksand in a relationship – you never know when and where they’ll sink it.
June 16, 2009
Dating, gay or straight, requires the same start: knowing what’s essential about the other person.
June 15, 2009
Inappropriate dependency between a father and daughter can impede her future relationships.
June 13, 2009
Sometimes life throws a wild curve that the strong need to bend towards.
June 12, 2009
Dragging your feet into a marriage creates a stumbling block for both partners.
June 11, 2009
When faced with major decisions, young people need encouragement.
June 10, 2009
Mistrust and badgering ring death knells to hopes for a healthy relationship.
June 09, 2009
Secret “dates” are a set-up for affairs, period.
June 08, 2009
For dating to be enjoyable and successful, you have to be open and non-judgmental about meeting people.
June 06, 2009
A crummy second marriage isn’t a life sentence, either.
June 05, 2009
When being the Rescuer becomes a burden, re-think the role.
June 04, 2009
A visiting in-law sometimes has to be helped to respect the rights of adult children.
June 03, 2009
Only a true “loser” turns marriage into a competition instead of a partnership.
June 02, 2009
When watching pornography interferes with a relationship, it’s an unhealthy problem, not a pastime.
June 01, 2009
Obsessing about one marital issue avoids facing bigger problems in the marriage.
May 30, 2009
Starting a fresh friendship from an old relationship, requires a fresh approach instead of old fears.
May 29, 2009
When a friend has shown no interest in a relationship, focus on preserving the friendship, not the fantasy.
May 28, 2009
Stormy relationships require weather-proofing strategies, or a break to re-assess.
May 27, 2009
When interrogations and monitoring enter into the relationship, you can expect controls to come next.
May 26, 2009
When someone talks openly about having affairs, he/she has to know there are consequences ahead.
May 25, 2009
Re-committing to a marriage won’t work, if done with grim resignation and secret yearnings elsewhere.
May 23, 2009
When online dating leads to a relationship, shopping sites is a deal-breaker.
May 22, 2009
When the custodial parent poisons the child’s attitude towards a step-parent, remember who’s really at fault.
May 21, 2009
When a lover is “stolen” away, he/she was ready to be taken.
May 20, 2009
In-law issues need a couple’s agreement, and direct communication.
May 19, 2009
The grieving period requires support, understanding and positive messages.
May 18, 2009
When the lines of a relationship are blurred, neither side is sure of the other.
May 16, 2009
When a break-up highlights your need to make changes, do so, whether or not you get back together.
May 15, 2009
Love needs to start with like, which means knowing more than superficial details.
May 14, 2009
For adults with hyper-critical parents, independence is a logical response.
May 13, 2009
You can’t win the confidence of someone whom you disrespect.
May 12, 2009
When an affair is going nowhere, examine its purpose on both sides.
May 11, 2009
Confronting a spending addiction is crucial for your own emotional health.
May 09, 2009
When adult children regularly expect your help, back off and insist they look for their own solutions.
May 08, 2009
A closed book is hard to enjoy, especially if that’s the personality someone brings to a relationship.
May 07, 2009
A family split over inheritance becomes the negative legacy of all who made it happen.
May 06, 2009
When a workplace friendship intrudes on your marriage, consider whether it’s a need or a threat.
May 05, 2009
If you can’t clean up your own mess, stay out of others’ private space.
May 04, 2009
When a partner handles stress by mis-handling you, he/she needs help…or you need someone else.
May 02, 2009
Love is thicker than friendship, so beware of critiquing a friend’s choice of partner.
May 01, 2009
Taking a step back is sometimes the only way to give a relationship a fresh chance.
April 30, 2009
Sometimes relationships end up serving different purposes than either party intended.
April 29, 2009
Relationship talk is meant to be open and honest, not complicated babble.
April 28, 2009
Only stay together for the children’s sake, if staying together won’t do them more harm.
April 27, 2009
Overcoming addiction is a lifetime job with huge benefits.
April 25, 2009
Constant fighting is either a cop-out from open communication, or a bad choice.
April 24, 2009
When an early relationship is focused on one issue, both parties miss seeing each other within a bigger picture.
April 23, 2009
Choosing between two women who’re close friends or family, requires diplomacy, sensitivity, and good luck.
April 22, 2009
Guiding a teenager toward responsibility sometimes calls for ignoring the small stuff.
April 21, 2009
In many relationships, constancy is an essential bond.
April 20, 2009
Having someone you care about in your life is usually better than being alone with your pride.
April 18, 2009
When the economic realities change, so must some of your expectations.
April 17, 2009
Two strangers “clicking” in a bar = just an introduction.
April 16, 2009
A standoff in a relationship achieves nothing, and can lose everything.
April 15, 2009
Sexual experimenting, if secret, is bound to have repercussions in a marriage.
April 14, 2009
The biological clock ticks loudest for those who listen.
April 13, 2009
Pregnancy is a physical/emotional state that a woman best shares with her partner through open communication.
April 11, 2009
Being treated as a secret is a poor start for any future together.
April 10, 2009
Beware the rush to commitment from someone just getting out of one.
April 09, 2009
If your chosen “style” interferes with what you’re after, you may have to make changes of one or the other.
April 08, 2009
Don’t waste energy over choices that are necessary and obvious.
April 07, 2009
Be certain you’ve found the right new partner who’ll understand your need to be part of your children’s lives.
April 06, 2009
If every relationship winds up the same negative way, look hard at your own contribution.
April 04, 2009
When the gossip you’re told is deeply hurtful, question the motive of its source.
April 03, 2009
When a partner refuses to discuss the future, it’s time to re-examine the present.
April 02, 2009
When former lovers intrude into a present relationship, signal a firm and final Good-bye.
April 01, 2009
A major behaviour change can signal a health problem and should be checked.
March 31, 2009
No one partner should dominate the direction of the relationship throughout its duration.
March 30, 2009
When you loan money to people of whom you disapprove, lower your expectations.
March 28, 2009
Parents of adult children must remember their role is now only supportive, not custodial.
March 27, 2009
Relationships need an acknowledged, total commitment, to survive severe stresses.
March 26, 2009
When marriage plans damage the relationship, delay, and re-think the process, or the goal.
March 25, 2009
The “gifts” from a wedding shouldn’t be the only symbol of the relationships involved.
March 24, 2009
Couples almost always face accepting the other partner’s past.
March 23, 2009
Strong disagreement over having a child is a deal-breaker, unless one party gives in before resentment takes over.
March 21, 2009
When you reach out with compassion, the big picture has new meaning.
March 20, 2009
An abusive environment needs to be changed, or left behind.
March 19, 2009
Nurturing old trust issues is a sure way to wilt a current relationship.
March 18, 2009
With a “dual-personality” partner, consider the weight of the bad behaviour, against the good.
March 17, 2009
Workaholics are often driven by reasons they don’t even know, yet their behaviour affects whole families.
March 16, 2009
Love only conquers all, when lovers can conquer their own obstacles.
March 14, 2009
An “ex” in the picture means complications, period.
March 13, 2009
Serial relationships require time between, for reflecting, and re-energizing to move forward.
March 12, 2009
The views of friends on your relationship are only opinions, not instructions.
March 11, 2009
Even in a tough economy, love counts most.
March 10, 2009
You can stop a soap-opera relationship, by not playing your role in it.
March 09, 2009
When a partner experiences a parents’ decline, be prepared for his/her period of private pain.
March 07, 2009
When a child of divorce is alienated from one parent, it takes patience and persistence to regain a connection.
March 06, 2009
When your home situation causes more misery than support, it’s time to work towards striking out for yourself.
March 05, 2009
A relationship with the wrong person can leave you lonelier than before.
March 04, 2009
Relationship patterns that leave both sides dissatisfied (and alone) need to be revised for a different age.
March 03, 2009
When relationship doubts arise, be certain you know their source.
March 02, 2009
“Taking” more than “giving” usually leaves loneliness as its payback.
February 28, 2009
Combat racism with hope and determination, not despair.
February 27, 2009
The demands on a single, working parent aren’t easy, but the kids will respond better if they’re not made aware of resentments.
February 26, 2009
Bearing another man’s child is NOT a secret that can stay uncovered for long.
February 25, 2009
When a bad relationship appeals more than a good one, it’s a self-directed problem that needs investigation.
February 24, 2009
If you date with a deadline, you’ll miss out more than your timing.
February 23, 2009
When a partner’s under terrible pressure, it’s time for support, not complaints.
February 21, 2009
When a charmer comes on too strong, stay cool and wary.
February 20, 2009
Complicated relationships require delicate handling over time.
February 19, 2009
Children need time to build trust and feel accepted when there’s a new “step-parent” in their lives.
February 18, 2009
An affair on the run can never be a full relationship.
February 17, 2009
It’s not always the differences that matter, but the way they impact on your life together and children, that demand changes.
February 16, 2009
Young relationships are part of a learning curve to help you develop good judgment about potential partners.
February 14, 2009
On this Valentine’s Day, remember to give love to someone as well as hope to receive it.
February 13, 2009
When you act selfishly and irresponsibly, no relationship can thrive.
February 12, 2009
When bad choices are your pattern, it’s time to look inward for the causes and for change.
February 11, 2009
Divorced parents can best maintain a balance of influences on their children by keeping communication open with the kids and exes.
February 10, 2009
A divorced parent needs a partner who accepts his/her responsibilities to another family.
February 09, 2009
When there’s dirt to be spread about your ex, keep your mouth closed and your conscience clean.
February 07, 2009
When you’re hit with multiple losses, you need to push yourself to gather your inner strength to move forward.
February 06, 2009
When you suspect an affair, ask important questions about your own relationship.
February 05, 2009
After you’ve called for a break-up, be careful not to send the wrong messages through over-involvement.
February 04, 2009
In a union involving different languages, both sides have to meet halfway.
February 03, 2009
Opposites often attract, but they still have to work at staying together.
February 02, 2009
Parenting is a joint project, requiring collaboration, not judgment.
January 31, 2009
Surviving an affair requires mutual understanding and joint work, not gritty revelations.
January 30, 2009
A bullying relationship trades on dependency and fear, not love.
January 29, 2009
When your close pals settle down, enjoy their families as part of the friendship.
January 28, 2009
A break between relationships is crucial for the self-reflection needed to improve your own behaviour patterns.
January 27, 2009
When your personal standards feel compromised, consider your options.
January 26, 2009
Family and close friends deserve your compassion when they’re hurting.
January 24, 2009
When you love someone, helping him/her should be a selfless act, not about winning.
January 23, 2009
When a relationship is blocked by a single issue look for the silent problems.
January 22, 2009
Courtship should be about your commitment
January 21, 2009
Marriage deserves an actively positive effort at survival, rather than silent withdrawal.
January 20, 2009
Close friendship with a boss should be enjoyed outside workplace situations, more than in view of co-workers.
January 19, 2009
When raising children becomes an obstacle to a happy marriage, rather than a mutual bond, it’s time for couples’ counselling.
January 17, 2009
When helping another becomes more an act of enabling than a positive gesture, excuse yourself from the task.
January 16, 2009
When everything you know about someone is wrong for you, fantasy won’t make it right.
January 15, 2009
Before you accuse a partner of indiscretions, be sure you have more facts than jealousy.
January 14, 2009
When you agree to have a fling, don’t expect long-term commitments.
January 13, 2009
If you always seek parents’ approval, they’ll expect that it rules.
January 12, 2009
When the dating period is problematic, start talking instead of planning ahead.
January 10, 2009
Tough love is as much about love as setting limits.
January 09, 2009
Going the distance to give someone a second chance, is the true test of friendship.
January 08, 2009
A pre-nup now, can avoid disaster later.
January 07, 2009
Waiting around for a married lover is often a sure way to keep him/her happy with both the spouse and the fantasy.
January 06, 2009
When there’s a child involved, prove you’re worthy of a second chance.
January 05, 2009
Don’t let resentments that can be avoided build into a family rift; instead, change your plans.
January 03, 2009
A partner’s grief deserves compassion and sensitive response.
January 02, 2009
When examining your relationship, be sure you’re judging fairly.
January 01, 2009
If you always have a me-first attitude, you’ll keep winding up alone.
December 31, 2008
What I wish most for all, is a year of good health and hopefulness.
Happy New Year!
December 30, 2008
When a couple have widely divergent personalities, there have to be compromises, to make the relationship work.
December 29, 2008
Hard times call for new attitudes and personal resources, plus closer partnering in relationships.
December 27, 2008
Repeated anger signals a need for help, or creating distance.
December 26, 2008
In tough times, relationships need love and mutual resolve, without resentment.
December 24, 2008
Happy Holiday Season to all!
December 23, 2008
Regular explosive temper is an alarm for change of some kind.
December 22, 2008
When a friend requires distance, back off.
December 20, 2008
Don’t waste time wishing for heat in a cool relationship.
December 19, 2008
When children are involved, imbalances in a relationship can become more evident and difficult to bear.
December 18, 2008
Don’t ascribe the same “player” motives to a whole group, as seen from one transparent affair-seeker.
December 17, 2008
When sex is being withheld, look to ALL the causes, not just the one that’s blamed.
December 16, 2008
When all the signals clearly say “it’s over,” don’t hang on.
December 15, 2008
Support someone who’s depressed by knowing where to turn in a crisis.
December 13, 2008
The economy demands changes, even in relationship patterns.
December 12, 2008
A “break” can sometimes show support, without closing doors.
December 11, 2008
The decision to have children should be negotiated as soon as possible, and not come as a surprise ton the other partner.
December 10, 2008
Moving in together is a new phase for both parties; the adjustment takes time and compromises,not controls.
December 09, 2008
When in-laws have a strained relationship, the adult child “in the middle” is hiding from taking action.
December 08, 2008
Secrets and lies contrived to maintain friendships with the opposite sex, will ultimately destroy your current relationship.
December 06, 2008
You can’t change the nature of a relationship without expecting the dynamics to change, too.
December 05, 2008
When carrying leftover feelings for an ex-love, stay cool and sober when meeting up.
December 04, 2008
When a relationship’s development is controlled by one person, resentment will take over.
December 03, 2008
A partner’s employee is on separate turf from your relationship.
December 02, 2008
When parents disapprove of an already-troubled relationship, try to negotiate rather than resist.
December 01, 2008
Once the relationship is over, it’s not worth re-living the misery by re-hashing the blame.
November 29, 2008
When porn comes between a relationship, it’s a crowd going nowhere.
November 28, 2008
Relationships require a willingness to exchange routine for renewal.
November 27, 2008
When sex is over, the emotional bond may also be gone; time to explore why and consider whether to exit.
November 26, 2008
Get to know potential dates, rather than make instant assessments.
November 25, 2008
When a married lover doesn’t speak of love, face reality instead of dreams.
November 24, 2008
Trust starts with communication, and requires the ability to negotiate and accept compromise.
November 22, 2008
Grief emerges in many different ways, even in the same family, and all deserve some understanding.
November 21, 2008
Relationships between people with children and ex’es requires honesty, commitment and thoughtful arrangements.
November 20, 2008
When a tattoo can end a relationship, it’s a symbol of greater differences.
November 19, 2008
Family tiffs are enough to bear, without one’s partner refusing to offer some support and understanding.
November 18, 2008
A sexless marriage has a history and a cause, which two people need to explore honestly and openly.
November 17, 2008
A return to past relationships can trigger worse results, if positive change isn’t evident.
November 15, 2008
Young adults moving toward independence need their parents’ trust as well as support.
November 14, 2008
Change is proven by actions, not words.
November 13, 2008
The unpleasant realities you discover through snooping need to be aired, along with your own questionable behaviour.
November 12, 2008
Laziness isn’t “catchy;” it’s a choice you can refuse to follow.
November 11, 2008
Estrangement from children should be a last resort after trying all paths to mutual acceptance.
November 10, 2008
Brides who focus on their valued relationships more than wedding hype, stand to benefit far beyond their Big Day.
November 08, 2008
Clinging to a troubled relationship increases the problems - while taking a break can bring change.
November 07, 2008
You can forgive a toxic relationship without having to resume it.
November 06, 2008
When someone dominates every issue with anger or silence, the relationship is beyond an easy fix.
November 05, 2008
Running away from a loving relationship, based on fear and past experiences, usually leaves one alone and increasingly bitter.
November 04, 2008
Nasty insults after a divorce are rarely believed.
November 03, 2008
Compromise is a mainstay of strong, lasting relationships, so long as it’s not one-sided.
November 01, 2008
Marital problems require discussion and search for solutions, not knee-jerk responses to drama.
October 31, 2008
Happy Hallowe’en! Safety first makes the fun far more lasting!
October 30, 2008
When a partner undergoes huge emotional changes, the other needs to acknowledge them rather than just expect things to be the same.
October 29, 2008
When life becomes a soap opera, it’s time to change the reality.
October 28, 2008
Personal growth sometimes comes after losses; the process is tough but the end result often leads to greater self-knowledge and peace.
October 27, 2008
A marriage in which one partner has friends with benefits, usually becomes an unhappy crowd.
October 25, 2008
When two parents love each other, they should put raising their child together ahead of fears of commitment.
October 24, 2008
When a casual “pen pal” pressures for a relationship that requires a visa, be wary and get well-informed.
October 23, 2008
When you have serious doubts, examine the relationship and decide.
October 22, 2008
A troubled marriage can’t be worked on – even with counselling – if one partner is knocking on another door.
October 21, 2008
Communication in a serious relationship isn’t just “talk”- it’s sharing, confiding, listening. And it’s crucial.
October 20, 2008
In a marriage, there’s no such thing as “private” stresses; even when you try to hide them, they affect both parties.
October 18, 2008
If your sex life isn’t satisfying one or the other partner, it’s a couples’ problem that needs to be addressed.
October 17, 2008
Drug abuse affects the whole family; get informed about its impact and weigh your options.
October 16, 2008
Parents who ignore the same rules they set for their teens, often have a rude awakening.
October 15, 2008
Having sex simultaneously with more than one partner often brings consequences that can’t be hidden.
October 14, 2008
“Friends with benefits” is a service, not a relationship with a future.
October 13, 2008
When a partner is constantly involved with family or friends, look closer at your relationship together.
October 11, 2008
The role of a stepparent is to support a partner in child rearing, with long-term committment.
October 10, 2008
When one person’s doing all the giving, without any getting, the “match” isn’t fair.
October 09, 2008
When depression appears likely, get pro-active for your partner.
October 08, 2008
The time when a couple is expecting a baby can be sensitive for both; get closer and mutually supportive.
October 07, 2008
When circumstances require you to act as the parent to your parent, be pro-active and understanding rather than indulgent.
October 06, 2008
If contacting someone years after a relationship, acknowledge past mistakes, then deal only with the present.
October 04, 2008
First romance is the start of a learning curve, not a place to hang around if it isn’t working.
October 03, 2008
Talking sense to the gossipmonger is a better path than passing on the dirt.
October 02, 2008
Alone time must be balanced with couple time; but if there are no compromises, the relationship is in question.
October 01, 2008
Intimacy and involvement in the life of someone you know is wrong for you, is a set-up for trouble.
September 30, 2008
Other people’s relationships may be flawed, but so is being judgmental about them.
September 29, 2008
Staying friends with an ex is fine, if it doesn’t push a partner away.
September 27, 2008
Passion that’s directed at winning someone away from another, often fades once the goal is reached.
September 26, 2008
When a relationship reaches a stalemate, someone has to take the courage to ask the right question.
September 25, 2008
When “time and space” from a serious relationship is taken, it needs to a deadline for either a firm commitment or a break-up.
September 24, 2008
Outing yourself to family is a personal story, to be handled with respect for them as well as for yourself.
September 23, 2008
If an opposite-sex friendship doesn’t include your partner sometimes, it’s open to controversy.
September 22, 2008
A relationship based on “rescuing” a partner from mental health issues, is unhealthy for both parties.
September 20, 2008
Ex-lovers should put some space and time between their former passion and being just friends.
September 19, 2008
Staying with someone when you feel trapped, only traps the other person too.
September 18, 2008
Dealing with difficult teenagers often requires re-defining everyone’s roles in the home.
September 17, 2008
When a romance goes flat, don’t dwell on false hopes.
September 16, 2008
When a romantic relationship with a friend appears to be too complicated, stick with what works- the friendship.
September 15, 2008
Vulnerability and loneliness often lead to poor relationship choices.
September 13, 2008
Old friendships with new intentions are best avoided by people already in serious relationships.
September 12, 2008
In dating relationships, one style does not fit all.
September 11, 2008
Interventions are a delicate task, and must be carried out with full knowledge of the best possible practices.
September 10, 2008
A break provides the chance to make a thoughtful decision, rather than hanging on until a nasty break-up.
September 09, 2008
When seriously dating a person who’s living with their children, be prepared to be a family, not just a couple.
September 08, 2008
Marriage counselling can only help if both parties are determined to work at it.
September 06, 2008
Chronic anger is often more harmful to the person feeling it than to the one to whom it’s directed.
September 05, 2008
Difficult work relationships often require a paper trail plus a plan of action.
September 04, 2008
When an affair is an escape from reality, it’s doomed to fail in the light of day.
September 03, 2008
Differences of values are far more problematic than differences of opinion.
September 02, 2008
When children from previous unions are rejected by a new partner, re-think the relationship.
September 01, 2008
Self-knowledge and acceptance are important factors in becoming confident in your relationships.
August 30, 2008
Grandparents’ role is to be supportive but not to interfere or take over the adult child’s responsibility.
August 29, 2008
When a partner is openly running toward trouble, it’s time to draw a line in the sand.
August 28, 2008
Clutter can be a symptom of more than a mess, and should be looked at from several perspectives.
August 27, 2008
When the “best friend” tries to come between a couple, they need to unite in setting limits on her.
August 26, 2008
If it looks wrong and feels wrong, your instinct is likely right, that it’s wrong.
August 25, 2008
When relatives consistently play upsetting mind games, limit your exposure.
August 23, 2008
The people who broke your heart years ago are unlikely to be the ones to mend it decades later.
August 22, 2008
Fidelity can only be quantified over time, but persistent paranoia about it eventually needs to be addressed.
August 21, 2008
When you’re being pushed into an uncomfortable situation, change it to one you can handle.
August 20, 2008
In the dating world, when you play off two people, the outcome often leaves you home alone.
August 19, 2008
Company policy can be better questioned, if you get thoroughly informed.
August 18, 2008
Mutual sexual comfort as well as satisfaction, requires both parties to communicate and compromise.
August 16, 2008
Adult children should be prepared that staying under the parental roof means abiding by parental rules.
August 15, 2008
If you can’t take the heat, stay out of the limelight.
August 14, 2008
Excusing drunken misbehaviour assures repeat performances.
August 13, 2008
Outlandish tales in relationships usually get revealed as plain lies.
August 12, 2008
Even a dog-lover has the right to put personal property out of bounds.
August 11, 2008
Muddy relationships drag everyone involved into anger, resentment and regrets.
August 09, 2008
Friendship should mean caring about other people, not just about what you want from them.
August 08, 2008
You can’t push a relationship into your own plans; you can only hope that both of you will adjust your plans.
August 07, 2008
Love that smothers doesn’t allow room for the other person’s feelings.
August 06, 2008
If you always accept the same situation, others will expect it to continue.
August 05, 2008
A “problem drinker” is one who’s alcohol consumption creates problems – personal, and/or for others.
August 04, 2008
Loose Lips is an unattractive and destructive trait that can easily end relationships.
August 02, 2008
When the grief process gets stuck in depression, counselling is needed.
August 01, 2008
Food debris from another’s mouth should be avoided like any other germ missile.
July 31, 2008
The year of adjustment after a major loss should NOT be clouded with unsatisfying relationship choices.
July 30, 2008
Being repeatedly called by the ex-‘s name raises questions of intent, not insult.
July 29, 2008
“Hit and Run” lovers lose more than they gain out of any relationship.
July 28, 2008
“Nice Guys” generally outlast the “Bad-Boy” types who flash into hot relationships and fizzle out when their true nature is revealed.
July 26, 2008
“Divorcing” children experience more pain, with less coping skills, than their parents.
July 25, 2008
Three early-dating Relationship Rules to handle glitches without overreacting: Restrain, Re-Evaluate, Relax.
July 24, 2008
Parents need to present a united front on their core values – from household responsibilities to deception, as well as attitudes on alcohol and drugs.
July 23, 2008
When two people carry old baggage, one has to drop it first to see if there’s a chance for a future together.
July 22, 2008
Discouragement by a parent can be enough of a debilitating factor to qualify as emotional abuse.
July 21, 2008
When the healthy shy away from understanding severe illness, it’s usually self-protection, not lack of caring.
July 19, 2008
Expressing concern and insecurity through jealousy is the way to harm, not help, a relationship.
July 18, 2008
Be careful when suggesting an unproven medical diagnosis to explain a problematic relationship.
July 17, 2008
Betrayal’s nasty after-taste can be wiped away by current happiness and relief at losing the jerk.
July 16, 2008
Getting parental approval is important, but honesty and maturity are crucial to the relationship.
July 15, 2008
When a parent holds the strings on an adult child’s life, it’s hard to have a mature couple partnership.
July 14, 2008
When house-hunting with a partner, the strength of the relationship is even more important than the value of the house.
July 12, 2008
You can’t turn an old, immature relationship into a current love story without personal change.
July 11, 2008
You can’t run away from past mistakes, but must confront why they happened and how to prevent them in future.
July 10, 2008
Relationship problems need more than labels such as “trust issues”… they need to be talked out in details and truths.
July 09, 2008
When one partner experiences difficulties, you can expect the other to also need to recover.
July 08, 2008
Seeking sex elsewhere, is a sure way to turn a relationship into a thing of the past.
July 07, 2008
A baby’s arrival demands an immediate reality check to an affair.
July 05, 2008
When an adult child’s behaviour is unusual and worrying, a parental push for health care may be crucial.
July 04, 2008
Friendships with the opposite sex do not have to be worrisome, unless a spouse is constantly being left out of the loop.
July 03, 2008
Keeping smooth relationships with everyone raising the kids of divorce, requires overlooking minor incidents.
July 02, 2008
When family harmony vs bridal will, choose what you can handle AFTER the wedding.
July 01, 2008
Have a wonderful Canada Day!
June 30, 2008
Partners who expect their spouses to labour full-time both at work and at home can, like dinosaurs, expect extinct relationships.
June 28, 2008
True love at first sight is a blessing best recognized in retrospect.
June 27, 2008
Better to confront family hostility while living, than leave a legacy of it.
June 26, 2008
Explaining divorce to children is a process that requires a parent to try to form their own understanding too.
June 25, 2008
Let a friend complain about his/her partner before you do.
June 24, 2008
Grief can cause turning points in life, but must be handled emotionally before making dramatic changes.
June 23, 2008
The hurts of growing up need not shadow your ability to see yourself as the adult you are.
June 21, 2008
When generosity to family becomes an expected handout, time to re-examine the budget and the relationships.
June 20, 2008
When what you’ve done before isn’t working anymore, don’t blame on others OR yourself….try something different.
June 19, 2008
When a perpetually unhappy person poisons a relationship, an antidote is needed - one-way or another.
June 18, 2008
Withholding sex in marriage is an unfair escape from the partnership, often sparked by depression and life changes.
June 17, 2008
When a relationship is entered into because of insecurity, it’s insecurity that will split you apart.
June 16, 2008
Relationships are often destroyed by too much drama as reaction, instead of seeking solutions.
June 14, 2008
Children cannot “fix” their parents marriage problems, it’s an impossible burden to try to bear.
June 13, 2008
When you rely on a parent as a babysitter, you automatically invite some involvement in your life.
June 12, 2008
For long distance relationships to become full-time partnerships, both parties have to be willing to make changes.
June 11, 2008
Part of achieving a “work/life” balance is recognizing your own priorities.
June 10, 2008
People blinded by love, often face rude awakenings in the light.
June 09, 2008
Bearing bad news about others’ relationships can drag you into the midst of their troubles.
June 07, 2008
A relationship that has to be monitored through snooping is more stressful than it’s worth.
June 06, 2008
Keeping a “secret” that’s likely to shock a partner is unfair and unhealthy for everyone involved.
June 05, 2008
Anyone who carries the herpes virus has a moral obligation to be open about it with a potential sex partner.
June 04, 2008
You can’t expect a partner to change unless you’re willing to improve your own contribution to the relationship.
June 03, 2008
Even in times of financial stress, relationships need to be nourished, so you can face the challenges together.
June 02, 2008
It’s “too much information” when a friend’s relationship pre-occupies too much of your own life.
May 31, 2008
When a crush is persistently troublesome, change the circumstances that created it.
May 30, 2008
When a relationship is troubled from the start, re-think the choice or find a fresh approach.
May 29, 2008
A dishonest, sneaky relationship rarely thrives over the long-term.
May 28, 2008
Health issues can create relationship stress.
May 27, 2008
Commitment fears are sometimes the result of age and lifestyle, and are more easily overcome as time brings changes.
May 26, 2008
Mixed marriages, in face of opposition, require confidence and conviction, as well as commitment.
May 24, 2008
When a workplace romance fails, carry on with your head held high, and your hurt kept private.
May 23, 2008
When a spouse has addiction problems, find the resources available to him/her as well as for yourself.
May 22, 2008
When you give an ultimatum, be prepared to accept its consequences, or work very hard to turn it around.
May 21, 2008
When a phone is the third party in your relationship, it’s time for couple communication.
May 20, 2008
It doesn’t bode well for a relationship, if you have to convince someone to “settle” for you.
May 19, 2008
Long-distance relationships require a consistent extra effort to stay connected.
May 17, 2008
In-law problems often reflect underlying resentments on either or both sides. Communicate, and compromise.
May 16, 2008
When close friends or family are splitting, stay caring, but out of “the middle.”
May 15, 2008
Beware of the too-easy offer of “a perfect affair” – it’s a deal doomed to fail.
May 14, 2008
When people confide things of which you thoroughly disapprove, speak up early or you’ll risk the bond between you.
May 13, 2008
When the marriage planning takes away all time and enjoyment from the relationship, re-think what’s your main goal.
May 12, 2008
Parents need to get their child-rearing act together before they start a power struggle over the kids’ behaviour.
May 10, 2008
When a relationship looks future-bound, it’s time to air out major differences such as those around having children.
May 09, 2008
Beware of Reno Reality: it can expose more need for repairing the marriage than the house.
May 08, 2008
NEVER have unprotected sex with a partner you don’t know well.
May 07, 2008
There are few universal conclusions about the effects of divorce versus unhappy marriages; instead, there are individuals, their specific problems and how they handle them.
May 06, 2008
Sometimes the best “help,” comes from backing off enough for people to figure out how to help themselves.
May 05, 2008
Parents must speak up on behalf of a child’s emotional well-being, even if it means affecting the marital relationship.
May 03, 2008
“Distancing” can be a natural adjustment in dating, or a step out the door.
May 02, 2008
Don’t overreact to a partner’s feelings of natural jealousy, when there’s a logical reason triggering it.
May 01, 2008
When a man only wants to make babies but not hang around to raise them, he’s giving you more responsibility, not a gift of love.
April 30, 2008
The nostalgia of an old romance can be seductive; be mindful of the present and all the other people involved.
April 29, 2008
Divorce isn’t pleasant, but when children are involved, a shutdown of communication worsens the situation.
April 28, 2008
When fear of rejection persistently blocks normal functioning, professional therapy may be necessary.
April 26, 2008
When a baby’s arrival triggers a clash of generations, those with maturity and wisdom should back off until the sensitivities settle.
April 25, 2008
When a “partner” keeps treating you like a visitor in his/her life, it’s time to reassess the relationship.
April 24, 2008
Amateur researchers should not consider their instant knowledge about serious illnesses to be definitive, nor specific.
April 23, 2008
When a relationship is going well, don’t push your needs as more important than the other person’s…find the balance.
April 22, 2008
It’s an old adage that still holds true in romance: Little things mean a lot.
April 21, 2008
Different generations sometimes see children’s issues differently, but parents must always protect their kids.
April 19, 2008
When distance is only an excuse, take stock of where the relationship is really going.
April 18, 2008
If you stay in the background, don’t be surprised when someone else steals the limelight.
April 17, 2008
Couples with small children need to work out a time for having sex and intimacy or risk losing that important bond.
April 16, 2008
When there’s a standoff disagreement in a relationship, look at the needs of both sides before making dramatic decisions.
April 15, 2008
When the clues to potential cheating keep adding up, it’s time to sum up the relationship.
April 14, 2008
Long distance relationships can only last if there’s also a balance of time spent together.
April 12, 2008
A successful union usually melds two separate people and their behaviour patterns into a workable, comfortable team.
April 11, 2008
Wedding planning raises many emotions; it’s not a wise time for family standoffs.
April 10, 2008
The tale-bearer who informs a friend of betrayal by another friend, is likely to end up outside of this group.
April 09, 2008
A constant flirt’s attention-seeking often becomes more tiresome than attractive.
April 08, 2008
When a partner’s past, finished relationship is the cause of your depression, the problem likely lies within you more than him.
April 07, 2008
In-law troubles are rarely resolved by running away; recognizing your own part in the conflict starts the process.
April 05, 2008
Saving a young person from serious harm outweighs most other considerations.
April 04, 2008
When you march to your own drummer, don’t be surprised at finding a different beat.
April 03, 2008
Stay neutral in a marital split or expect to lose at least one friend.
April 02, 2008
Divorce requires much thinking through and preparation, not just the dream of another’s arms.
April 01, 2008
Happy April Fool’s Day! Remember: The day’s pranks can be fun, but not when they’re at the expense of another.
March 31, 2008
A partner’s sudden flight from the relationship usually comes after a long period of warning signs.
March 29, 2008
In a marital split, there’s inevitably hurt and anger on all sides.
March 28, 2008
Escaping a marriage through a fantasy affair only brings “distance” until the realities of divorce hit home.
March 27, 2008
When in-laws clash, the solution lies in learning how to handle each other’s personalities and changing your reaction to de-fuse the situation.
March 26, 2008
Sounding alarms on a friend’s new relationship, can end up backfiring on the friendship.
March 25, 2008
Living together without connection is a lonely set-up for everyone.
March 24, 2008
When a child of divorce is marrying, putting up with ex-relatives is how parents show support and love.
March 22, 2008
A spouse is your equal, someone to encourage, rather than browbeat with your information.
March 21, 2008
Memories of past relationships can carry important lessons for future ones.
March 20, 2008
Consider physical pokes and other horseplay, as a warning signal, if a partner doesn’t stop because it hurts you.
March 19, 2008
Ongoing financial ties with an ex, are often issues for new partners.
March 18, 2008
It’s unfair to distance yourself from parental criticism, without trying to show support for your partner who IS affected by it.
March 17, 2008
A romantic pitch can’t just be about what you feel; you need to find out what the other person wants from love.
March 15, 2008
While snooping is wrong, sometimes the evidence found is more significant than the method of discovery.
March 14, 2008
If you respond to suspicions with betrayal, you have to recognize that you’re both flawed and need to re-connect from scratch….if possible.
March 13, 2008
When one partner’s sexual energy far outdistances the other’s, it’s time to talk about it and make some compromises.
March 12, 2008
Coming out can’t be pushed to someone else’s deadline; it’s a turning point that must come from within.
March 11, 2008
Adjusting to the fallout of divorce takes time and a positive outlook, even about big changes.
March 10, 2008
When a relationship has more stress than shared enjoyment, it’s time for The Talk about whether it’s worth staying together.
March 08, 2008
Moving forward means not being afraid to look back.
March 07, 2008
Don’t turn a negative experience into a lifelong saga of woe; real life is what you make of it.
March 06, 2008
When working for a negative boss, take positive steps to boost your own outlook.
March 05, 2008
When a partner shows unusual anger and judgment towards an in-law, the problem sometimes rests in the couple’s relationship.
March 04, 2008
When fury persists over an old relationship, it means you need to forgive yourself, more than the other person.
March 03, 2008
A broken heart over a break up often reflects anger at oneself, as much as the other person.
March 01, 2008
When battle lines are drawn down the marital bed, the fight isn’t about love and babies.
February 29, 2008
When you’re unhappy at home, poaching on someone else’s happiness isn’t the answer.
February 28, 2008
Breaking up IS hard to take, especially if you wallow in the past.
February 27, 2008
When major decisions are based around only one partner’s needs and feelings, the “team spirit” is bound to fade.
February 26, 2008
Teenage relationships come with huge emotional swings, requiring parents to set out boundaries and protections.
February 25, 2008
Sneaking around to see an ex is demeaning to the couple’s relationship.
February 23, 2008
Allowing a serious marital problem to persist, for fear of confrontation, only creates a later firestorm.
February 22, 2008
An affair is sometimes only an escapist interlude, and not a desire for divorce.
February 21, 2008
Major life decisions such as whether to have children aren’t always final.
February 20, 2008
When there’s a “secret somebody” barring the doorway to a date, the person you want is not free.
February 19, 2008
When sexual drive lessens, look for reasons and solutions, rather than blaming or giving up.
February 18, 2008
When a child is born from a spouse’s affair, that child’s well-being is more important than the anger of any adult involved.
February 15, 2008
No marriage vow should bind someone to accept true abuse; safety comes before all other negotiations.
February 14, 2008
Happy Valentine’s Day – an opportunity to celebrate all the loving relationships in your life!
February 13, 2008
Do not approach a problem with a bullhorn and bat, when a quiet conversation might just work.
February 12, 2008
In a loving relationship, one partner must not act superior.
February 11, 2008
Adult table manners are a sensitive topic: Guide, but don’t lecture.
February 09, 2008
Power struggles aren’t about the actual topic, but about whether two people can solve disagreements.
February 08, 2008
All relationships have peaks and valleys; find ways to appreciate the ordinary times, and to occasionally renew the spark.
February 07, 2008
“Are you going to have children?” is NOT a casual question; it’s intrusive and None of Your Business.
February 06, 2008
Children of addicted parents can benefit from support groups, and may also need professional help.
February 05, 2008
When your values are totally different, it’s time to cool the friendship.
February 04, 2008
When doing “everything” for another isn’t working, change your whole approach.
February 02, 2008
When a relationship is hugely different from what you expected, make sure you can deal with the consequences.
February 01, 2008
When watching porn interferes with a relationship, the tension can easily build towards a break-up.
January 31, 2008
Speaking up is the way to insist on a partnership; staying silent will eventually lead you to flee.
January 30, 2008
A long distance relationship cannot thrive on suspicion and drama.
January 29, 2008
Look for the way into a difficult discussion through recognizing what factors could’ve created the problem.
January 28, 2008
The first involvement after a major break-up is often the Transition Romance, but not the last one.
January 26, 2008
Happiness that’s self-centered can become a lonely one-way street.
January 25, 2008
When a separation is inevitable, so is the need for learning your legal rights and responsibilities.
January 24, 2008
When you find yourself going down the same path with each relationship, examine how you make your choices.
January 23, 2008
Grandparents need to respect their children’s rights to raise their kids as they choose, so long as there are no abuse issues.
January 22, 2008
Daydreaming about “the one that got away” can be destructive to holding onto the one you chose instead.
January 21, 2008
When suspicions take over your ability to enjoy a relationship, it’s time to be pro-active about your next move, rather than wait for calamity.
January 19, 2008
Co-parenting with an ex – along with his/her new spouse - takes putting criticisms last, and your child’s comfort level first.
January 18, 2008
Long distance relationships require efforts and plans by both sides for contact and visits.
January 17, 2008
“Breaks with rules” are usually a signal that the relationship just isn't working.
January 16, 2008
When any problem makes you feel hopeless, call your local distress centre immediately to re-connect with all that’s worthwhile in yourself.
January 15, 2008
Secrets and lies are destructive to a marriage, they never “save” the situation.
January 14, 2008
Confronting a former abuser, personally, should only be done after counselling has made you stronger within yourself.
January 12, 2008
In-law problems can destroy all the relationships in a family. For my personal help with tough in-law situations, see my reality TV show, “Outlaw In-laws” on Slice TV.
January 11, 2008
When a sporadic, platonic friendship with someone of the opposite sex creates jealousy, the problem is usually with the relationship, not the friend.
January 10, 2008
Intimacy is the glue between a loving couple; when it’s withdrawn, usually other aspects of the union have become unstuck.
January 09, 2008
Talking someone into a relationship, over their doubts, is a set-up for an unequal union.
January 08, 2008
A foolish flirtation can become a positive turning point in a marriage, if both parties recognize what’s missing.
January 05, 2008
The “40s” are often wake-up years that point to what needs changing in your life.
January 04, 2008
When dating seriously, previous close relationships take on new meaning if you fail to mention them.
January 03, 2008
In a new relationship, listen and absorb what your potential partner is really saying.
January 02, 2008
Family pressures need to be addressed before a controversial relationship can be introduced.
January 01, 2008
Big mistakes in a relationship aren't easily forgiven, if ever, but learning from them offers a chance at future happiness.
December 31, 2007
Double standards in a relationship leave one partner feeling unfairly treated.
December 29, 2007
Sometimes the issue you’re arguing about is a smokescreen for one much deeper.
December 28, 2007
Sometimes the right signals are there but people are afraid to recognize them, since it means they must act.
December 27, 2007
Assess who might prefer time to absorb a break-up, before making “goodbye” gestures.
December 24, 2007
It’s never too late to learn to get along, where children are involved.
Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays!
December 22, 2007
When one or both partners let intimacy diminish, it’s a sure signal of deeper issues that need to be discussed.
December 21, 2007
Keep your Christmas spirit alive and real by not building impossible expectations.
December 20, 2007
When relationships are entangled with money and property, get legal advice.
December 19, 2007
After a miscarriage, partners need to support each other, not grieve alone.
December 18, 2007
Rushing into a next relationship after a messy divorce, makes adjustments even harder, especially for children.
December 17, 2007
Children are a worthy reason to try to make a union work, but not a reason to stay together if it can’t work.
December 15, 2007
Repeated cheating is a risky way of filling needs, especially when you don’t know what you’re seeking.
December 14, 2007
Keeping a reasonably neat home is a job for both working parents to figure out by mutual agreement.
December 13, 2007
Medical research by lay people is best cross-checked with trusted, knowledgeable medical experts.
December 12, 2007
How people treat their own parents and in-laws, is the lesson they teach on family connections.
December 11, 2007
When a bad relationship involves physical threats, safety should become the main focus, especially for children.
December 10, 2007
It’s dangerous to idealize the past and return to an ex whom you already realized wasn’t right for you.
December 08, 2007
“Friends with benefits” means two people have agreed on a sex-only relationship and understand why – otherwise, one party is being used.
December 07, 2007
When a partner’s making excuses to see someone else, it’s time to confront.
December 06, 2007
When a partner lets circumstances interfere completely with the relationship, it’s time to probe further who’s In and who’s Out.
December 05, 2007
Treat a loan to relatives like any other business matter and get a signed note promising re-payment.
December 04, 2007
You can’t move forward confidently with your own life if you’re pre-occupied with bitterness from the past.
December 03, 2007
Rushing into sponsoring for immigration an unmet internet “love,” is as likely to burn you as playing with fire.
December 01, 2007
A divorced parent is less effective in helping a child’s relationship with the other parent, if using controlling ways.
November 30, 2007
When one incident threatens an entire marriage there’s usually a deeper issue that needs to be addressed.
November 29, 2007
When a crush interferes with your ability to seek normal relationships, it’s an unhealthy situation.
November 28, 2007
Be prepared that snooping often raises bigger relationship issues than were suspected.
November 27, 2007
When problem relationships become a pattern, you need to examine your own choices and reactions.
November 26, 2007
When an adult child is deceptive and insensitive, trust is broken.
November 24, 2007
You can’t choose a partner’s relatives, so decide together how to handle them.
November 23, 2007
Acting insensitive to your partner’s feelings can start to erode a relationship.
November 22, 2007
An ultimatum is often added pressure at the worst time.
November 21, 2007
A gem from the past can be too glittery to hang onto, if it disturbs your new partner.
November 20, 2007
Office gossip about someone’s partner being gay can be dangerous to both long friendships and jobs.
November 19, 2007
Partners who are left alone too often may become vulnerable to people who seize the advantage.
November 17, 2007
Differences in relatives’ personal food choices needn’t be a recipe for family divisiveness.
November 16, 2007
A relationship with constant “win or lose” discussions, always leaves one party dissatisfied.
November 15, 2007
Don’t let past “mistakes” obstruct the success of a good relationship.
November 14, 2007
An active, loving sex life can be one of the great connectors in marriage.
November 13, 2007
When it comes to protecting your child, trust your gut.
November 12, 2007
Children’s best interests do NOT include running their parents’ lives.
November 10, 2007
When someone’s opinions are always being forced onto you, the whole relationship is likely to be unequal.
November 09, 2007
An emotional affair may be more of a warning than a habitual pattern.
November 08, 2007
When a sexual “problem” affects a relationship, it’s sometimes more about the relationship than the sex.
November 07, 2007
The signals given during dating are often Early Warning Signs that need to be fully understood.
November 06, 2007
Compassion and compromise are necessary in post-divorce weddings and second-time marriages.
November 05, 2007
The “fatal” mistakes in a marriage are the ones from which you flee, rather than learn and work to improve.
November 03, 2007
Trust returns through day-to-day behaviour, not through promises.
November 02, 2007
When more time is spent with pornography than with you, it’s time to go it alone.
November 01, 2007
In relationships, pushy equals needy and is usually a big turn-off.
October 31, 2007
Hallowe’en can be a fun, fanciful event, so long as children’s safety comes first.
October 30, 2007
Knowing your own part in a break-up, is the first step towards getting better at relationships.
October 29, 2007
“Don’t talk to strangers” is an old safety rule that still applies to getting close and personal electronically.
October 27, 2007
When there’s an ongoing issue between a couple, only compromise on both sides can save the relationship.
October 26, 2007
Revealing a partner’s innermost secrets is a no-no that can become a deal-breaker.
October 25, 2007
Being the Rescuer to an Abuser comes at too high a price.
October 24, 2007
Hiding from in-law problems with your spouse is unfair to everyone involved.
October 23, 2007
A continued power struggle in marriage either wears both sides down to misery or eventually causes a split.
October 22, 2007
To gossipmongers, your marital problems are pure entertainment.
October 20, 2007
Obesity is best approached as a health risk, rather than a relationship problem.
October 19, 2007
When someone is running your life, you may have given them the power.
October 18, 2007
A marriage that can end over “puppy wars” has other problems eroding it.
October 17, 2007
Loved ones deserve greater sensitivity and caring when they’ve been through a trauma.
October 16, 2007
Show adult children understanding for their need for separate space and routines.
October 15, 2007
Compromises sometimes have to be re-worked over time – but not through sudden whim.
October 13, 2007
Email contact isn’t evidence of cheating, but secrecy indicates a problem with trust.
October 12, 2007
Don’t expect trust from someone you once betrayed, until you’ve proven your renewed commitment.
October 11, 2007
When depression becomes the overriding response to problems, professional help is needed immediately.
October 10, 2007
When a dating relationship creates persistent anxiety, explore the roots of your reactions.
October 09, 2007
When a married person doesn’t want a friendship to “go further,” back off any other expectations, for everyone’s sake.
October 08, 2007
Don't snitch on bad behaviour, try to influence change.
October 06, 2007
Different moral values can eventually mean different, and unacceptable behaviour – better to start a relationship knowing you’re both on the same values page.
October 05, 2007
When a partner repeatedly ignores “the problem” you raise, he or she IS the problem.
October 04, 2007
Your family’s friendship with your “ex” sometimes calls for negotiations to assure everyone’s comfort.
October 03, 2007
Stay close and supportive to children on whom you can have a positive influence.
October 02, 2007
When a relationship goes stale, it’s the people who need to refresh their motivation, or move on.
October 01, 2007
When cheating becomes obvious, stop snooping and take action.
September 29, 2007
When a partner offers no ideas regarding a problem, the spouse often feels unheard.
September 28, 2007
The ongoing bitterness of an ex-spouse can harm a family more than the divorce.
September 27, 2007
Mature singles may’ve not married for a variety of reasons that should not be guessed.
September 26, 2007
When negative events cause a partner to retreat, professional counselling is usually needed.
September 25, 2007
An extramarital affair is always risky, but secret sexual encounters with a same-sex lover is like playing with matches and dynamite.
September 24, 2007
An ex may be a friend, but a partner comes first.
September 22, 2007
A critical attitude toward another’s family, while dating, adds more stress than solutions.
September 21, 2007
A relationship gets too costly to bear when only one side is paying emotionally as well as financially.
September 20, 2007
Children generally feel that their parents’ sex life is “Too Much Information.”
September 19, 2007
A loving partner doesn’t listen to family insulting you.
September 18, 2007
Relationships kept in the dark often don’t survive in the light.
September 17, 2007
In-law troubles can break up a family, if there aren’t boundaries against intrusions and control.
September 15, 2007
A relationship based on one person always giving in, is headed for trouble.
September 14, 2007
A partner who indulges in deceit and demands is dangerous to your self-esteem and well-being.
September 13, 2007
Staying with a guy who’s trolling for others, says more about you than him.
September 12, 2007
Starting a serious relationship with a secret is a recipe for living with tension and fear.
September 11, 2007
Use this anniversary of tragedy and loss, to acknowledge the loved ones in your life and the importance of your relationships.
September 10, 2007
When you stoop to snoop, you may end up fighting shadows in your own mind.
September 08, 2007
Moving forward after a bad break-up means being open to new possibilities, showing interest and being interesting.
September 07, 2007
Hostile post-divorce relationships can cause more harm to children than to either spouse.
September 06, 2007
When emotions from a past divorce interfere with sex in a relationship, it’s time for professional help.
September 05, 2007
Living with suspicion and insecurity is counterproductive - damaging to the very relationship you wish to secure.
September 04, 2007
Low libido is a problem that both partners need to address with intention, not blame.
September 03, 2007
Partners who’re always giving “lessons” in behaviour, are usually controllers, not teachers.
September 01, 2007
When a partner is haunted by old baggage, no relationship can thrive.
August 31, 2007
A relationship that exists only in one person’s mind, is not real.
August 30, 2007
An online “friendship” isn’t a romance until you start dating in person.
August 29, 2007
An affair is an affair, and can’t necessarily predict the potential for a happily married union.
August 28, 2007
When a snorer’s in denial, a tape recorder can provide the wake-up message.
August 27, 2007
Living together in conflict and tension is often counter-productive to the goal of family unity.
August 25, 2007
Forgiving a past affair isn’t enough, if you constantly remind your self and your partner about it.
August 24, 2007
It’s an old adage but it rings true in relationships – keep doing what you always did, and you’ll always get the same result.
August 23, 2007
Emotions run high enough at wedding time, without letting old, contentious issues become related to the event.
August 22, 2007
When a partner’s trust has been betrayed, it’s inevitable that other resentments will surface.
August 21, 2007
In-law problems are never helped by childish tit-for tat reactions.
August 20, 2007
Decisions about having children shouldn’t be made in fear.
August 18, 2007
When a lazy habit threatens a relationship, it’s time to shape up and change the pattern.
August 17, 2007
Bad marriages needn’t be life sentences, if you actively seek help in fixing or changing the situation.
August 16, 2007
Looking sexy sometimes is a treat for your partner, so long as you’re not trying to be a copy of someone else.
August 15, 2007
If you suspect you’re leading someone on, you are.
August 14, 2007
When one partner’s drinking has the other partner suspicious and judgmental, that’s a drinking problem that needs to be addressed openly, and together.
August 13, 2007
A cheater can reform through understanding what motivated him/her, and how to replace that behaviour.
August 11, 2007
Single parents need to seek potential partners who are supportive to their responsibilities to their children.
August 10, 2007
Pushing your relationship on others is often a sign of neediness and/or insecurity.
August 09, 2007
While some romance breakups are expensive financially, they’re object lessons in learning to exercise character judgment even when dealing from the heart.
August 08, 2007
Divorce doesn’t just end a marriage; it also opens up unexpected possibilities, whether good or bad.
August 07, 2007
Paranoia can destroy relationships and self-esteem unless treated at its root cause.
August 06, 2007
A relationship at any age has many of the same needs as previous ones, especially for compromise.
August 04, 2007
Resolving in-law issues often involves getting objective help to see the part played by all the parties involved.
August 03, 2007
Closure of a relationship doesn’t necessarily come to you from another person’s explanation; it comes more surely from within yourself, when you accept that it’s over.
August 02, 2007
Accepting that a relationship is over often requires distancing yourself and your judgment from the other person’s choices.
August 01, 2007
When an extra-marital affair goes sour, it’s likely the whole situation that’s not working.
July 31, 2007
Being friends with benefits only works if both parties are sure they’ll not later want more commitment.
July 30, 2007
When an ex comes up with rules for staying “friends,” you can expect there’ll be further demands.
July 28, 2007
When an ex-spouse gets married again, it's time to drop unnecessary contact (except regarding children) unless it's mutually comfortable.
July 27, 2007
A close friendship can develop into a relationship, but only if at least one party takes the chance to raise the possibility.
July 26, 2007
The family harm caused by substance abuse requires thoughtful, long-term repair.
July 25, 2007
An imbalance in a couple's sexual needs should be addressed and negotiated, before it puts the whole relationship at risk.
July 24, 2007
When jealousy strikes, work at rising above it rather than let it defeat you.
July 23, 2007
When a spouse shows little commitment, the partner has to decide what he/she can't accept.
July 21, 2007
Raising children is a choice that’s best made from a basis of love, not need.
July 20, 2007
Long distance relationships can’t survive without communication that’s sensitive to each others’ feelings.
July 19, 2007
You can’t repair a marriage if you’re distracting yourself with work and playing around.
July 18, 2007
When someone has reciprocal feelings for you, they somehow let you know.
July 17, 2007
When a friend sets out on a trouble-strewn path, a warning is better than turning away.
July 16, 2007
Bitterness over separation agreements eventually affects children; learn your rights and deal with them.
July 14, 2007
A repeat pattern of ending relationships through suspicions should trigger self-reflection and/or counselling on ways to change.
July 13, 2007
When there’s a major boost in finances, couples need to share the responsibilities as well as the joy.
July 12, 2007
An adult child can effectively give an unfaithful parent a needed wake-up call.
July 11, 2007
When discussing the next big step in a relationship, make sure you both hear and agree with each other’s expectations from it.
July 10, 2007
Sometimes you have to let an ex go, to help them move on independently.
July 09, 2007
If the idea of an open relationship seems enticing, be sure you think through all the consequences.
July 07, 2007
When a contentious issue is beyond solution, it often becomes the deal-breaker in a relationship.
July 06, 2007
A mutual friend has no ownership over the new buddies' friendship.
July 05, 2007
When a couple's time is constantly intruded upon, they need to discuss setting boundaries, and why the interference was permitted.
July 04, 2007
If an ex fires up sparks, there's risk of burning through your primary relationship.
July 03, 2007
A small mistake can become a huge headache, unless you handle it quickly and openly.
July 02, 2007
Forgiveness of a past betrayal is admirable, but accepting ongoing put-downs is self-defeating.
June 29, 2007
A marriage entered into without love or companionship is an arrangement that's bound to become dissatisfying.
June 28, 2007
When it's impossible to communicate, couples need professional counselling.
June 27, 2007
Divorce is not the logical solution to outside stresses and should be decided after other crises are handled.
June 26, 2007
When a difference of opinion is a potential deal-breaker, weigh your choices.
June 25, 2007
A double life usually leads to double the hurt all around; it's better to choose.
June 23, 2007
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June 22, 2007
When practical solutions don't resolve a household standoff, counselling is needed.
June 21, 2007
No matter how self-protective a lie may be, it's ultimately bound to have a negative effect on a relationship that you were dishonest.
June 20, 2007
When a potential partner acts like a carefree, irresponsible single, you can expect to be leaned on for the serious matters.
June 19, 2007
Changes in sexual desire usually have a reason that needs exploring, rather than a threat of escape.
June 18, 2007
Loving step-parents should be celebrated.
June 16, 2007
Serial relationships don't leave time for learning from the past.
June 15, 2007
Intrusive in-laws take a great risk of eventually being left out.
June 14, 2007
A romantic escape is often the clue that your reality needs to be changed.
June 13, 2007
It's up to the adult child to set boundaries with critical parents.
June 12, 2007
Sometimes, the messes you created have gone too far to fix, and the people you betrayed should be left alone.
June 11, 2007
When parents' rules seem strict, try various compromises, but always prove yourself worth their trust.
June 09, 2007
When a family member risks serious trouble, be direct, not passive.
June 08, 2007
Family support needs to be positive and encouraging, not critical.
June 07, 2007
When a partner seeks flights of fantasy it's time for the whole relationship to undergo a reality check.
June 06, 2007
Abusive relationships are destructive to everyone involved.
June 05, 2007
Sometimes it's the little things that signal warnings of far bigger relationship problems.
June 04, 2007
Every relationship involves obligations, yet some need to be weighed against personal unhappiness.
June 02, 2007
The Rescuer is often NOT the person turned to for a next equal partnership.
June 01, 2007
Don’t return to an old relationship expecting it to be exactly the same.
May 31, 2007
When a partner seizes power, refuse to be dominated.
May 30, 2007
Advice should be geared to solutions and improvement, not to judgment and punishment.
May 29, 2007
Questioning one’s own sexual orientation is a personal quest that requires time for acceptance and adjustment.
May 28, 2007
A good therapy relationship requires a good “fit” and a willing client.
May 26, 2007
Discussions about a pre-nuptial agreement should always be guided by a professional advisor.
May 24, 2007
An emotional relationship may be the real thing, or an escape from reality.
May 23, 2007
The most important factor about an age difference is your comfort level with it.
May 22, 2007
When parents dump their marital problems on grown children, make them responsible for their own lives.
May 21, 2007
Being a "friend" doesn't come with a right to judge or burst the other person's bubble in deeply personal matters.
May 19, 2007
When a flirt is met with the annoyance of both partners in a couple, the challenge fizzles.
May 18, 2007
Since you're judged by the company you choose, judge yourself accordingly.
May 17, 2007
Secrets and lies will eventually create more trouble than the image you tried to invent.
May 16, 2007
It's an unfortunate reality that addictions often play havoc with relationships.
May 15, 2007
Creative planning can turn a relationship crossroads into a bonding opportunity.
May 14, 2007
When one partner won't compromise, be prepared that tough issues will always lead to pitched battles.
May 12, 2007
Some long-term promises, if broken, will destroy the relationship they seek to secure.
May 11, 2007
You cannot be your brother's keeper, only a ready support when wanted.
May 10, 2007
Intimacy takes closeness and openness that sometimes requires time to flourish sexually.
May 09, 2007
Grandparents are an important source of support for their grandchildren, but can lose their opportunity if they act as meddlers.
May 08, 2007
A "tipster" on someone else's relationship is otherwise called a troublemaker.
May 07, 2007
When a family relationship is toxic, weigh the benefits you wanted against the troubles you're experiencing
May 05, 2007
Relationship chat about who’s paying for what needs to happen between the couple, without gossipy input from outsiders.
May 04, 2007
Parents' sexual secrets shouldn't be disclosed to children who aren't mature enough to handle the information.
May 03, 2007
A loveless marriage can be lonelier than living on your own.
May 02, 2007
Snooping is a sure way to express your own distrust and turn curiosity into trouble.
May 01, 2007
Despite a family break-up, do not destroy the worthwhile links that still exist with your most important relatives.
April 30, 2007
For adult children, financial support from parents sometimes comes with too high a cost.
April 28, 2007
Workplace dating that seems problematic from the start, is better off avoided.
April 27, 2007
Inviting an ex-spouse to the wedding is a decision that belongs only to the bride and groom, and should be made early enough not to build false expectations in anyone involved.
April 26, 2007
A first kiss is only an introduction, not a do-or-die performance.
April 25, 2007
On issues of child support and asset-splitting, learn the legal rights and responsibilities of both sides.
April 24, 2007
The work of maturing from a teenage romance to a responsible child-rearing couple often needs guidance.
April 23, 2007
When one partner holds back, the other often pushes harder for a commitment.
April 21, 2007
A dating gripe site needs to be read with an eye for others’ personal motives.
April 20, 2007
Smokers need their own motivation to quit; loved ones can only be supportive to those efforts.
April 19, 2007
An innocent rose shouldn’t be soured by jealousy.
April 18, 2007
Sexual turn-ons between two consenting adults require mutual comfort, as well as agreed limits.
April 17, 2007
A gentle outreach to get to know someone better, can open the door for later contact.
April 16, 2007
Rather than leave children with a troubled parent, the other parent should first try everything possible to improve the home atmosphere.
April 14, 2007
When there's an obvious lie, privacy is a secondary issue.
April 13, 2007
Secret relationships often have a way of suddenly exploding into full view.
April 12, 2007
The therapist/client relationship has to feel like a good fit on both sides.
April 11, 2007
When every sound from a partner is off-putting, listen closer to your own heart.
April 10, 2007
Moving in together is not a "fix" for existing doubts about a relationship.
April 09, 2007
Gossip about a family's private details can reap destructive results.
April 07, 2007
In-law problems can't get resolved if the person who's upset has a spouse who stays detached.
April 06, 2007
When a marriage is troubled, look to major repair work instead of picking at sore spots.
April 05, 2007
Family interference in adult relationships often pushes the relative further away.
April 04, 2007
When major life changes put stress on relationships, professional help can ease communication and understanding.
April 03, 2007
Some kinds of personal risk-taking are too much for a partner to bear.
April 02, 2007
Relationships are not best achieved by choosing "either/or."
March 31, 2007
Internet love affairs are a beginning, requiring personal meetings to become real.
March 30, 2007
Small-stuff critiques can erode a relationship.
March 29, 2007
Differing lifestyle expectations can destroy relationships.
March 28, 2007
Teenagers’ angry behaviour is sometimes a covert cry for help.
March 27, 2007
Lending money frequently can ruin a relationship.
March 26, 2007
Email slip-ups can create havoc in relationships. Think first.
March 24, 2007
When a partner handles money matters secretly, it's time to discuss more than the budget.
March 23, 2007
Mutual sensitivity is a must in any relationship.
March 22, 2007
A cheater can change, if he/she has the will and self-knowledge to do so.
March 21, 2007
You can't test a romance for long-term possibilities if there's a third partner in the picture.
March 20, 2007
Do not let friends dictate your loyalties, according to their whims.
March 19, 2007
Stirring up an old emotional can spread the sadness further.
March 17, 2007
When a partner's porn-watching is disturbing to you, it's no longer a private matter.
March 16, 2007
Letting friends know of their body odour is a favour to them as well as yourself.
March 15, 2007
When children change their normal behaviour, explore what prompted it.
March 14, 2007
You can avoid the hoopla of a birthday, but it's foolish to try to avoid your age and stage.
March 13, 2007
Going after someone else's full-time partner, is looking for trouble.
March 12, 2007
Finding a date/mate takes trying new approaches and showing flexibility.
March 10, 2007
When you have strong suspicions, odds are you need to discover some facts.
March 09, 2007
Before sharing your credit card, check out the reasons for being asked.
March 08, 2007
Rejecting a partner sexually is a sure way to not achieve the improvements you seek.
March 07, 2007
Not confronting a relative’s repeated racist remarks is tantamount to accepting them.
March 06, 2007
Shyness can sometimes be helped by enriching your own life and interests.
March 05, 2007
The solution to a loveless marriage requires thoughtful weighing of options.
March 02, 2007
You can't force someone to quit smoking, but you can show how much you care for their health.
March 01, 2007
It's never too late to apologize again for a mistake.
February 28, 2007
Don't let family/social niceties interfere with protecting your child from aggression.
February 27, 2007
When a partner can't accept your responsibility to children, you're facing a deal-breaker.
February 26, 2007
Until a couple has The Talk, there are chances for misunderstandings and confusions about their relationship.
February 24, 2007
Relationship “solutions” that are tossed out in rage usually create far worse problems.
February 23, 2007
When a whole household is troubled, there’s more than one solution needed to calm it.
February 22, 2007
There's more to finding a partner than scoring high as a catch.
February 21, 2007
If you let a pet peeve grow unresolved, you may end up with less friends and bigger problems.
February 20, 2007
Don’t let fear blind you to how far you’ve come away from a difficult past.
February 19, 2007
No relationship can thrive when one partner’s self-interest always comes first.
February 17, 2007
When divorce is unavoidable, look to the children's best interests first.
February 15, 2007
Cultural and/or age gaps can be bridged, so long as others' disapproval doesn't win out.
February 14, 2007
Hope and optimism are necessary companions, if life is to move forward from tougher times.
February 13, 2007
Improving your self-esteem is an ongoing voyage of discovery and learning.
February 12, 2007
If you want people to ignore your bad record, you need to show you're improving it.
February 10, 2007
Cheating just for kicks is a habit that dies hard.
February 09, 2007
Focus on your positive attributes to increase confidence in all areas.
February 08, 2007
When a partner’s anger becomes destructive, and change is unlikely, it’s time to save yourself.
February 07, 2007
Non-custodial parents often need a support network to help them handle their feelings of loss.
February 06, 2007
Parenting etiquette involves common sense and consideration of others, along with your child’s needs.
February 05, 2007
The more open you are to making friends, the more you broaden your network for eventually meeting someone with whom you connect romantically.
December 31, 1969
An unscheduled surprise encounter should NOT lead to a personal interrogation session. People who want you to know they’re separated, pregnant, engaged, re-located, etc., will speak up and tell you so. The rest just want to exchange basic pleasantries, and are happy with, “Its great to see you again.” If you feel a desire to re-connect, suggest you get together for a coffee, lunch or whatever, in the near future. You’ll know by the response whether there’s mutual interest in really catching up, or this meet-n’-greet is enough for now.
December 31, 1969
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